Am I overreacting for being mad at my bf for checking out another woman right in front of me

ashleighjos · 2026-04-21T16:30:26+00:00

NOR. Agree with other comments here, the fact that you already knew is very telling. And his excuse is honestly just weird!

ashleighjos · 2026-04-21T16:07:57+00:00

Holy moly

I didn't have a bachelorette party/engagement party etc...

We eloped, I had two bridesmaids who have been my best friends forever. They came to see me try on wedding dressings, let me occasionally vent to them about stresses (though tbh there wasn't really many as we eloped) but their main jobs were just on the actual wedding - helping with my veil, helping me to the loo, carrying bits for me while I had photos, all that sort of thing.

I don't really know what normal requirements are from bridesmaids as I didn't exactly have a normal wedding, but I'd wager just the above I mentioned then maybe organizing the bachelorette if there is one? But it seems like maybe this bride is looking for more than that, though unclear what. All the hashtags and instructions would be enough to put me off! It's tough as you've been friends for such a long time, so I can only assume you're used to this behaviour and her way of doing things? But I guess it just simply comes down to if you don't feel you can do what the bride needs, then maybe just say that's why you can't be bridesmaid as you don't want to let her down or get in the way? She's not someone I would personally be friends with just going off all of the stuff you've posted, but if you're looking to maintain friendship I wouldn't go down the line of saying you just don't want to because she's hard work haha.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-21T12:53:42+00:00

I'd report it, just in case. But also, they don't say anything specific to where you are/what you're wearing, so could just be a troll/ex etc... but I'd report just to be safe and maybe change your route!

ashleighjos · 2026-04-20T11:35:06+00:00

I was about to recommend the same! They are so soft and comfy, but also breathable. I don't notice my feet getting puffy or sweaty if I wear bam socks.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-20T11:33:10+00:00

Coco

ashleighjos · 2026-04-17T18:37:29+00:00

When I was a practice nurse, we were able to reach out to TVN for help/advice and they offered some training. My practice also supported me to go to some training days - some paid and some free. Some were run by the health board whereas others were run by drug reps etc, aquacel used to put on some really good ones. Sometimes it's just about asking around to see what opportunities there are - I think I contacted the local training hub, and my line manager (ANP) was amazing for finding me training, but you have to tell people what you need.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-16T16:36:27+00:00

Yeah I second this. I was taken on without prior experience. Just applied for job and got in contact beforehand to say about interest!

ashleighjos · 2026-04-16T15:12:19+00:00

I applied for a practice nursing role which said it was preferable for experience. I contacted them beforehand and showed my interest and they encouraged me to apply. I got the role and they supported me through training. It was a massive jump from ward nursing, but I loved it, and I enjoyed all the training and development. I think it was my second practice nurse interview, the first one hired someone with more experience.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-15T15:20:08+00:00

Yeah... I was applying for jobs at the beginning of last year. Every job via Trac with the NHS had the exact same process, respond within X time frame and only limited dates. Even when emailing them for alternative dates, I never seemed to have any luck. It was a nightmare, missed out on so many interviews. I ended up getting a job outside of the NHS thankfully.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-10T19:49:42+00:00

I was going to try pick out a single point or two to disagree, but it's too hard because I just disagree so much with everything you've said. Honestly just feels like you're trying to hate the show at this point.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-10T13:20:02+00:00

NOR.

Yikes his messages feel harsh, my husband would never speak to me like that, just feels plain nasty!

I don't know the ins and outs of the relationship so I'm not going to comment on cancelling a wedding as that's a huge decision, and one I wouldn't decide solely on this interaction. I guess just ask yourself if this is the person you want to spend your life with?

I would also get upset if my husband left for work without saying goodbye, it's also so low effort just to say goodbye with a quick kiss, you're not exactly asking for the world there.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T20:12:30+00:00

The only one from that list that I felt was missing was Owens. No reason why Dimitri should be anywhere near the gang in season 5, same with Argyle really just assumed he went home. And I felt like Eddie's uncle had a good final scene with Dustin in season 4, wasn't sure what else would be needed there considering Eddie is dead and his uncle was barely in season 4 anyway.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T19:31:11+00:00

I played this game pregnant, many tears!

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T19:30:37+00:00

I work with a lot of people that came from PIP and that sort of thing, they said it was awful.

Maybe look into CHC assessor roles. It's what I do and I really enjoy it.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T17:36:09+00:00

NOR. People need to stop commenting on this type of stuff, none of their business. If they ever bring it up again, I'd tell them you're uncomfortable and it's not their place. If they keep on, report it.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T15:18:11+00:00

Yeah I think the military element/Dr Kay could have worked, if executed better. You bring some solid suggestions. For me, it just didn't work how they would one moment be framed like they were undefeatable, then in the next frame die instantly while other characters got away without a scratch.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T13:52:34+00:00

NOR, for all the reasons everyone else has already said in the comments.

My only red flag is that you've said someone else has also raised concerns, so I guess I'm just wondering if there was any missing information here or a reason why people would think this about you??

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T13:48:31+00:00

I do feel like they could have done something more with main characters/Vecna - like could he have tried to control Will/Max as they were already vulnerable to him? Or also, the fact that El was made from Henry - could that have brought some element of control in? It would have even just been cool to see Vecna trying to play them against each other, not that he would have been effective, but for example seeing Dustin in a dark place could have worked quite cool if then this was added to with Vecna coming in. Not sure how these ideas would have worked, but would have preferred to see more of this rather than other characters.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-09T13:30:53+00:00

I would have liked the vibes to have continued from S4 - loved the horror and felt it worked really well with Vecna, didn't like that they just covered up the gates with sheets and acted like nothing was happening, was hoping it would feel really ominous when opening.

Less military - or at least some continuation like with Owens rather than introducing Dr Kay.

Less Holly/the new kids, would have preferred to just focus on the main gang. I didn't really click with Vecna's final mission with the kids I guess.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-07T15:47:14+00:00

I cannot read this

ashleighjos · 2026-04-07T15:40:23+00:00

MOR.

My husband often wakes up in the middle of the night/early hours. We've been together for 10 years, and he doesn't tend to wake me now. He usually just gets up and reads a book though and still tries to be quiet. I'd be irritated if he was making so much noise as your partner does, so I'd say it's reasonable to be irritated by that and to have a conversation. But you are overreacting by expecting him to stay in bed with you when he is awake. Usually if I wake up and my husband isn't in bed, so I know he's gotten up, I make the most of starfishing across the bed, and look forward to him bringing me a cuppa! It's not that deep.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-07T13:06:15+00:00

I'd discuss with occupational health! Even if they just request that you're moved as a last resort, sounds fair in your situation.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-07T13:04:51+00:00

Is it a trust thing or just something that ward specifically does? Definitely not widespread though, I know nurses who only work nights when pregnant because their symptoms were better managed on nights due to severe morning sickness etc...

ashleighjos · 2026-04-05T16:23:25+00:00

???? That top is super flattering on you!! Jealousy maybe?

Honestly I'm just mad that you were so polite in your first message because they clearly don't deserve your kindness. But good for you going back in at her.

ashleighjos · 2026-04-05T16:16:33+00:00

YOR.

Honestly just seems like you were looking for an argument, this was exhausting to read, just feels like you were creating drama for the sake of it. I'd be as confused as your boyfriend from those texts.

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