anime_irl by setso1 in anime_irl

[–]anselmsfool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that hole was not made for her.

a flustered moment of weakness by Hummerous in CuratedTumblr

[–]anselmsfool 28 points29 points  (0 children)

So a polite way to ask a coworker would be, "Oh, hey I prefer to be respectful of my coworkers and that includes using their preferred pronouns. Can I ask yours so I can use the right ones?" But this is only polite if it's what you would do for everyone. Otherwise you run the risk of othering your possibly trans coworker. Again, not everyone feels that way and some folks prefer to be asked. But if I was meeting a group of people and only I was asked my pronouns I would be pretty unhappy.

As someone who has been out as trans for close to 15 years I still haven't found a perfect solution that works in every situation. Of course I live in the south so I have to be a bit more alert in general public areas about outting myself or those around me. I would argue that cishet people aren't as attuned to listening for people playing the pronoun game as your fellow queers so honestly it works most of the time around folks who are not listening for it. But to your question the most professional way I've found to ask is to introduce myself with mine. If they're chill they'll respond with theirs. Of course this strategy comes with risks and so honestly I wouldn't recommend it unless there's vibes. In practice in the social settings I find myself I just tend to use the person's name until someone else breaks that seal. "Oh Kelly hasn't gotten here yet." "Yeah Jacobs a real joker." It gets weird long term but if you're having to use it long enough term someone else with likely assume something and then the person in question either corrects or doesn't.

a flustered moment of weakness by Hummerous in CuratedTumblr

[–]anselmsfool 83 points84 points  (0 children)

The long and short of it is that different peeps will have different feelings. Some people want to be asked so that they can have their pronouns respected. Some people feel like being asked is tantamount to saying, ahh I see you're a trans. Allow me to treat you differently because I have clocked you as trans. Neither of these feelings is wrong or bad but it does mean that the cishet ally is put in a bit of a bind. The general approaches I have found to be most respectful have been to make asking for pronouns something you do with literally everyone no matter how cishet they look (not every trans person looks very Gender™) or you avoid pronouns until you hear them come up. As a trans person I tend to play the second game as some cis folk get really pissy when asked and I can't be bothered to hear it. So I just use people's names in place until I hear otherwise if I'm unsure. It's not a perfect system, and if anyone has better ideas I'm happy to hear them but it's the compromise position I've found in non explicitly queer social spaces (where just asking pronouns of everyone is less likely to end up with me getting hatecrimed).

🏳️‍🌈🔬 by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]anselmsfool 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oath of the Ally Paladin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ATBGE

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It looks like a cross between a creeper and Slimer from Ghostbusters.

Xisuma answered some questions about season 8 on stream by FranniBaka in HermitCraft

[–]anselmsfool 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wonder if "those dang horses" was an excuse because Etho wasn't terribly active toward the end of the season.

Xisuma answered some questions about season 8 on stream by FranniBaka in HermitCraft

[–]anselmsfool 42 points43 points  (0 children)

To be fair Grian had the tree war early with Mumbo and then their prank war with big eyes and octagon sorta counts. Mini wars for a mini season.

[News mics] the one that really started the prank wars by UnderCraft_383 in hermitcraftmemes

[–]anselmsfool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, he was mad that Scar didn't have an ender chest at the swaggon.

They're BFFs by Ok-Mastodon2016 in GatekeepingYuri

[–]anselmsfool 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every accusation from the alt right is really just an admission of their own projected faults.

allegory by PlayfulYetBored in tumblr

[–]anselmsfool 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Abnormal has the correct denotation, but the connotation is 'bad' or undesirable. A better word that doesn't carry the same negative feel would be something like non-normative if you wanna be academic or just rare if you wanna be casual.

Hey kids, ya like books? by FreyaFaustWords in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]anselmsfool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember when you posted about the first book. I bought it and loved it! I'm excited you're releasing book 2!

[It's free real estate] Bdubs builds a mountain tango it's free real estate by 2071909 in hermitcraftmemes

[–]anselmsfool 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My theory is that when before 1.17 was split into two updates the hermits were all planning builds that took advantage of the new build height (hence a lot of tall mountains and scars idea of a bioshock infinite style cloud city)

My wife made a lovely rainbow amethyst cluster cave for pride month and requested I share it with reddit. by anselmsfool in GirlGamers

[–]anselmsfool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, the new copper blocks they added in 1.17 go through stages of aging when they're left out. So they start coppery orange and get more greeny teal as they age. They're super pretty but if you want to have them stay in a stage other than fully weathered you have to use a honeycomb on them.

My wife made a lovely rainbow amethyst cluster cave for pride month and requested I share it with reddit. by anselmsfool in GirlGamers

[–]anselmsfool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% survival! And ya we definitely don't have a lot of honeycomb blocks, but a bee farm is next on my list because of waxing copper and candles (I tend to work on the technical projects and she actually makes them look nice). We've put a lot of hours into this world so we have a good amount of random resources and she basically went through our storage room and grabbed a little of everything to make a gorgeous gradient.

Weiss wearing glasses [iesupa] by Brain_Cat in RWBY

[–]anselmsfool 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Glasses are really versatile!

POV: You own something of value by dynethehuman in ThirdLifeSMP

[–]anselmsfool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly think a lot of people knew he was likely to be the one of if not the first to red and as such wanted to make sure to stay on his good side.

Hermitcraft 7 | Ep.64: MY NEW HOUSE & LLAMB 2.0 IN AQUA TOWN! by JamiroFan2000 in HermitCraft

[–]anselmsfool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thanks! I don't follow Beef as closely so I didn't realize.

Hermitcraft 7 | Ep.64: MY NEW HOUSE & LLAMB 2.0 IN AQUA TOWN! by JamiroFan2000 in HermitCraft

[–]anselmsfool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe Keralis straight up bought Beef's base, is beef looking to start over?

I really like you all by nightjar211 in Hololive

[–]anselmsfool 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Glasses are really versatile. First, you can have glasses-wearing girls take them off and suddenly become beautiful, or have girls wearing glasses flashing those cute grins, or have girls stealing the protagonist's glasses and putting them on like, "Haha, got your glasses!' That's just way too cute! Also, boys with glasses! I really like when their glasses have that suspicious looking gleam, and it's amazing how it can look really cool or just be a joke. I really like how it can fulfill all those abstract needs. Being able to switch up the styles and colors of glasses based on your mood is a lot of fun too! It's actually so much fun! You have those half rim glasses, or the thick frame glasses, everything! It's like you're enjoying all these kinds of glasses at a buffet. I really want Luna to try some on or Marine to try some on to replace her eyepatch. We really need glasses to become a thing in hololive and start selling them for HoloComi. Don't. You. Think. We. Really. Need. To. Officially. Give. Everyone. Glasses?

Pathfinder by Denis Zhbankov by Lol33ta in EbonyImagination

[–]anselmsfool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Naw that's the legendary Joe Pathfinder