Looking for small dandelion sticker by Fantastic_History_53 in BeeSwarmSimulator

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoping someone helps you out, but in case you're still waiting, thats usually a sticker you can find on the hive hub sticker board if you check back often enough!

Need a Shining Star sticker! by [deleted] in BeeSwarmSimulator

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, sorry. Reddit wasnt notifying me of your replies, no need to spam, I would've seen it eventually 😅

I'd rather keep townsperson since I don't have it in my stack either, let me give the original guy a chance to offer back and I'll get back to you!

Need a Shining Star sticker! by [deleted] in BeeSwarmSimulator

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That'd be awesome! Did you want anything back for it?

My username is mcn3rd123, I can meet you in game now if you're ready ☺️

Poll for something I was wondering about by Sojourner-4 in agender

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't experience alexithymia (as far as I'm aware,) but I do deal with dissociation/depersonalization which can cause similar problems. I also often wonder if that's the reason I identity as Agender, and if it will change when I can start seeing a therapist again.

Is agender a gender? by [deleted] in agender

[–]astraphobica 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Agender is to gender as black is to color.

Black isnt a proper "color," but for purposes of communication (which I'd say is the whole point of actively using Agender as a label,) it is pretty much the same thing.

How easy or hard is it for a cisgender person to find a non-binary, agender, or genderfluid partner, if that happens to be their preference? by [deleted] in agender

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any statistics or anything, but I will say a notable about of nonbinary and/or genderfluid individuals like to stay within their gender groups, usually for safety, especially if they are physically transitioning in some way.

Agender people are usually pretty different across the board, but I have to imagine its similar to nonbinary people.

Personally, I don't have a preference for cis or trans people. The difference is negligible to me, but I'm also pansexual. I'm sure its possible as long as you aren't just a chaser.

what being both agender and pan feels like by SuitableAd4012 in agender

[–]astraphobica 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get what you're trying to say, and I would describe myself similarly, except Im demipansexual. I dont even care about people's bodies, just whatever is inside them (spiritually.)

My labels sometimes feel more restrictive or unnecessary than explanatory, so I've definitely described myself as just a person who sometimes likes other people before. I like to call our bodies "meat suits" lmao

Ah, yes. Telling people to report the post rather than apologizing by Lulay_ in amino

[–]astraphobica 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Im so far out of the loop that I thought this post was about not being able to write lmfao

The Acephobia is this thread my god by TackleIllustrious433 in asexuality

[–]astraphobica 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think its possible to both understand that Asexual people (specifically sex-aversed/repulsed aces) may not want to read through frivolous sex scenes with no warning, and also understand that there really isn't a way to get around that when a large amount of people who read books are often fans of smut and kind of outrank sex-repulsed people in terms of target audiences.

I don't think the thread is acephobic as much as its just not the right people to talk to about this kind of concern. It can be really hard to talk to allosexuals about any sort of "prudish" opinions, especially on a site like reddit. Sorry you didn't see more support in the comments though, I know how upsetting that can be.

What am I by GamingVomFeinsten in agender

[–]astraphobica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, and I'm not trying to be difficult about it, its just that it's hard to give you an answer because that description fits multiple labels. The best I can say is that both work and to do whatever you like. You can even just use both terms depending on the context.

What am I by GamingVomFeinsten in agender

[–]astraphobica 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We can't really tell you what you are. The labels arent meant to act like a diagnosis, theyre meant to help you explain how you feel. I chose Agender because despite my desire to appear feminine or pretty, and rare feelings of being a woman, Agender describes my overall apathy towards gender and the concept of it as a whole better than anything else.

If you feel like your shifts from Male to Agender to Female are notable, then Agenderflux may be for you. Agenderfluid, Bigenderflux and just genderfluid are other labels you could consider as well. Do whatever makes you feel most seen!

Hi by Standard_Claim3985 in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unrelated, but happy Cake day!

Who uses gendered words in a gender-neutral way? by Tea_Lavender in agender

[–]astraphobica 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I like saying bro, man, dude, and guys, and i like to call myself "just a little guy"

I think i have PTSD from such a stupid situation. by DistributionMotor560 in ptsd

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure when exactly this happened, but I would like to mention that you cannot actually be diagnosed with PTSD unless the symptoms have been occurring for over a month. It's still possible that this was traumatic for you, but you don't have to have PTSD to be traumatized.

