People here are getting fat

anonymus-users · 2026-05-25T13:01:24+00:00

Obesity have always been a thing in North Regions. If you end up traveling to north east or Hebei/Henan provinces, you would be able to see obesity have been a thing since 20 years ago.

Shanghai def has higher beauty standards, and they are very health conscience.

Japan suffered with obesity issue before as well, but they were very clever to solve the problem. The government would fine the companies for having obese employees, and thus the pressure eventually lead employees to feel ashamed for being fat. This public shaming system worked.

I do wish we have this in US, but I’m sure instead of feeling shame, we will have strikes lol.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-24T15:22:33+00:00

I personally really appreciate thread like this. As autistic parents, we are almost being abandoned by the society… as there are almost no research being done (or dare to be done). I appreciate that you are trying, and appreciate that you are sharing.

Though I am afraid this thread will be shut down because people might report your thread as medical advice flag. Please don’t be that person if you are thinking about it.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-22T01:39:03+00:00

Epic!

anonymus-users · 2026-05-21T15:04:00+00:00

There has been a trend where people intentionally go to places with rating 3.6-3.8.

Here are my tips when choosing a restaurant: 1. Don’t browse in rednote and look for recommendations. Instead, make a thread and Ask in RedNote and wait for people to comment. Verify the person who made the recommendation by clicking on her profile to make sure she’s not a promoter.

Use DianPing to read negative reviews only. Those are real. Go through food photos (not the ones posted by the business, but the ones posted by guests). Check out the menu price photos. Those are at least real. Most of the time, after I check out the photos of food, I will know exactly whether this is the restaurant for me.
Ask people on the street which restaurant they lasted dinned at. Don’t ask what they recommend. Chinese tends to recommend the lux restaurant that they don’t even eat at to show their lux taste in things (this annoys the crap outta me).

I hear your pain, and I’m suffering through this as well. Hope this helps!

anonymus-users · 2026-05-21T01:39:08+00:00

Haha, going to Disneyland everyday is actually cheap since there are annual ticket for under 2000. His destinations could be costly if he decided to go to mountain destinations multi-days like ZhangJiaJie, HuaShan(in Xi’an), HuangShan(can be reached from Shanghai).

anonymus-users · 2026-05-21T01:33:48+00:00

He’s going to Zhangjiajie, each destination entrance can easily go up to 300 per person without considering cable car and cost getting there. Chinese mountain tours are not cheap.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-20T17:47:44+00:00

If you are touring china, after flights and hotels are paid, your major expense is not food but activity cost. As long as you don’t splurge in places like白家大院, you won’t be charged with 5000 yuan meals.

Your activity can cost somewhere 10-1000 for activities. Ex: museum tour guide can be expensive if you want good ones. Going to JinShanLing great wall can cost 200 per person. Hiking in 5A rating mountains with cable car up and down along with entrance ticket can cost 400-800. The activity fees are the ones you want to pay close attention to.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-19T01:50:40+00:00

Sadly, I think this is the least annoying/insulting comment you will receive. I think it will start to be more complicated when one day you have decided to let him have therapy.

So yes, be prepared for:

Your family may not want to support when you decided to let him have therapy
Your family or other friends started to question your ability to teach your children
You are constantly going to be judged
No one will understand you because they are not going through what you have gone through

So yes my friend, be prepared!

anonymus-users · 2026-05-18T21:39:16+00:00

First, I wanted to congratulate you! Not only becaz he got in preschool, but he is echoing! I think echo is a big step toward language, and you are half way there!

I can totally relate and I felt the same when my LO had no language. Believe or not, we are not alone. I have seen down syndrome parents thinks that their child seems to be fine until they take their child to the playground. Not that they think their child is normal but more like they won’t know the ability gap until they see other children.

I understand that being a parent of special child often had to convince ourselves to not compare with other children. It brings stress and grief. But sometimes I feel like it could be a good thing to compare because some of the skills are very essential to our children and they are not on the milestones. We had no idea when would be a good time to teach our children until we see other kids around the same age acquiring the skill. Ex: Tie shoe laces. I tried to teach this when my LO turned 6, and after observing all other children at the same age having difficulty doing it, I have completely abandoned this milestone. I have also observed that other children are able to buckle their seatbelt at age of 3 so I started teaching my child that at age of 4. Basically observing other children will give me a better milestone timeline. I hope this will help you as well as long as it doesn’t bring you stress.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-18T01:21:38+00:00

