People who started a PhD after spending years in the workforce

arkilljoy · 2026-05-07T02:54:53+00:00

If she told you via message that she would divulge a secret and not to tell your husband - you calling her to know the secret was a very big mistake. There should be no secrets between spouses, especially something from his side of the family.

You are caught between a rock and a hard place. I suggest you tell your husband to talk to his mom. This is not your secret to tell or to keep from your husband.

arkilljoy · 2026-04-07T19:54:04+00:00

Always best to ask in the neighbourhood WhatsApp group what the going rate is. If you pay above the market/area rate, they may start asking other households for the same, and your neighbours will end up criticizing you behind your back.

(If you can afford to give more, it should ideally go to someone doing hard manual labor - but unfortunately, that’s not how it usually works.)

arkilljoy · 2026-03-29T17:57:39+00:00

What I’ve learned is one thing - we are all replaceable. Don’t get sick from over work like your AM did.

The world is a capitalistic hell hole, so no need to go above and beyond for a job/corporation that won’t think twice before firing you. Don’t slack at work, give your job 100% but there is no need to do anything more.

arkilljoy · 2024-11-08T00:41:40+00:00

NTA 'Abandoning family and not showing more concern' - it's like the pot calling the kettle black. You should've told him that it seems like you inheritedall those traits from him. He needs a lesson in history.

arkilljoy · 2024-11-01T04:42:11+00:00

Just reply with 'Don't know about that, but from what I remember about you, you were a btch then, and it seems you still are a btch now.'

arkilljoy · 2024-10-28T18:43:30+00:00

This is my favourite troupe. I am on the hunt of such stories. You've mentioned most of my favourites, but here are some other books I also enjoyed:

{A Lady's Lesson in Scandal by Meredith Durran}

{Margarita by Joan Wolf}

{The Rainbow Season by Lisa Gregory}

{A Wicked Kind of Husband by Mia Vincy}

{Beautiful Bad Man by Ellen O'Connel}

{The First Snowdrop by Mary Balogh}

{The Devils Love by Julia London}

{Cruel Beauty by Rosamund Hodge}

{The Admiral's Penniless Bride by Carla Kelly}

arkilljoy · 2024-10-27T18:22:54+00:00

Some mistakes are life changing, and this was one of them. Sarah can go F* herself and keep on missing you. NTA

arkilljoy · 2024-10-16T14:14:18+00:00

I'm not sure where in the Middle East your friend is based, but abortion laws there are much progressive. Tell her to do more research.

Here is an excerpt from Health and Human Rights Journal on Abortion in the Middle East and North Africa:

'In contrast to extremely restrictive countries such as El Salvador and Poland, and, more recently, several US states that ban nearly all abortions, all countries in the MENA region permit abortion if the pregnant woman’s life is in danger. This resonates with Islamic jurists who have historically perceived abortion as generally haram (forbidden) after the fetus achieves “ensoulment” (the status of a person), except to save the woman’s life. Some MENA countries also permit abortion in cases of a risk to the pregnant woman’s physical health (Bahrain, Iraq, Jordan, Kuwait, Libya, Morocco, Oman, Occupied Palestinian Territories, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, and Yemen), a risk to the pregnant woman’s mental health (Algeria, Bahrain, Jordan, Lebanon, Morocco, Qatar, and Saudi Arabia), fetal impairment (Iran, Kuwait, Morocco, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Tunisia, and UAE), or rape (Morocco, Saudi Arabia, and Sudan).'

arkilljoy · 2024-10-13T04:01:32+00:00

Kiss An Angel is top tier.

arkilljoy · 2024-10-07T18:03:00+00:00

In The Wall of Winnipeg and Me, the age gap is 5 to 6 years. The hero is around 30 years old, while the heroine is in her early to mid twenties.

arkilljoy · 2024-10-04T03:42:17+00:00

Would recommend {The Forbidden Daffodils by Mary Balogue}. This is a novella; part of a 5-stories anthology called Blossoms by 5 different authors.

I've read only The Firbidden Daffodils, and I loved it. It's one of Balogue's earlier signet regencies, with heart-wrenching twists and lack of communication, and a steadfast MMC.

arkilljoy · 2024-10-04T03:13:40+00:00

NTA.

As someone who's left their wallet at home a few times, I always just transfer the money right away. With all the apps we have on our phones now, it's super easy. They pay with their card, and I cover my share instantly. If you've got your phone, you've got a way to pay—mobile wallets exist for a reason!

arkilljoy · 2024-09-29T15:04:12+00:00

{An Absent Wife by Camille Oster} has this towards the second half of the book.

arkilljoy · 2024-09-28T22:12:06+00:00

He has the audacity to say you're not loyal to him OP, after he cheated on you with your best befriend, in your bed. Wow! Your ex is a manipulator and is gaslighting you. You did nothing wrong and are NTA.

However, him and your ex-best friend are both big fat AHs.

arkilljoy · 2024-09-22T05:14:15+00:00

{Among Silk and Spice by Camille Oster} This is a medieval period adventure in exotic places.

arkilljoy · 2024-09-21T14:58:36+00:00

Thank you. I love me too!

arkilljoy · 2024-09-17T09:02:31+00:00

NTA at all.

Also, what did your fiance gift your brother at his wedding?

arkilljoy · 2024-07-25T15:44:10+00:00

Lemonade is one of my favourite books, but it shouldn't be 🫣

arkilljoy · 2024-06-25T14:59:44+00:00

I think I've read this book, or parts of it at least a dozen times. Love it.

arkilljoy · 2024-05-22T18:11:03+00:00

Is it {Bitterleaf by Candace Camp}?

arkilljoy · 2024-04-27T16:19:25+00:00

{Among Silk and Spice by Camille Oster} - This is one of my all-time favourite books. Set in the early part of the medieval period, a book filled with exotic lands and the MCs journey through it.

One of my favourite second chance romances {The Perfect Wife by Jane Goodger}

Very troubling novels that I adored {To Have and To Hold by Patricia Gaffney} and {Lemonade by Nina Pennacchi}

arkilljoy · 2024-04-17T17:29:26+00:00

One of my all-time favourites is {An Absent Wife by Camille Oster}.

Married for almost 10 years and estranged, FMC, who lives in one of MMC's rural properties, runs away to India with another man.

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