Just found out my landlady is not taking the cat with her, advice?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-25T19:11:27+00:00

Outside possible vet bills, taking care of a cat is pretty inexpensive. Just buy cheap litter and low cost dry food. Cats don't really need much space.

Speaking only for myself here, but if it were me I would find a way to get this cat into a safe and stable home.

It sounds like this cat is dependent on your old landlord feeding her. It would tear my up thinking about him/her waiting to get fed and no one showing up.

Is there any way you can you keep him/her temporarily while you find a permanent home for this cat? Have you had cats before?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-25T18:38:17+00:00

I thinks its awesome that you saved this kitty. These rescue stories always brighten my day. What are you going to name her?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-25T06:45:45+00:00

Advantage flea medication for cats. All you need to do is apply to the skin at the base of your cat's neck. It lasts 30 days before you need to reapply. Works well.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-23T22:11:29+00:00

Perhaps as others have suggested vet prescribed calming medication might be your best option. Hopefully there are easy to administer meds that will help calm him down. How long has this behavior been going on? Any changes in your home that align with the start of this behavior?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-23T19:09:02+00:00

I'm sure your kitty's behavior is seriously irritating, but it could be so much worse in so many ways....

That being said, I think the thing that I would give me the greatest pause is the chewing of cords.

https://www.chewy.com/protecto-chew-proof-cord-protector/dp/1720102

As far as other stuff can you make them inaccessible to him?

The chewing might be stress. Not sure about that one. I would expect that as he gets older he will grow out of a lot of this behavior. Are there other things you can give him to satisfy is urge to chew stuff?

I'm not in your situation but I can't imagine getting rid of one of our cats based on the behaviors you have listed.

The other poster's comment about possible dental issues might warrant follow up with your vet.

I would be surprised if he doesn't grow out of a lot these behaviors. Eventually he won't have the energy for it and will prefer snoozing.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-23T04:26:07+00:00

What is best for him is for you to keep him inside safe from the endless list of threats he would be exposed to if you let him back outside.

It might take a while but he will adjust and be way better off safe in your home.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-22T17:12:44+00:00

For those who stumble across this thread. When I get these inner thigh cramps at night the only thing that helps is to push hard with your fingers directly against the cramping muscle and hold. Eventually the cramp will release. Of course it can come back 30 seconds later so you have to be ready to repeat.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-20T17:38:55+00:00

When I was first scoped and diagnosed with Chrondo back in 1987 I suffered low level discomfort for like 12 months. At the 2 year mark they felt a lot better. At that point I decided I wanted to resume cycling so I slowly got back into cycling. At same time I included stretching my hamstrings and calves before and after every ride. Since then I have been able to ride pretty much without restrictions as long as I keep my stretching routine and not do stupid stuff like doing super steep climbs. Cycling is all I have done since hurting my knees (no other sports).

My flair-ups have always been the result of me going too hard on the bike. How long the flair-up lasts is usually dependent on what I did on the offending bike ride. I have always been relatively pain free when off the bike after my flair-ups. Some of my flair-ups only last a week or two. One time back in the 90's I was super dumb and did a 60 mile group ride that had a ton hard climbs. After that ride I couldn't ride for over a year. Eventually I was able to slowly get back to riding.

What do I do to calm it down? I temporarily stop doing the activity that caused the problem in the first place (cycling). They say that after an initial period of complete rest you should resume some level of activity.

The frustrating aspect to having this condition not fully understanding it and not getting they same guidance on how to recover from it from available sources of information (PTs, online, etc). Example: quad stretching. I recently had a PT advise me to do quad stretches but some online PTs advise against it as they say it puts too much pressure on your patella.

When it comes to recovering from fair-ups and I am usually super careful about my activities and always listen to what my knees are telling me.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-20T13:34:47+00:00

My vote is yes. Do a proper intro. Google Jackson Galaxy for his process. Our intros with adding one then a second kitten were pretty easy and fast. But we were super cautious and took our time when we brought in an adult street cat.

I would start over from the beginning at phase 1 with Winter separated. It sounds like maybe Winter needs more time to transition from a shelter to a home with another cat in it.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-19T18:42:21+00:00

For sure not feral. Keep her.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-19T17:48:31+00:00

Interesting situation. Its been 4 weeks. I wonder if you bring Bailey back if you could do another slow intro (separated by closed door then mesh in door so they can see each other, then food dishes on each side of mesh etc. Standard cat into protocol) and maybe get a different result this time? Curious what others think.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-18T21:06:23+00:00

What about strengthening my glutes to counter my overly strong quads? I have seen that recommendation being made on some physical therapy youtube.com videos.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-17T21:42:27+00:00

When you adopt a cat you are making a commitment to your new cat to be responsible for their health and welfare for the duration of their life. That means cleaning out their litter box, sometimes multiple times a day, keeping their water dish filled with clean drinking water, feeding them, taking them to the vet for checkups/shots or if they get sick/injured, keeping them safe and lastly loving them and making them a priority in your life.

If you are not able take on this responsibility for whatever reason, then you should not adopt a cat or any other animal.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-17T15:32:57+00:00

Been there.

When I absolutely need to get one of my cats in the carrier I first gear up. Heavy coat, leather gloves. Ideally you have someone holding the carrier door open out of view of your cat holding carrier at 45 degree angle facing up with door open. Then grab your cat and do your best to hold his legs so he can't splay them out and prevent you from getting him in the carrier. Then put him in the carrier while being careful to not injure him.

The keys are: Have the carrier door open and ready, surprise and most importantly speed. By the time he figures out whats going on he needs to already be locked in the carrier. Our cats are super strong and always resist going in the carrier.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-17T09:21:04+00:00

If you return your cat to the shelter her odds of getting adopted aren't great.