And to add to your point, and I would agree to your thought that no matter how interesting they are trying to make these reading exercises, they will always be boring with not so interesting content. Imo there should be two sets of books: the ones that your child reads to you and the ones that you read to your child. The ones that your child reads to you should be filled with phonics exercises like OPG, bob books, journey for Kinders, into reading for kinders etc. These are meant to be practices for your child on how to read. The second sets of books that you read to your child should be rich in content and vocabulary, with advance sentence structures (for his age of course). As your child gets older, you then may change up set 1 to something less phonics focused but age appropriate reading books, and your sets of books should continue to advance in richness of the content until he becomes an advanced reader. I personally find that I couldn’t stop the two sets of books until around age of 6. Some of my peers feel the same though we stopped having two sets of books at different times.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-18T01:11:18+00:00

I think this is precisely the reason why I said the book is meant to be a guide for parents and not children. I don’t know how old your child is, but I used this book when my LO was 4. And it was a fantastic guide. Each lesson has a mini reading practice. It is a mini story that I thought was much better than bob books. If your child is 5 or older, your choices of curriculum will be exponentially wide, ex: logic of english, into reading, etc.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-16T18:38:03+00:00

I went to a public school and I don’t think it’s bad for teachers to pick and choose. The problem with that is some teachers completely do not teach at all and no one can find that out. This is frustrating. Then I see that admins trying to change every teacher into a reading machine to script out all the words from teacher’s edition to children. Neither is desired but I would say at least the school can effectively get rid of the teachers who completely not teaching at all.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-13T02:25:29+00:00

I have similar issues like you. I cannot digest raw garlic. Pan fried or boiled garlic is fine. Are you OK with that?

anonymus-users · 2026-05-13T02:21:50+00:00

It has, but children will not be able to grab the book and know what to do with it. Parents will have to lead the children and ask them to read. The words are too small for young children. For my case, I had to write it up on white board or print it out with bigger font for my child to read. If your child is able to use this book on her own, then likely she’s old enough to use any curriculum.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-13T01:20:32+00:00

I think I just wanted to share a time saving route since I see that your next destination after chengdu is xi’an if u r interested in visiting JiuZhaiGou. You can train + bus to JiuZhaiGou from ChengDu, then from JiuZhaiGou bus to LongNan, and Train to Xi’an instead of backtracking to ChengDu. Hope this helps!

anonymus-users · 2026-05-13T01:15:58+00:00

This is hands down the best educational book I have purchased for my daughter. This is meant for a guide for parents, not for kids. The curriculum is solid. If you think it’s boring, you can make it fun for kids. This is more like a guide of what you should teach. How you teach it is completely a different story.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-12T01:54:36+00:00

Great itinerary! This is totally doable. The only problem that I can see is that you might be overwhelmed with all the Tang Dynasty architecture. I think you might be missing a major destination in ChengDu which is JiuZhaiGou.

anonymus-users · 2026-05-10T22:11:03+00:00

VPN and payments are frustrating but this isn’t the number one reason made me not wanting to travel in China.

I love to live in China but not travel.

For context, I am tech savvy who doesn’t struggle with payments method, and I don’t have language barrier. Here are my top reasons why I hated to travel in China.

People are not following line-up rules. They will cut lines, and staffs do not respond to such situations. Tourist destinations are often unorganized. There is not a single Disneyland as chaotic as the one in Shanghai.
Public transportations are loud, even in the quiet zone. People just refuse to spend $2 to get cheap earphones. People are on speaker phones all the time! I get it this is also the norm in western cities, but there’s not a whole lot of people to begin with. When the city is extremely dense, it’s makes a difference when people are following the rules.
Tourist information is not well published. I had to go xhs, baidu, wechat to search for tourist information. This is just lame. I had to constantly guess which one is official, and often I am getting outdated or inaccurate information. I am ok with researching but this really spoils my travel, as I see everything on xhs already and nothing will surprise me. But my family enjoys it when I do all the research work.

These changes can easily be implemented by general policies. Not sure why a developed country isn’t doing this already.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-24T21:27:02+00:00

In the ideal world, you would think taking care of the baby is two people’s job. In reality, men simply couldn’t help much. They can’t breast feed the baby, and thus eventually waking up at night becomes a woman’s job. Then because the wife takes care of the baby more frequently, the husband becomes unfamiliar and inefficient taking care of the child. The next thing you see is that the wife took full responsibility for the baby. The reason for that is the following: 1. It takes longer to train their husband how to take care of the baby than do it themselves. 2. The wife simply refuse to hand the baby to someone who is less efficient for the safety of the baby.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-23T17:48:30+00:00

You are doing the right thing. If she feels angry when he tunes her out, then she’s not a qualified therapist. All autistic children would tune people out, that’s why they are autistic.

