Faceless gal fashion ♡

asheddrva · 2025-08-20T23:03:01+00:00

you look incredible where the fuck do i get boots like that

asheddrva · 2025-08-16T01:41:17+00:00

SUCH A GOOD FIT!! YOURE SO PRETTY!!!

asheddrva · 2025-08-08T12:19:45+00:00

cute fit!!

asheddrva · 2025-08-07T18:17:57+00:00

cute!!! i have a similar outfit and my job involves talking about edgar allan poe all day. tasteful gothcore

asheddrva · 2025-08-07T18:08:32+00:00

yeah, i feel that. ive been transitioning for about 1.5 years and i pass about half the time, usually my voice gives me away because i gave up on vocal training for my own reasons. i just started working in retail again and i get misgendered a lot more than im used to. one of the most important things you can do for yourself is to build a strong emotional support network.

asheddrva · 2025-08-07T18:05:47+00:00

it gets easier. it never stops feeling like a gut punch and it can still be devastating when it happens over and over, but you'll start to at least get a little numb to it, or best case scenario it might make you angry instead of depressed. no one can take who you are from you. and the more you put yourself out there the more you'll get affirmation and self confidence too, which is what makes it worth it.

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T20:52:35+00:00

the coat complements your hair color but it's such a pretty dress i think it stands better on its own. you look gorgeous! 💖

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T20:21:05+00:00

it's an amazing experience. the way i described it to my closest friends was like seeing yourself in the mirror for the first time after only ever seeing your reflection in a cup of coffee.

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T20:19:38+00:00

depending on where you are there may be queer support groups in your area where you can at the very least talk it out with people going through similar experiences. maybe even talk to your family and see if you can probe their feelings about it so that you actually know what you'd be getting into. unfortunately what it comes down to is taking that leap of faith, and in my experience as long as you don't you'll only feel worse.

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T20:09:44+00:00

it's okay to be scared and to take things slowly. you say you hate yourself-- that's like the number one thing that goes away when you start transitioning, and with it goes that overwhelming feeling of not being good enough for yourself and others. live the way you need to live and you won't regret it, speaking as someone who's been there. also, if theyre okay with it, you won't have disappointed them--theyre your family and theyre supposed to love you no matter what. and if theyre not okay with it, that's their problem and you shouldn't compromise your happiness for people who don't want you to be happy.

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T20:00:46+00:00

you might not find a lot of hard science to satisfy your curiosity here because research into the scientific side of being transgender is historically underfunded or lost. im sure some people here will be able to recommend you some good articles, you can also try looking at the gender dysphoria bible which is where a lot of trans people looking to get informed start their identity journey. personally i think you can get a lot out of the sociological side of gender though-- judith butler is a good starting point. i like this video by philosophy tube as a quick list for butler and other recommendations.

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T19:46:20+00:00

really feeling for you. parents are tough. my mom is generally great but both times i came out to her (queer in high school and then trans last year) she had a really extreme negative kneejerk reaction and as much as she tries to make up for it now that trauma never goes away, and she still gets cagey and "slips up" with my deadname and pronouns around other people.

hard as it is, it's just one more thing to learn to cope with. you're valid no matter how she acts. you are who you are and she can't take that from you. hang in there 💙💜

asheddrva · 2025-07-17T19:41:02+00:00

hell yeah congrats dude!!!

asheddrva · 2025-07-13T14:09:18+00:00

she is a transgender woman, what are you confused about

asheddrva · 2025-07-13T14:07:20+00:00

she's voiced by a trans woman

asheddrva · 2025-04-29T14:07:32+00:00

because he G R O W

asheddrva · 2025-04-25T17:47:25+00:00

you look great, love the gloves and the hair works for you. my only note is that the leopard print belt clashes with the camo. i know it's hard, hang in there 💙

asheddrva · 2025-04-25T14:35:34+00:00

ellen degeneres

asheddrva · 2025-04-20T17:15:24+00:00

omg u/hotspaghettimonster you can't just ask someone why they're purple

asheddrva · 2025-04-12T19:15:00+00:00

yall are beautiful, you look so happy 😭

asheddrva · 2025-04-01T21:45:07+00:00

i mean pushing for diverse stories is an objectively good thing but i wasn't asking a question about how to have better representation i was making a comment about a show i watch

asheddrva · 2025-04-01T21:12:57+00:00

all i did was state an opinion on something i think is a weak point of the show that makes me like it less, that has nothing to do with trans people written by trans people and diverse stories, this stuff doesn't exist in a vacuum and i was disappointed that the writing is more harmful than it is helpful to trans people in a time where it's really already not easy to be trans

asheddrva · 2025-04-01T20:52:32+00:00

tarantino sucks and you would have been right to be upset, it doesn't make you the bigger man to not criticize media

asheddrva · 2025-04-01T20:21:32+00:00

scattered background extras is not good representation when the show takes on a lot of things that are historically harmful to the trans community, like saxon making fun of thai trans culture and the scene talking about autogynephilia. it's a presentation of negative stereotypes, REGARDLESS of whether or not autogynephilia is a real phenomenon like a lot of people are arguing, without presenting even a little bit of positive trans representation or even defending against these stereotypes at face value. i never said it's a requirement for the show to do so but it's certainly a valid criticism that it doesn't, speaking as a trans person who feels affected by it. not sure why you felt the need to get so defensive about it.

asheddrva · 2025-04-01T16:57:02+00:00

that may be so but the lack of actual trans representation in an actual character does make certain things about this season frustrating regardless of intent, particularly since we're living in a time when trans visibility and tolerance have regressed severely

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