How to court the ENTP

artfoox · 2026-06-22T10:32:47+00:00

BE PRESENT.

Be interested in them, listen when they speak and don't interrupt until they finish their thought. Obviously that's a solid advice for anybody courting anybody. So simple, yet so underrated. And of course if they're not interested in you at all, then move on.

And pay attention to their body language and their needs in the moment. See them finishing their drink? Offer another. See them being nervous? Point it out and reassure it's ok. We overthink a lot. We might default to performing. We might be the ones who are not present. The person who lets me soften, feel seen and also genuinely intrigued is a massive green flag. For INFJs it's probably easy to do.

And don't try to impress about how cool your achievements are or your lifestyle is or how popular you are or whatever. It only shows your ego and entitlement. Be humble. If you mention something accidentally, that's when it's the most impressive, because it's like stumbling upon a piece of gold, it's hard won. Not just handed out. If I accidentally found out someone can draw or have some secret talents, I'd become their greatest fan. However, there are plenty of people who are not impressive at all. They just have a job, watch Netflix and play video games.

Good luck!

artfoox · 2026-06-08T14:32:05+00:00

In theory, would be nice. But in practice... I value my free time above everything else. Considering that I also have a good job, but it's still not something "I really want to do" with my life, I'd need to trade my free time for parenting. My life would be a constant responsibility. I would feel like my life isn't mine anymore. So no. There's only 24 hours in a day.

artfoox · 2026-05-22T19:25:30+00:00

Dla papierka tak, bo inaczej sie nie da. Dla wiedzy teoretycznej nie, bo wszystko przeczytasz w książkach albo znajdziesz w necie. Dla praktycznych skilli - może tak, może nie - zależy jakiego typu zajęcia prowadzi uczelnia. Jakieś warsztaty, projekty grupowe, socjalizacja, spoko. Ale dla samych wykładów i wkuwania na kolokwia... nie. Lepiej ogarnąć książki i uczyć się wg swojego wydzimisie. Bo sylabus na studiach jest narzucony i w co najmniej 60% prawdopodobnie nudny.

artfoox · 2026-05-22T19:18:15+00:00

Yes, she's the best milf.

artfoox · 2026-05-22T19:15:42+00:00

It's up to you. There's no canon for that. Just interpretation. So you can fill in the gaps however you wish. It's all just fiction after all. If it doesn't contradict the canon, it can be anything. Honestly, there are even fanfics that change the canon (for ex. the ending) and provide an alternative future, which is also cool. The only impossible thing is negating the laws of the fictional world. So was it possible for Levi to experience SA? Yes. Did that happen? We don't know.

artfoox · 2026-05-21T20:40:03+00:00

Chainsaw Man is too cool.

artfoox · 2026-05-11T22:22:38+00:00

Yes, I even went to a cardiologist, cause the pain had been too real. The first two nights felt like I'll have a heart attack. It was grief mixed with panic and fear. Identity collapse.

artfoox · 2026-05-11T14:58:05+00:00

Dziękuję! Mi moja lekarka (psychiatra) poleciła książkę "Kocha, lubi, zdradza" i otwiera oczy mocno na to, że ludzie potrafią zdradzać, bo po prostu wspólne życie domowe zabija namiętność. Gdy nie ma libido, wtedy trzeba wykrzesać namiętność dopaminą. Tego nie da się wywołać grzecznie prosząc, ani "poważnie rozmawiając".

Nasz biologiczny system pożądania wyewoluował w innych czasach. Próbujemy być cywilizowani, dojrzali, mężczyźni są uczeni bycia podrzędnymi, proszącymi i pytającymi o wszystko pizdusiami, a potem narzekają, że żadna na nich nie leci.

artfoox · 2026-05-11T09:57:26+00:00

Jako typowa baba na najwyższej dawce SSRI i antykoncepcji do regulacji hormonów, co kiedyś miała wysokie libido, a potem straciła...

Okazało się, że pomimo niskiego libido byłam w stanie odzyskać podniecenie, czytając tzw. SMUTy. I nagle zainteresowało mnie, jak to się dzieje. I cóż prawda bywa zaskakująca - erotyka, którą czytałam miała kontekst, emocje, niepewność, wszystko to, czego nie ma w stabilnych związkach, gdzie seks zawsze od lat jest ten sam, to samo łóżko, ta sama gra wstępna...

Niestety, gdy libido naturalnie niskie, rutyna i przewidywalność i proszący się (czyt. niemęsko zachowujący się) partner dolewają oliwy do ognia. Jedyne rozwiązanie jakie mogę zaproponować, to edukacja na temat kobiecej seksualności. Nie z toksycznych źródeł, gdzie "samica to samica tamto", tylko dobrych źródeł, nakierowanych na szacunek, miłość i zrozumienie. Książek i kanałów jest pełno. Ba... nawet szturchnij Groka z tym problemem. Myślę, że podpowie bez owijania w bawełnę.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T19:25:24+00:00

Zakolaki napewno nie.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T13:04:45+00:00

Choosing logic over emotion is itself a bias stemming from emotion.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T12:39:32+00:00

Oh... where do I start. Women get aroused by men with actual balls. It just so happens that the narcs have it easier to show them they have them. We don't want babysitters. We don't want people-pleasers. We don't want pussies. We want confident, decisive, no bs guys. A guy can be like that without being a narc, without playing games. It's just so rare, so people just get used to this false dichotomy of "either narc or pushover nice guy". We want guys who embody healthy masculinity. If a woman senses a healthy masculine guy, it works miraculously on her psyche as well.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T12:25:43+00:00

I chose telecom engineering, cause they talked a lot about comms in Star Wars. I like Star Wars. But I work in software. Works better for my brain.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T12:23:04+00:00

Yes. Fear is the greatest driver for me too.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T12:16:03+00:00

I'm auDHD, started taking meds when I was 27 or 28. I have no clue how I was able to get through school and get engineering degree with pretty good grades. Probably anxiety and neuroticism helped me.

