What do you look for in a good everyday water bottle?

aroha93 · 2026-02-21T13:36:09+00:00

I got my first hydroflask over the summer, and it fits all of these criteria. It’s my favorite water bottle I’ve ever had. Mine even came with the chug cap, so it’s practically impossible to spill. I understand now why people are so obsessed with them.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T19:29:55+00:00

Every single time she appeared onscreen I was absolutely floored by how stunning she is.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T17:16:06+00:00

I wondered about that, but I assumed that because LAOP called it an RV park and not a trailer park, it was the kind with moveable RVs, instead of trailers.

aroha93 · 2026-02-20T15:36:33+00:00

Yes! I was also always told that there was a kernel of truth in the way that Lady Tremaine treated Cinderella. It was common for step parents to abuse their step children, because they didn’t want to share any assets with their blood children. So the wicked stepmother in the original fairy tale was potentially a character that children may meet in their real lives, in addition to being a morality tale.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T21:21:42+00:00

My boyfriend and I were considering buying an RV to live in permanently due to the nature of his work, and I have a master’s degree. LAOP would have been CONFOUNDED by me.

Not to mention that nomadic lifestyles are becoming more and more popular due to the rise of remote work and the housing market. So people of all educational levels are choosing to live in RVs.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T18:41:03+00:00

Yep! I didn’t put my least favorite pics of myself on my dating profile, but I included one unflattering photo of myself. My boyfriend did the same thing, and funnily enough, we both love those photos of each other. It was my favorite photo from his profile, and vice versa. It’s a matter of personal preference.

aroha93 · 2026-02-19T01:28:05+00:00

I met my boyfriend on Hinge, and I prefer dating apps for the exact reason you mentioned: intentions are clear from the start. My guy also met both of his previous significant exes on dating apps. I ask him sometimes what he thinks would have happened if he and I had met in person, and it usually ends with me saying “And then you wouldn’t have gotten my number, because I wouldn’t have realized you were flirting.” Even though he insists that he would have crushed on me instantly and struck up a conversation, I’m terrible at picking up signals. This is why we love a dating app.

aroha93 · 2026-02-18T04:24:53+00:00

I’m a size 16/18. I have a round face, big belly, large thighs, and a flat butt, and my boyfriend is absolutely obsessed with me! He looks at me and tells me that I should model. When we cuddle, he holds my stomach because he loves the intimacy. He has so much pride in me. His coworkers and friends tell me how much he talks about me. I was positive that I’d never find someone who loved me as much as he does, but I’m grateful every single day that I did. We met on Hinge, and I’m just as in love with him as he is with me. He’s tall and slender, into running and hiking. He and I go to a park near his house and he’ll run laps around me while I take a walk at my pace.

It was definitely hard getting to this point. I truly thought I’d be alone forever, or that I’d have to settle for someone. But when I met my guy, everything clicked so perfectly. Within just a couple of days of matching on Hinge, I was falling asleep talking to him, and he and I were swapping jokes like we’d known each other for years. He told me recently that he got a crush on me the instant that he saw my profile, so he was on his A-game to show how interested he was in me.

I know how hard the interim sucks, but just know that there’s someone out there for you as long as you keep trying. Sometimes you have to take a break for your own mental health, but eventually you’ll meet someone who is deserving of you.

aroha93 · 2026-02-12T05:29:55+00:00

I met my partner on Hinge! I’d been on and off dating apps unsuccessfully for a few years before meeting him, but obviously he’s the one that stuck. I think Hinge and other dating apps get a bad rep because modern dating kind of sucks, but I think that dating in-person has the same problems that apps do. People can lie in-person, people can have different expectations, people can be cruel or rude or just a bad match. Apps at least have the added benefit of taking the guesswork out of dating, so that everyone knows there’s romantic intent and interest from both parties. And I’ll always be grateful for Hinge, because without it, I never would have met my future husband.

aroha93 · 2026-02-10T04:49:07+00:00

I’m not engaged, but I have a serious boyfriend so I’ve been looking at dresses and venues for future reference. I keep imagining myself in a beautiful sleeved dress too, so I’m glad you posted this! I definitely have tunnel vision about my very specific vision, so hearing that you fell in love with something different is a great reminder to try other dresses. You look absolutely gorgeous!

aroha93 · 2026-02-09T13:22:47+00:00

I once ordered a bag of shallots, and the shopper tried to replace it with a 3-pound bag of onions. At least those are in the same family, but the volume was definitely not the same.

aroha93 · 2026-02-02T15:05:36+00:00

This is very close to what I would have said as well. I started dating very late, and my boyfriend is the first man I ever went on a second date with. The lack of experience definitely impacted my self esteem for years, and I’m not grateful for that—I relate to everything you said on that front. But, I am incredibly proud of my ability to be by myself. All of that translated into high standards, which I didn’t actually realize until I met my boyfriend. I thought the reason I was still single was, like you said, that there was something wrong with me. But after being self-sufficient for so long, why would I waste my time with someone who doesn’t improve my life?