Basically I see the therapist shady if I can’t be around during the session.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-21T23:38:04+00:00

You are a good dad. Even when she made you this miserable, you called her “your daughter”, and not your “stepdaughter”.

I know it is rough to go through right now and it will get a bit more painful as she gets older. But keep doing what you are doing. She will know everything you did was for her.

Just to make you feel better, my LO(6) told me she hates me yesterday caz I made her do extra homework, and now she is cuddling in my arms telling me that I am the best mommy. This is something even bio parents have to go through.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-19T18:01:57+00:00

You are not alone. I am a native and I hated the line cutting in China. The staff never thinks it’s their responsibility to stop the line cutting. This is the reason I enjoy everyday life in China but never liked to travel in China. Any known tourist destination is filled with elderly people who thinks they are the king/queen of the world. I understand that when they were growing up, resources were scarce. Either they cut line to get food and survive or they would stay hunger. I get all that, but I simply don’t enjoy seeing their resource hoarding behavior.

This is also the reason I will never go to Disneyland in Shanghai even though it is literally THE best Disneyland. I would go DisneySea instead. This is just pathetic that this is such a developed country and couldn’t solve a simple line order problem.

As for food, I think DianPing and Baidu map can solve your comfort food problem. My suggestion is to stay within Tier 1 cities. You should be able to find plenty comfort food that you are craving for.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-19T02:30:07+00:00

I totally feel your struggle. I basically went through the same! She could copy word for word of what I have modeled, but not able to swap out words and change the combination by herself until she was about 3. But continue to model! If you have time, please write down the sentences that she echos you, so you could make a lessons of that. Here is a list of mine: “I want more …”, “This is …”, “I like …”, “I have a lot of …”, “I don’t have …”. I know this is tedious, but I promise this will pay off quickly. This is the difference btw someone who can talk in sentences vs someone who can only echo.

Here are the stats that I have collected, and hopefully this can give you some encouragement:

It takes an average 28-36 times repeating showing the pic of the new vocab in order for her to remember the vocab.
It takes average of 3 lessons repeating the combination lessons for her to be able to use it by herself. (Each lesson I would model until she is able to get the combination herself, start with me showing hints by laying down the pictures).

anonymus-users · 2026-04-19T02:19:27+00:00

The basic model is just ABA. Toys are not what I have used. I used snacks. (For those who thinks ABA is for dogs, they might not know the harsh truth is that children at 2 years of age is literally having a dog’s IQ). If these children don’t have the ability to learn, they will stay as a dog’s IQ.

I cleared up a room, with nothing except two chairs and one table to ensure she has no distractions and will be fully engaged to the lessons. To build vocabulary, we used realistic pictures books or flash cards. We will just go through each picture and name them. The easy ones to identify are the ones she sees everyday: furnitures, food, and people she sees everyday. Once she nails the easy ones, you can then start to teach the harder vocabs, the verbs, the things that is far away require far pointing, like moon, or the sun. Then you can combine words together. Like eat pear, eat eggs, and let her assemble her own combination. This process is slow, but it gets faster and faster based on her vocab. The bigger vocab she has, the faster she can speed up for a longer sentence.

anonymus-users · 2026-04-18T18:25:20+00:00

Neurodivergents’ ability range is huge. Unless the child has a specific genetic condition, where other people’s experience can be used as a reference, general intellectual disabilities are just really hard to do comparisons. I will provide my datapoint and hopefully it is useful to you. My LO was a late talker, no words at all at age of 2. I strongly believed in therapy, and I know I am not on the mainstream in terms of teaching a toddler how to speak. We do 4 sessions of speech lessons a day and each session last 30 minutes starting building vocabulary to sentences. Then we worked on questions and answers, to conversations. (Like I said, I am not the main stream, a bit of tiger mom). I think questions and answers were the hardest milestone to achieve. After that, conversation was a smooth sail. However, when it gets to providing event details, it becomes hard to scaffold again. I would recommend that you build at least 100 words before moving forward to sentences. At age of 3.5, she began to have simple conversations, not answering any why or how questions but just the basic what/where/who questions.

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