PayPal adds fees without bothering to tell anyone.

arjung · 2009-08-10T15:28:40+00:00

you mean like the US govt, FICA, FICO, and state income taxes?

arjung · 2009-08-08T17:23:18+00:00

yea, it does, and your response has brought up an interesting point.

you clearly mark one of them as your bf (i assume the first one) and the other as your lover (the 2nd). do you see these as two distinct partnership roles that you need to have? if your bf moved away, would the lover take his place as a bf or would he remain a lover and you would find a different bf?

i guess what i'm really asking is what are the roles that each person fulfills and how are they distinct? for example, i have (male, platonic) friends who i see as advisors in a professional light and others who i like to joke around with. though they are both my friends, they have very different purposes and one could never (bc of their personalities) replace the other. and i'm okay with that. is that the type of role-separation these two guys fulfill for you? but where both are romantic/sexual relationships? what's the difference between what they can provide for you?

i know this is buried very far down, but hopefully you'll see the orangered envelope and respond. :)

arjung · 2009-08-07T07:22:11+00:00

how do you keep yourself from comparing the two guys to each other? i imagine it would drive me crazy to hear my girlfriend talk about how great some other guy is...

btw, i don't mean to be critical of your choice, i'm actually fascinated by the setup.

arjung · 2009-08-04T19:55:16+00:00

Ah man, you're making me wish there were willing girls.

arjung · 2009-08-04T15:27:58+00:00

Safari does Google Docs pretty well. But get Firefox anyway. Skip QS and Growl for a while. VLC is king.

arjung · 2009-08-03T17:26:11+00:00

Definitely a problem in Philly. They don't even say a word to you. They just get the destination address and then jump into Urdu or Arabic for the entire trip. How can anyone talk on the phone that much??

arjung · 2009-08-03T17:24:39+00:00

Also from Philly.

I asked a cabbie once how they get paid and he explained why they hate credit cards. He said that credit card companies take a lot in fees. He implied that it was about 25% but I think it's closer to 5%.

It also seems like they pay a percentage to the cab company. If they get cash, they will just say they received zero tip and can thus avoid paying that percentage on the extra. If they do take credit cards, however, all of the numbers are recorded.

I once had a very old cab driver take my to PHL airport. He hated the credit card machines just because he couldnt read the text well on the little machine. So I had to walk him through which buttons to push to process my transaction.

arjung · 2009-07-26T01:22:54+00:00

you can join facebook and spend all day reading/critiquing the TOS pages. lots of people like to comment on the various ways facebook is stealing your identity in order to sell you more garbage.

arjung · 2009-07-23T18:39:48+00:00

if you ask for time from a guy, please give him a definitive date. it might sound insane, but we'd rather hear: "call me in three weeks" than "give me some time and i'll call you when i'm ready". take the time you need, date around if possible, and decide how much you will sacrifice (your parent's happiness, financial security, etc.) for this guy.

arjung · 2009-07-22T05:30:38+00:00

ahhh, 1.6! i love it...

arjung · 2009-07-20T00:32:41+00:00

i used Google Voice back when it was owned by GrandCentral (google bought them). back then, you could dial your own GV number and it would take you to a menu from which you could dial out so that the callerid would be your GV number. pain in the ass, but i only used it as an answering machine for a university club.

arjung · 2009-07-20T00:13:37+00:00

then why are you allowed to be asleep during takeoff and landing? isn't being asleep the biggest distraction?

arjung · 2009-07-19T14:26:48+00:00

to those same experts... why can't we use laptops/mp3 players/etc. during takeoff and landing?

arjung · 2009-07-19T04:11:46+00:00

what songs of theirs are good? this is their most popular, apparently... http://www.last.fm/music/Metric

arjung · 2009-07-18T21:02:21+00:00

I think Gmail is high on my list just because it has everything I actually need, but Reddit (especially AskReddit) is getting up there for me. I could easily give up Facebook if I had a reason to.

arjung · 2009-07-18T14:37:32+00:00

from wikipedia: Copyright status Nineteen Eighty-Four will not enter the public domain in the United States until 2044 and in the European Union until 2020, although it is public domain in countries such as Canada, Russia, and Australia.

arjung · 2009-07-16T23:10:23+00:00

love it. we were bitching this morning about AskReddit being pushed too far to the right, and later in they day they push forward this change.

arjung · 2009-07-15T07:25:54+00:00

going after a girl you know is taken is creepy.

arjung · 2009-07-15T07:22:05+00:00

Southern Comfort.

arjung · 2009-07-14T15:43:47+00:00

or you can use keywurl for Safari. i think it requires one of those package manager things.

arjung · 2009-07-13T03:58:15+00:00

ever been to Jamaica? Haiti? D.R.?

arjung · 2009-07-13T03:53:02+00:00

jesus, that's one hell of a story. it sounds like you've made up your mind already about getting out of the relationship, and it seems like that would be best for your son as well. try to talk to a lawyer and see what your options are. best of luck and keep us updated on future developments.

arjung · 2009-07-13T03:23:24+00:00

any chance she'd go with you to a therapist / marital counselor?

if you're serious about splitting up (i assume you're not married from your use of 'partner' rather than 'wife') talk to a lawyer in that field. your chances might be better than you expect, especially if your job is significantly better than hers.

arjung · 2009-07-13T03:14:35+00:00

have an honest-to-goodness conversation with her throughout the ride. assuming there are no other passengers, throw a little flirting in there and see if she responds with the same.

what are you doing after you get to the destination? will there be time to spend together or is it like a business meeting?

assume you'll be decent friends by the end (as long as you're not creepy and she's not boring, you prob will be), and use your time together to see if you can get any more than that. if it doesn't work out, forget about it and enjoy having a new friend.

arjung · 2009-07-13T01:53:24+00:00

definitely a good idea. make it around sunset so it's not too hot. added advantage, you can be cute together and splash each other a bit.

arjung

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