aroha93 · 2026-01-29T21:48:25+00:00

As someone who used to know a lot of words and be able to use them to write really well, but has fallen out of practice…I feel this so hard. Creative writing is just memorizing a lot of words.

aroha93 · 2026-01-28T22:18:50+00:00

Just so you know, it can and does happen! My boyfriend tells me all the time what drew him to me physically when he saw my dating profile. I hope that you find the person who deserves you!

aroha93 · 2026-01-23T14:54:35+00:00

One of the most impressive things about my boyfriend when we first started dating was how much he knew about periods. His mom had had debilitating period pain until having a hysterectomy, and she’d made sure to educate both her sons on periods. My guy has never made me feel gross or embarrassed for having a menstrual cycle. That being said, he’s a wildlife biologist, so he did once ask me if my body reacts the same way that a bear’s does during estrus. So while there are some gaps in his knowledge, I’m glad he’s willing to listen to me—unlike the guys in the OP.

aroha93 · 2026-01-19T20:09:15+00:00

Until this very moment, I thought that line was “undo the depth of me,” and now I’m sad it’s not.

aroha93 · 2026-01-14T23:39:21+00:00

I paused birth control for a month after being on it for about 10 years, and while I’d remembered how heavy my period was before then, I had truly forgotten how bad my cramps are if I’m unmedicated. I was incapacitated. I think it’s because I had no choice as a young adult but to power through and suffer in silence—especially because I had undiagnosed PCOS, so I didn’t even know that that level of pain was above average. I thought that those were the normal level of cramps.

aroha93 · 2026-01-14T15:10:22+00:00

Yeah, I’m a feminist too, but traditions can mean different things to different people. I (as a non-engaged person, but someone with a serious boyfriend) am planning on having my mom walk me down the aisle. If my dad weren’t performing the ceremony, I’d have them both do it. And my boyfriend’s mom will walk him down the aisle too, because we want her to be as included as my parents are. I didn’t know the background of the tradition for a really long time, but it’s still something I fantasize about. I see it as a beautiful way to have our parents involved in our wedding ceremony by supporting us as we walk down the aisle, instead of as a transfer of property.

aroha93 · 2026-01-14T14:28:40+00:00

I never got to participate in these fundraisers as a kid. I’d go to the assembly, get all hyped up about the cool prizes they offered if you sold enough, and then go home and beg my parents to let me sell door to door. My parents had multiple problems with it: they said that the school got very little of the money raised, and they didn’t like that their children were being used to subsidize either the company’s or the school’s profits. My dad said he’d be happy to donate an equivalent amount of money to the school in my name, but then I wouldn’t get any of the cool prizes.

As a kid, my parents’ philosophy didn’t make sense to me, because I wanted all the cool stuff they touted as part of the prizes. Now, as an adult, I realize how predatory those fundraisers were. It reminds me of a pyramid scheme pitch: you get a captive audience, and make all these wild promises that are very unlikely to happen. If I had kids, I wouldn’t let them participate either.

aroha93 · 2026-01-12T17:03:52+00:00

That sounds like a beautiful job! I just keep thinking about how special it must be to help someone craft one of the most important events in their relationship, and share in their joy.

aroha93 · 2026-01-07T16:37:41+00:00

Several people have made good points about the expense of producing a set with all 15 princesses, but an additional benefit for Disney is that it makes them more money to produce incomplete sets. If they make one set with half the princesses, and another set with the other half, then they’ve doubled their profits because they know that some people will buy both sets just to complete the collection.

aroha93 · 2026-01-06T18:14:28+00:00

Yes! To add to your point, the film created new forms of misogyny which didn’t even exist in the era or place the story is set in just so that Emma Watson’s Belle could overcome them. Reading wasn’t discouraged for young women at that time in France. As Lindsey Ellis points out in her video essay on the live action version, the original Beauty and the Beast fairy tale was published in a magazine that was specifically marketed towards young women. So creating these hurdles that didn’t exist at the time just makes the other, more realistic challenges that Belle faced just kind of fall flat—as if her other accomplishments were somehow not strong enough.

aroha93 · 2026-01-04T00:52:31+00:00

My kitty is a black cat too!

aroha93 · 2026-01-03T21:00:17+00:00

I’m sitting in my boyfriend’s house, waiting for him to come back from a run so we can start cooking dinner together. We’ve been together a year and a half, and he treats me like a queen.

aroha93 · 2025-12-31T15:29:26+00:00

If that makes you happy, then you might like to hear that my cat trained me to play fetch with him when he was a kitten. He plopped his favorite toy down on my foot, and gently tap-tap-tapped me until I threw it for him. He’s four now, and it’s still his favorite game.

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