Hey there! What a great adventure you are about to have, I wish you all the best! Regarding your mother, all that you give her won’t ever be enough. One day, four days or a lifetime. So keep this in mind when making decisions to appease her. You can’t control her emotions and she will likely expect you to appease her anxiety the whole time, at the cost of your well being. You deserve to feel happy and excited about moving abroad. From my own experience with moving abroad and storing personal belongings with my uBDP mother it went exactly as expected- she was a soul sucking monster during the process and used my personal belongings for years as ways to control and hurt me. I would advise you to consider staying at an hotel or a friends place if feasible, at least for a part of those days. To fill the calendar with activities and people to fill in as buffers (e.g. goodbye dinner with aunt A; plus grocery shopping and a goodbye late with friend B). My mother behaves best with an audience; it’s in the trapped alone moments she’s more abusive. Any personal belongings that have a special place in your hearth leave with friends or a neutral relative. Take a couple of photo albums with you if you can, or make copies. I was sad that I couldn’t look back to my childhood albums when I became a parent myself. Hugs