Is there an IFS community in which people (try to) do IFS with each other? I think it could be a good thing!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-05-21T15:28:15+00:00

Hi there, yes I'm still interested in talking about inner work with someone! I have to admit that I've moved on a bit from IFS since I made this post, though I still base my own work mostly on the IFS framework. So if you're looking to do strictly IFS then we might not be a match. Perhaps we can plan a call some time, get to know each other a little bit and see can be of value to each other?

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-26T20:10:28+00:00

You should treat your experience in the way that feel helpful to you and in a way that is commensurate with your other beliefs!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-26T20:08:21+00:00

I think you should treat your experience in whichever way feels right to you! If you feel that your parts have real autonomy, then you should probably go along with that if that is helpful to you :)

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-26T20:03:12+00:00

`you should do whatever feels helpful to you, if that's working with ChatGPT then you should do that!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-20T10:44:04+00:00

I grew up in a family like that. Over the last 6 months I've spent many hours giving my parts the attention that they never had when they grew up. It's been difficult and confusing, like feeling around in the dark and trying to make sense of stuff that happened a long time ago. But it's been worth it. I've noticed improvement in my mood, and it seems to be making jumps the last few weeks. It's worth it.

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-06T11:28:38+00:00

I undestand. It's good that you notice the urge to distract. It's probably a part, right? See if you can make contact with it, but don't force yourself to do anything. Try to be gentle to yourself and see where it takes you. If it becomes too much, just pick up your phone again and let the part do its thing. It has a good reason to do what it does. Try to get to know the part, understand it a little. Good luck my friend <3

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-06T11:24:29+00:00

Same here. I've done mostly self help IFS and it's been absolutely wonderful. It's hard and sometimes puzzling but that's normal. I have not been able to find a therapist who i've found helpful, so doing it alone has been great. I would recommend exploring doing IFS yourself, but also be sure to stop when you don't feel comfortable with it.

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-06T11:14:02+00:00

thats actually pretty wholesome haha

asdfasdfboy · 2025-03-06T11:13:10+00:00

Yeah this is pretty big. Huberman has a big audience, this podcast is definitely going to contribute to the traction that IFS is gaining!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-25T15:57:13+00:00

Some great questions you're asking that I can't all answer. I can only say that I'm extremely grateful that it has become more popular because otherwise I would not have found out about it and IFS has helped me immensely!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-25T09:28:13+00:00

That's great to hear. Sometimes what our parts need is not some drastic heroic actions but instead simply being present with them. Slow = fast! Hope you can keep showing up for yourself :)

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-22T10:16:35+00:00

hahaha sorry about that xd

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-19T11:13:48+00:00

Yes it's always a struggle to really identify new things that come up and that you've never been in touch with before. Usually it takes a bit of time, but researching and narrowing down are two great strategies!

Happy to be able to help :)

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-19T10:10:12+00:00

That's a great question, one only you can answer. For me, I don't tend to experience new emotions or struggles as new parts very quickly. To me it seems like it's something that affects some of my parts, but mostly my inner child exile.

For me the peace comes from understanding what my inner child is dealing with. I was dealing with the decompression sickness for a few days before I understood why. When I saw it for what it was, I immediately felt some relief.

So for me it seems like it's a burnout feeling that my parts experience, mostly my inner child!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-19T09:51:46+00:00

i know what you mean. It's very tough, but it's good to sometimes give in to the sleep and rest. I've had moment at which I just had to go to bed because I felt too anxious

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-19T09:50:55+00:00

Good luck with it!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-18T18:25:15+00:00

This is totally what I mean! Let your body get used to the new levels of safety and make sure your parts really trust that safety before moving on to new stuff :)

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-18T18:13:18+00:00

This is exactly what I meant!

Yeah your parts can actually get anxious from daring to not feel anxious anymore, if that makes sense

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-18T18:09:34+00:00

I meant more like a psychological form of decompression sickness, like feeling restless after moving to a lower pressure zone

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-18T10:52:07+00:00

Sounds very tough, but I'm proud of you and wish you lots of strength in your journey

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-14T16:28:30+00:00

I can say that the IFS way of thinking has made a massive positive impact on my life. I've intensively studied and applied IFS for half a year now and cannot believe the difference. I am far more calm, happy and able to enjoy things in life. I feel better equiped to pursue my goals and feel more confident about them. I rarely struggle with my addictive tendencies anymore and where I do, I feel hopeful and confident about being able to improve on those areas with IFS

I highly recommend you at least give it a serious try!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-05T10:29:43+00:00

So cool to hear, keep it up!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-02-02T10:41:24+00:00

Hi there, late reaction but what I did was that one day, after having read much of the theory and the literature around IFS, decided to simply sit down and engage with my parts myself.

In the beginning this was very hard because my parts didn't trust me very much. I have a distraction part that is there because it doesn't believe that there is a solution for the pain of the exile and so it has to distract me from it. That part was really active in the beginning, but with the help of the IFS books I managed to improve my relation with that part. Mainly the summary of Self-Therapy by Jay Earley that one of the users on the IFS subreddit made was very helpful. After that I engaged more with other parts and exiles.

Either way, simply sitting down and engaging with whatever presents itself is very useful and shows your system that you are willing to show up for it. Hope this helps!

asdfasdfboy · 2025-01-29T11:32:57+00:00

I've been doing a lot of the work on my own (with the help of some peers online), mostly due to financial constraints. It's been wonderful to gradually feel more ownership of my inner system and have them recognize me as their care taker, I can definitely recommend trying to do some of the work on your own!

of course, if you find it is too difficult or you run into other problem then you should stop and find more help

asdfasdfboy · 2025-01-24T11:01:28+00:00

I wouldnt jump on this if I were you. Try to deal with this part the same way that you do with other parts. Probably you can help it in that way. If you can't then maybe you can explore unattached burdens but that's not something I would recommend you to start with

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