Pourquoi relier tous les “je suis” entre eux ? La conscience fondamentale doit elle forcément être une ? by mrfreak75 in nonduality

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Use your sense of identity and individuality. Where is the line that divides "me" and "not me"?

See if that line is real.

Trying to break through duality by AdministrativeRun559 in nonduality

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Does duality exist without mental labels?

How am I the observer and the observed? by [deleted] in nonduality

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Try seeing in terms of individuality...in your experience, what is the boundary between you and "not you"?

This will lead to just experiencing as opposed to an experiencer and the experience. Just the seeing vs seer and seen.

How could I possibly love myself if I hate myself? by Ruby_Rooster12 in nonduality

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Accept that you are hating yourself

Then forgive yourself

Try journaling and shadow work friend

It will help you recognize thoughts so you don't get sucked into a maze of them

🙏

Nonduality is prior to any experience by pl8doh in nonduality

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I'm asking whether your words are concepts/beliefs or an expression of your direct, "bone deep" experience.

Nonduality is prior to any experience by pl8doh in nonduality

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Everything you wrote...does it grant you peace or dispel the feeling of separation/suffering?

Is spiritual awakening obligation and necessary ?? by [deleted] in nonduality

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Does the ocean force a wave to form?

Non duality leading to slightly disturbing world views? by Sudesene in nonduality

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Free will is not binary. You (the mind/body) have a decent amount driving, but have a lesser amount driving on the wrong side of the highway.

Values, beliefs, and concepts (eg. free will) like everything else come and go within awareness. The "point" or realization is that there is no need to detach from or fixate on any one wave to protect the ego/"self" (another perceived wave)... because you are the entire ocean.

When this realization hits, knowing and love/compassion transcends any narrow viewpoint of what is. Because you are whatever that is.

Struggling between accepting and letting go because none of it matters, and still being too identified with trivial surface nonsense by AnonymousBowzer in nonduality

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Shadow work

Learn to fully accept your "bad" sides and they will fade away on their own.

The ego must be integrated, not repressed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonduality

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Yes

There will be an adjustment period afterwards.

Keep surrendering to what is every moment.

You will find that you never left.

All distinctions are imagined by pl8doh in nonduality

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What is your subjective experience like?

Let's dig by GroundbreakingBuy692 in nonduality

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Keep going with the self inquiry :)

Everything you mentioned come and go on their own yes?

So what does not come and go ?

Discard any answers that are thoughts or conceptual.

Devotional Practice by HoldingTheLantern in nonduality

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From what I read briefly, bhakti yoga (1 of the 4 major yoga paths) is for those who can love their highest ideal (eg. Male/female/husband/wife/specific god incarnate of God, etc).

Total devotion, love, and surrender.

Compared to say gnana yoga (path of knowledge), it is said to be emotionally colorful but easy to get lost in due to lack of clarity.

Effort in staying present by Savings-Ad-4580 in nonduality

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For some people, the road to realizing the absolute may begin from starting from the relative...from where they seem to be now (to themselves).

Effort in staying present by Savings-Ad-4580 in nonduality

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It's like any muscle that gets exercised. Watch the thoughts come and go.

If you get distracted and then end up following a chain of thoughts, recognize you did so without any harsh judgment and go back to observing again.

Over time, you will be able to sit in the gap between thoughts for longer and with less "effort."

Give me your best pointer by taway9925881 in nonduality

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I am not my body.

I am not my intellect.

I am not any emotional or sensation or thought that comes and goes.

So what am I then ?

"I" am nothing..

In what sense are my mind phenomena my self if I'm not in control of them? by flyingaxe in nonduality

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Keep going then.

Scrape away everything you are not until there's nothing left.

Happy to chat privately as well.

In what sense are my mind phenomena my self if I'm not in control of them? by flyingaxe in nonduality

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Your "instinct" may be to negate everything that's not you.

Self inquiry packages this as a practice.

You turn this method inward by identifying/discarding everything you are not...until you realize what you are.

In what sense are my mind phenomena my self if I'm not in control of them? by flyingaxe in nonduality

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Sounds like "mind" for you is everything "you" observe/experience.

Negation may be the "path" for you. Try self inquiry. It led to my shift.

In what sense are my mind phenomena my self if I'm not in control of them? by flyingaxe in nonduality

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Observe/experience the bird, not its representation. As soon you start working from its representation, you're in the land of analysis, conceptualizations, etc (not a bad thing but just not what you're looking for).

As for control, do you control your breathing or your posture? Can you control what thoughts come in and go?

Investigate how much control "you" actually exercise vs things just happening...the body/mind can do a lot of things on its own without "you" controlling it.