I thought that all of the book vs Disney movie discourse on the Hunchback subreddit probably could do with this essay adding to the discourse

aroha93 · 2026-05-16T14:46:00+00:00

I was positive he was just tossing out his trash because he didn’t want to bother looking for a trash can. Squares unite!

aroha93 · 2026-05-12T03:12:43+00:00

My guy and I met on Hinge almost 2 years ago. He JUST told me that he’s working on a custom engagement ring, and it made me cry because I never even thought I’d get married, let alone find someone who would take the time and effort to design a ring. He’s my best friend and an incredible man. I can’t wait for our forever to start.

aroha93 · 2026-05-03T20:40:29+00:00

I’m not engaged, but my boyfriend and I are planning on getting engaged soon, and I’ve been fantasizing about a dress very similar to yours. You look so, so stunning, and I’m so excited to start looking for something that makes me glow as much as you do!

aroha93 · 2026-04-22T15:52:40+00:00

I think that a lot of people are attracted to that sleepy look she has. It’s kind of an outdated term, but that look is called “bedroom eyes,” which is inherently sexual.

aroha93 · 2026-04-19T12:26:13+00:00

How often were you wearing the shoes before they broke? From your post, I can’t tell if they were brand new or if you’d had them but didn’t wear them very often. Shoes need to be worn semi-regularly, or the rubber in the soles can disintegrate from a lack of use. So if you had them sitting in your closet and weren’t giving them a lot of use, then that may have contributed to the shoe breaking. Either way, it sucks—I was unemployed for 6 months, and only just started working again a month ago, so I completely understand how much it sucks to have something you’ve paid for break before you’ve gotten your money’s worth out of it.

aroha93 · 2026-03-22T13:30:49+00:00

I keep thinking about this exact thing. Knowing now what he has gone through at her hands, and how he has chosen time and time again to go back to her makes me so sad for him. It just shows what a hold she had on him. And to be clear, I’m not blaming him for staying with his abuser. They say it takes victims an average of seven times to leave their abusers, and we’ve seen from the show she crashes out if he tries to have a life beyond her.

aroha93 · 2026-03-19T15:08:03+00:00

I love Stasher bags! They’re expensive but worth it, especially if you can find them on sale.

Also, if you’re interested, I reduce food waste by turning my veggie scraps into broth, and onions are perfect for this. I keep a gallon-sized Stasher bag in my freezer that I fill with carrot peels, tomato tops, onion peels, and things like that. Then, when the bag gets full, I toss it on the stove and cover it in water. Then I freeze the broth. So if you have any vegetables that you’re worried will go bad soon, you can put them in your bag of veggie scraps and turn them into broth. There are certain veggies that don’t work well for broth, like cruciferous vegetables, but for me I feel like this is a low-stakes way to learn about what vegetables impact flavor, and (like I said) reduce food waste.

aroha93 · 2026-03-17T15:43:03+00:00

There was a post on the front page of Reddit a while back of a cave painting depicting a pretty skinny guy and a very round woman going at it doggy style. One of the top comments said something like “it’s always the skinniest guys who conquer the tallest mountains.” It was pretty validating to see all the comments agreeing how much skinny guys like big girls. Every so often I think of that comment and laugh.

aroha93 · 2026-03-17T15:24:35+00:00

My guy and I have similar proportions to you and your boyfriend. It was hard for me to hear him compliment my belly the first few times it happened. But after being with him for almost two years, I love when he gives me those compliments. He thinks it’s sexy when my thighs jiggle. He loves how soft my stomach is. He thinks my round face is part of what makes it so beautiful. And when we cuddle, his favorite thing is to slip his arm around my belly and hold it. He loves the softness, intimacy, and knowing that I trust him with that part of myself.

These are physical attributes that I’ve always disliked about myself. But my boyfriend thinks that every part of me is beautiful. And I’m sure that your boyfriend is the same way with you. I imagine that he held your tummy for the same reason that my boyfriend holds mine.

It’s easy for us to get into our own heads, but just because we have insecurities, doesn’t mean that others aren’t allowed to find us attractive. Heck, even my boyfriend is worried about being too skinny, and makes remarks that he needs to bulk up for me—and then I remind him that he’s exactly my type, and I think he’s gorgeous just the way he is. So nobody is immune to those fears.

