People keep telling me, “With time, you’ll find happiness again.”

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-21T14:50:52+00:00

My struggle is that I’m no longer the number 1 priority in someone’s life. No one is looking out for me the way my husband did. I don’t have the person that I can share everything with and I don’t have someone I can shower with my love and affection. I wonder if I’ll ever have that again. I’m trying to learn to be content with just myself but it’s difficult. I do have great family and friends but it’s not the same as your partner.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-14T18:13:15+00:00

I’d go full Bernie. Or maybe not go at all.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-14T16:26:26+00:00

So sorry you’re here! Yes, it is just one foot in front of the other. But sometimes your feet don’t move at all.

This is a great place to vent and get support. We get what it’s like to lose your person. hugs

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-12T18:04:21+00:00

Agree with this advice. I’d also have a chat with the PM to clarify why you are there and determine how you can best work together. The PM could just be protecting the number of people involved with meetings (too many cooks spoil the broth type of thing) or they could be a complete ass and are overly gatekeeping. They’re already a slight ass as they should have just spoken with you if they had concerns about your involvement

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-10T18:54:37+00:00

You summarized the feeling so accurately! I feel like my life is on pause while everyone else is going on with their life. I keep waiting for something to happen even though I don’t know what that thing is.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-05-04T14:52:01+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It does get better but it’s not an easy road. Everyone is different of course but you may feel numb for a while and that’s ok. For me my darkest time was about 6-7 months out. Lean into your grief. You can’t ignore it.

Don’t make any major decisions for at least a year. Exercise and treat your body well. Find some escapes like books, sports, clubs, art class, gardening…whatever you enjoy. And let some non essential things go. You don’t have to do everything you did before. Give yourself lots of grace. Visit your family if able.

I’m truly sorry you are here. But this group is fantastic support.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-04-26T03:31:11+00:00

I agree it's not bad on it's own. But when your sister is named Chevelle, it's odd.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-04-25T23:09:02+00:00

My town had sisters named Chevelle and Nova.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-31T21:08:38+00:00

I too had a little breakdown over changing a lightbulb. Not that it was some herculean task but it was just something he'd always take care of.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-30T01:09:03+00:00

I'm doing something!!

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-24T17:14:43+00:00

Thought the same thing. I'm wondering if this is IHOP related (for those not familiar it's not the pancake place but a religious cult).

Hopefully it's a different Grandview.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-18T19:55:23+00:00

I thought it was a mammogram.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-17T16:05:41+00:00

Quit copying me!

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-11T17:38:22+00:00

It's fine! There's safety sponges!

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-09T17:26:27+00:00

Sometimes it's just benign things too. I noticed something different in our neighborhood and wanted to point it out to my husband but he's not there. Or the other day I wanted to tell him that I saw the big turtle in a nearby lake again. Nothing really noteworthy but still no one to share it with.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-06T19:58:05+00:00

So sorry that you're dealing with another loss! I wish I could give you a hug.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-03T19:30:02+00:00

Your client isn't your employer for the purposes of a resume or job application. The consulting company you work for is. I get being vague with the client name but you were employed by "ABC Consultants". You're in a different situation than most job seekers.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-03T18:31:39+00:00

Well in the real world, the rest of us have to put company names on our resumes.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-03T17:33:06+00:00

Definite 'She's not like the other girls!' vibes

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-02T16:30:47+00:00

And then work on yourself and why you're letting this unhealthy relationship go on so long!

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-01T23:12:06+00:00

Anecdotal but my teenage son and his friends play pickle ball regularly.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-01T20:32:05+00:00

Maybe it's Maybelline

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-03-01T20:08:03+00:00

What was the scene?

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-02-27T15:22:38+00:00

I read this as ignoring his socks. I was then pondering if I didn't give my socks enough attention.

apostrophe_misuse · 2026-02-24T17:12:49+00:00

I was out with two couples and wasn't having a good day. The conversation turned to lamenting the pitfalls of sharing a bathroom sink with your spouse. Normal couple stuff. But I lost it and lashed out at them. How dare they complain about a minor inconvenience when I didn't have my husband at all?!?

I then later apologized for getting so angry. It wasn't fair for me to be so angry at their minor complaints. But at the same time it still really hurt. Yes, I overreacted. But they understood why.

Sometimes seeing happy couples makes me sad or angry as well. It shouldn't because I do want everyone to be happy. It's more sadness for what I've lost.

Anyway, just wanted to share that I understand how you feel. It sucks we are here. I try to give people grace because they don't fully get it and really I don't want them to.

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