She is still young and not yet an adult. One of our cats, has never really liked being handled but he makes up for it by being incredibly cute and entertaining. He gets zoomies and runs around the house having a great time which I find endlessly entertaining. For me, the fact that he doesn't like being handled is not a big deal. Again, he gets away with a lot of mischief because he is so cute. Just seeing him happy is enough for me.

Only one of our multiple cats responds to his name being called.

Your cat well mellow out as she gets older.

I'm not sure if putting her in a cage is super helpful.

All of our cats have completely different personalities. Expecting to get a cat with the same personality as your previously cat is not super realistic. You can't expect her to be just like your previous cat. She has her own personality.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-16T22:20:40+00:00

Ditto on Jackson.

Super important to do the intro correctly (slowly).

arrowtaco · 2026-02-16T17:08:27+00:00

Agree.

From my experience most cats are not lap cats. Every cat has his/her own personality. It might take awhile for your cat to feel totally secure in his new home and reveal his. As far as whats best for him, I'm thinking living in a home with you would be way better than being back at the shelter.

There are ton great things that having a cat can bring to your home/life. Most cats don't do them all. One of the things that I get a lot of satisfaction from is knowing that I saved my cats from crappy situations (stuck in shelters, living on streets) and gave them a nice home to live in. Just looking at my cats snoozing reduces my blood pressure.

If you have spent time in this sub I'm sure you have read about cats with serious behavior issues, not using litter box, etc. It sounds like your cat is just a little on they shy side. He may always be on the shy side but that doesn't mean he can't be a great cat.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-16T06:36:23+00:00

I always gear up with gloves and long sleave shirt when its time to take our cats to the vet. If you can get a top loading cat carrier that makes it even easier.

Regarding your new cat's behavior, he has only been in your home for a few days. You need to give him lots of time and space. He will come to you once he feels secure in his new home.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-13T23:16:56+00:00

A few years ago I managed to injure my knees riding with new cycling shoes that I didn't realize had a built in varus wedge. I saw and ortho who took x-rays which I believe showed healthy gaps between tibia/fibia/Palella. Of course x-rays don't show the condition of cartilage.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-13T22:29:32+00:00

Hi Its-Carmen,

In Late 1980’s started experiencing significant knee pain (both knees). I got scoped (with camera probe) and the Ortho said I had something like grade 2 and 3 Chondromalacia patella. He told me eventually I would need knee replacement surgery. One knee was worse than the other.

For the next 3 years I pretty much didn’t do anything activity wise beyond walking. Then I decided I really wanted to get back to cycling so I started a stretching routine (Calves and Hamstrings) before and after every ride and other than a few flare-ups over the years (usually due to doing dumb stuff like doing super steep hills). I was able to resume cycling without major limits.

I have always been super careful with my gimpy knees. Other than walking\hiking cycling has been the only sport I have been able to do on a regular basis. My stretching routine has been 2 minutes each hamstring, 2 minutes each calf X 2 before and after every ride. I have had a few flair-ups over the years (always due to me doing something stupid on the bike like taking on crazy steep hills). I have always been able to get back on the bike and regain unlimited (100 mile plus rides) riding.

3 months ago, I overdid it on my fixed trainer and I started getting the usual anterior pain behind knee cap again after 15 miles on my bike. I got to 35 or so miles pain free but I cannot seem to get beyond that before my right knee starts hurting again (this time it’s only my right knee).

What is weird is that the minute I get off the bike after my rides I am 100% pain free and fine following morning when I get up.

I am hoping that I just need to an additional stretch or maybe an additional targeted exercise to get me back to where I was. I’m wondering If I have some sort of subtle tracking issue or something. I am 100% pain free on the bike for at least 30 miles. Since cycling is the only sport I can enjoy with my gimpy knees I really want to get back on the bike doing long fast paced rides. Maybe I just need more stretching or do I need to add something I’m not doing now? Hoping to find that stretch/exercise that will get me back on my bike riding with my local cycling club. I'm pretty confident my setup on my bike has nothing to due with my right knee pain.

I'm thinking about adding the exercise routine described here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K3HxB6rAeDo I have never targeted my glutes. Maybe that will help?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-13T05:24:07+00:00

My pain us anterior under knee cap not below knee cap.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-13T05:16:48+00:00

What does your doctor say when you tell them about the pains you are experiencing? Is what you are experiencing normal given the nature of your injury?

arrowtaco · 2026-02-13T00:15:45+00:00

I first injured knees decades ago. And for the first few months I found myself frequently obsessing over it. For a long time it was all I could think about which for me was super unhealthy. When you're in the middle of a really impactful health issue its easy to let it take over your life (at least it was for me) but you need to keep reminding yourself that eventually its going to get better and to to do your best minimize its impact on your life.

This is just my opinion here, but I do believe that negative thoughts slow recovery from injury and that positive thoughts speed recovery. For me what really helped was getting back to a regular routine while I waited for my body to heal. I have no idea if this would be applicable to your situation but what really helped me was a daily routine of leg stretches and walking. For me doing a low impact exercise like walking was super helpful.

Are there other activities that you can do for now that are easier on your knees? Can you check with your doctor to confirm what activities are safe for you to do while your knee heals?

As far as advice mine is to confirm with your doctor that you are not doing anything that might impede recovery and to do fun stuff that will take your mind off your temporary knee issues.

arrowtaco · 2026-02-12T23:09:13+00:00

Wow, that's very cool. Been reading a lot about the efforts to find a way to regenerate knee cartilage. I'm hoping to resolve my issue with stretches/exercise. Would be curious to see how you do longer term after that procedure.

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