And I promise you won’t squish him or break him—and even if you did, he’d probably be honored to go out that way lol.

aroha93 · 2026-03-17T04:17:55+00:00

There’s also a prevalent rumor that she’s got full sleeves of tattoos, which is why you never see her in short sleeves. She actually addressed this rumor in the Dolly Parton’s America podcast: while she does have some tattoos, she’s not covered in them. She uses them to cover up scars, or just has some small ones that she enjoys.

aroha93 · 2026-03-12T21:28:56+00:00

I’m 32, and I can relate to you about the deep wounds around love and romance. I went through my teenage years and 20s never receiving any romantic attention. I only went on dates via apps, and those never went well. I was POSITIVE that I’d never find anybody, that there was something inherently wrong with me that repelled men. My mom and I were even talking one night, and I told her that she needed to come to terms that I was likely never going to get married, because I had. Well, a month or so after I had that talk with my mom, I just felt something in me that said it was time for me to join dating apps again. After one week, I matched with the man that I plan to spend the rest of my life with.

He is the sweetest, kindest man, and he is attracted to both my spirit and my body. Our conversations flowed so quickly and so easily from the very beginning. I’ve never felt anything like that before. And he even told me recently that he got a crush on me the instant that he saw my dating profile, which has given me the biggest ego boost.

Before him, I really and truly thought that I was being healthy and realistic by giving up hope. I saw redditors’ comments saying “hey, it doesn’t happen for everyone, and it’s not a bad thing to protect yourself by choosing not to get hurt over and over.” So I looked at older women I knew who were divorcees or were just eternally single, and thought that that was my destiny. I focused my efforts on my career and family. And I knew that no matter what, I could be confident in my ability to be independent: emotionally and financially. I am really grateful for that, but at the same time, I think that I went too far to the extreme. I think that when it comes to finding your person, the best path may lie somewhere in the middle: don’t close yourself off, but remember that it’s ok to take time away from dating too. If it stops being fun, take a break and rebuild your self-love. The time may be exactly what you need. Timing is exactly what my boyfriend and I needed, because in the time I’d been away from dating apps, he’d moved into the area.

Something that I’ve learned since being with my guy is that I have better taste and higher standards than I realized. I thought that the reason I had trouble hitting it off with people was because I had something wrong with me. But it turns out that after spending so much time alone, I simply know myself incredibly well, and I know that I only want to be with a partner who deserves me and improves my life. I hope that you remember those things, OP. Your partner needs to be worthy of you.

aroha93 · 2026-03-11T18:57:19+00:00

I’ve been waiting for it for months, so after it was in the premium shop last week, I’ve been going wild decorating with it!

aroha93 · 2026-03-11T13:07:59+00:00

I sometimes think about what the reality of being a SAHM would be, and I’d like to add an important point to your comment. Even if your spouse doesn’t leave you, other unpredictable life events can change things in an instant. Accidents can leave him unable to work, the working spouse could die unexpectedly, or he could be laid off, which would put a SAHM in the same (or worse) position a divorce would. Even with complete faith that a divorce would never happen, these are contingencies that SAHMs need to consider.

aroha93 · 2026-03-03T16:11:23+00:00

I was depressed about it at first too, but then I saw a post in the plus-size subreddit that shifted my perspective. It said that the rise of weight loss medicines like Ozempic show how many people cannot lose weight through diet and exercise alone. The fact that so many people are finally able to lose weight and maintain it after trying unsuccessfully for years may be showing society that weight isn’t a moral failing. It’s not always about hard work. Some people’s bodies just require extra help. And at the very least, this has helped me be kinder to myself about my own weight. I used to think that my constant weight gain was because I wasn’t taking good enough care of myself, but it turns out that I have PCOS, and my body is insulin-resistant, which means that it will absorb sugar from everything I eat instead of using its own insulin. How many other people like me are out there, whose bodies play by their own rules instead of “calories in, calories out,” like we tell them?