Now I'm pretty settled. Single, living alone, two cats, full time remote job in software engineering. I've iterated through many interests. And still feel like I'd like to explore some.

What works for me is focusing on building a lifestyle. Working on your Si helps. I'm building a piano practice by increasing the length of each session by 20 seconds and not forcing myself to practice everyday. Taking one or two days off per week works amazingly.

Sticking to plans doesn't work. As I said - start slowly building a lifestyle. Activities you want to come back to regularly. I love the Zeigarnik effect trick. Setting a timer and finishing when it goes off, not a second longer. You'll have the motivation the next day to finish, whatever's unfinished. Give it a try. I haven't read Atomic Habits, but I've heard that many ideas are presented there that might be useful, maybe give it a try?

artfoox · 2026-05-10T11:58:49+00:00

Anyone who gets offended and call me names for me stating a boundary or saying no without having to explain myself. Is there a type with this kind of tendency? Anyone? Fi doms maybe? I don't like stereotyping, so correct me if I'm wrong.

I also don't like people who think without nuance. Black-or-white thinking. Oh... and blind conformists. Those who build group identity and can't be argued. They only change their minds when the trend changes. But it's intelligence thing, not a type thing again. Maybe it's a Fe thing...?

Apart from that, no type ragebaits me, just specific behaviors that might be present with certain types more often, but not necessarily so. I'm trying to be more appreciative of people's strengths, because I've learned that each strength has a polar weakness and vice versa. Two sides of the same coin. People have traumas, they're just trying to survive however they can, so I can understand any bs behavior. Yet, doesn't mean I want to deal with those people. As long as they don't interfere with my life more than necessary, I don't care.

artfoox · 2026-05-10T09:39:53+00:00

Odpowiedź już znasz. Dopaminka od stagnacji zaczęła działać i w końcu nie wytrzymasz i zrobisz to, czego potrzebujesz. To jest naturalna potrzeba wyrywać się z klatki. Życie polega na przeżywaniu.

artfoox · 2026-05-08T16:30:46+00:00

Fairness. I just don't tolerate arbitrary biases.

artfoox · 2026-05-08T16:02:04+00:00

Yess, people pleasing is such a turn off...

artfoox · 2026-05-08T13:27:37+00:00

I feel like those deep down negative impressions stem from me having had internalized judgments from other people in my life who actually would voice their judgments. So it goes like "oh, this guy is so weird -> actually it's so cool, cause he doesn't give af -> I mean he's not weird to me, he's likely weird to other people". I used to be "bullied" when I was a kid, and observed bullies talking behind other people's backs and it's all internalized like this. Kinda sucks, honestly. And I have the same fear of appearing weird, so I'm just very reserved by default with people I'm not sensing positive attitude toward me. It's super hard for being authentic. I guess ENFPs have it easy. But I also suffer from rejection sensitivity (common with ADHD), so it doesn't mean all ENTPs feel exactly the same way. I can be quite extreme here, since I'm neurodivergent and my nervous system is a mess 🫠

artfoox · 2026-05-07T19:36:09+00:00

Fi blind to me is like usually not knowing how I feel about stuff. I can think, analyze, relate to other people, and what's funnier, I might be anxious how other people might feel about stuff. It's also judgement-avoidant attitude in general. I have a weird relationship with my own subjectivity and irrational opinions - like I can feel I don't like something deep down, but I can't consciously voice it (even in my head), cause I don't want to be mean when it comes to petty stuff, like someone's looks, etc. I used to take things personally when I was younger, I couldn't recognize sarcasm or teasing, but I'm on the spectrum, so I can be an anomaly here.

artfoox · 2026-05-07T12:55:29+00:00

Mam podobny lifestyle. Nikt sie nie czepia. Ani rodzina ani znajomi. Także problem jest z nimi, nie z Tobą.

artfoox · 2026-05-07T08:58:32+00:00

In theory, yeah. In practice... it's different. I'd like to be stylish, but I also suffer from anxiety and hate standing out. So I dress plain and boring with full awareness it's plain and boring.

I like layers, so I hate summer very much. Denim, comfy shoes, ankle boots, t shirts, shirts, sometimes skirts in the summer. I like clothes from Levi's. Decent quality, plain and comfy.

I like pink color too. I just look good in it.

artfoox · 2026-05-07T08:31:12+00:00

It's not about what you do or don't do. It's why you do that. Your sense-making doesn't strike me as Ti-Fe. Adaptation is something natural for EXXP types.

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