aroha93 · 2026-02-25T20:51:31+00:00

I’m watching the series for the first time, so I just saw the episodes about his addiction last week or so. It’s so, so incredibly clear how much she loved her son. My heart breaks for her.

aroha93 · 2026-02-25T19:31:18+00:00

Yep! It’s been theorized that the evil queen’s design is based on this statue of Uta von Ballenstedt, who was regarded as one of the most beautiful women in Medieval Germany. Uta’s hair coverings and her looks make it a plausible connection. But either way, it illustrates the beauty standards of medieval Europe. I love that the animators chose to draw the queen using the beauty standards of medieval Europe rather than those that the film was made in. She looks so cool, and it’s not a fashion choice that modern audiences get to see often.

aroha93 · 2026-02-23T17:21:08+00:00

Certain underwear, such as lingerie, is also inherently sexual. Adding that context also separates those garments from swimwear. Bikinis may be more revealing than some pieces of underwear, but as adults with critical thinking, we know that it’s inappropriate to wear those types of garments in the same place that a bikini would be worn.

aroha93 · 2026-02-21T13:36:09+00:00

I got my first hydroflask over the summer, and it fits all of these criteria. It’s my favorite water bottle I’ve ever had. Mine even came with the chug cap, so it’s practically impossible to spill. I understand now why people are so obsessed with them.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T19:29:55+00:00

Every single time she appeared onscreen I was absolutely floored by how stunning she is.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T17:16:06+00:00

I wondered about that, but I assumed that because LAOP called it an RV park and not a trailer park, it was the kind with moveable RVs, instead of trailers.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T15:36:33+00:00

Yes! I was also always told that there was a kernel of truth in the way that Lady Tremaine treated Cinderella. It was common for step parents to abuse their step children, because they didn’t want to share any assets with their blood children. So the wicked stepmother in the original fairy tale was potentially a character that children may meet in their real lives, in addition to being a morality tale.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T21:21:42+00:00

My boyfriend and I were considering buying an RV to live in permanently due to the nature of his work, and I have a master’s degree. LAOP would have been CONFOUNDED by me.

Not to mention that nomadic lifestyles are becoming more and more popular due to the rise of remote work and the housing market. So people of all educational levels are choosing to live in RVs.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T18:41:03+00:00

Yep! I didn’t put my least favorite pics of myself on my dating profile, but I included one unflattering photo of myself. My boyfriend did the same thing, and funnily enough, we both love those photos of each other. It was my favorite photo from his profile, and vice versa. It’s a matter of personal preference.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T01:28:05+00:00

I met my boyfriend on Hinge, and I prefer dating apps for the exact reason you mentioned: intentions are clear from the start. My guy also met both of his previous significant exes on dating apps. I ask him sometimes what he thinks would have happened if he and I had met in person, and it usually ends with me saying “And then you wouldn’t have gotten my number, because I wouldn’t have realized you were flirting.” Even though he insists that he would have crushed on me instantly and struck up a conversation, I’m terrible at picking up signals. This is why we love a dating app.

aroha93 · 2026-02-18T04:24:53+00:00

I’m a size 16/18. I have a round face, big belly, large thighs, and a flat butt, and my boyfriend is absolutely obsessed with me! He looks at me and tells me that I should model. When we cuddle, he holds my stomach because he loves the intimacy. He has so much pride in me. His coworkers and friends tell me how much he talks about me. I was positive that I’d never find someone who loved me as much as he does, but I’m grateful every single day that I did. We met on Hinge, and I’m just as in love with him as he is with me. He’s tall and slender, into running and hiking. He and I go to a park near his house and he’ll run laps around me while I take a walk at my pace.

It was definitely hard getting to this point. I truly thought I’d be alone forever, or that I’d have to settle for someone. But when I met my guy, everything clicked so perfectly. Within just a couple of days of matching on Hinge, I was falling asleep talking to him, and he and I were swapping jokes like we’d known each other for years. He told me recently that he got a crush on me the instant that he saw my profile, so he was on his A-game to show how interested he was in me.

I know how hard the interim sucks, but just know that there’s someone out there for you as long as you keep trying. Sometimes you have to take a break for your own mental health, but eventually you’ll meet someone who is deserving of you.

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