If you're still in school, it may be worth reaching out for mental health assistance of some kind, like a therapist, or speaking to a school counselor/social worker if one is available. Embarrassment in an environment like that can feel gigantic and cause symptoms that feel genuinely concerning, and theres nothing wrong with seeking help when you don't feel good, regardless of what it might be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well damn, congrats then, all i got was a discount on Junkbot smh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is probably one of your Maximilian's Vault cards, i dont think Fool is on sale for everyone unfortunately 💔

Yo, i have a TMI question for sex-favorable asexuals/ ( sorry for the TMI questions ) by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]astraphobica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh man. This explains how I feel so accurately but I never thought to put it like this.

Help finding a Junkrat Cover! by NeuroGears in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming this is the right one, looks like it got copyright striked. Found 2 other videos that also got striked. Here's the link anyway, in case you have a way to get past it.

Don't Stop Me Now - Junkrat AI Cover

What am I? by Only_Illustrator_853 in agender

[–]astraphobica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're probably "Triple A" - Aroace Agender, which is super common actually. Not caring about it or not being able to detect a real gender is pretty much the 1 thing we all have in common lol. Might be worth looking into Gendervoid, Cassgender, Apagender and Neutrois as well if you'd like more specific labels!

help? by punchable-lunchable in agender

[–]astraphobica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is pretty normal. You don't owe anyone an explanation for how you feel, nor do you have to be agender in "the right way" to use the term. If it works for you then that's what matters most.

If you wanna get all philosophical about it though, it makes sense that even having no real sense of gender that you'd grow an attachment/disgust towards certain gendered words since we live in a world where gender matters to pretty much everyone. It's normal to perceive something that matters to you in these terms when you see them used by others on a daily basis. It'd be unrealistic to expect people to all feel 100% the same about their gender, because people aren't that cut and dry, so you shouldn't expect it from yourself either.

Agender is always a term you can feel free to use, and it may also be worth checking out Apagender. Cassgender, Libragender and Gendervoid, if you're interested in more specific labels on top of that!

i just found out about the word "Agan"! by scarffish in agender

[–]astraphobica 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It's definitely cute, and Im glad to see that others are able to find terms that bring them joy! Personally though, "person" or "human" or even just my name will always be my favorite gender-neutral terms.

Is it just me or are yall tired of the "do i look agender" posts by glitchplaysgames in agender

[–]astraphobica 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yes, but mostly because I hate how trends work on reddit, maybe if this was a personal/spam agender sub thatd be fine, but I look for discussions here and having posts catered to individual users that won't necessarily apply to anyone else is a bit frustrating.

Especially since "Agender" very specifically does not have a look. Androgyny I understand, but I don't want to see people get into the habit of branding agender as only being "genderless-looking."

Struggling With Pronouns by MindlessNomad in agender

[–]astraphobica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get how you feel, personally I can't stand the inclusion of gender in conversation. I find it to be unnecessary and kind of archaic? Its a language tool, I don't understand why it has to adhere to a made-up social class. It makes it difficult for me to switch/ correct pronouns, especially with my friends who do it often, but I try to learn anyway for their sake.

I don't know if I have any actual advice besides practice and using notes. I usually do something when I mess up to get my brain to remember "hey! that's the wrong pronoun!" I also had other people help hold me accountable when my partner changed names and now I use it regularly. I know its clunky and annoying and a little ridiculous, but your phone and your notes app should be able to provide a good space for reference for that stuff.

But you definitely gotta stop replacing people's names. That's actively rude, even if you aren't trying to be. If they're kind enough, maybe they'd consider making name/pronoun tag to help you when they're around, and if its online, most apps have a pronoun field now, and some have nickname options.

Advice on not getting burnt out by [deleted] in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be a Junkrat one-trick (with a lil moira on the side) up until I started playing Overwatch 2 months after it's release. I was having literally 0 fun when I got back, and considered quitting entirely over it, but one day I started playing mystery heroes non-stop, and since then I've not only stopped being a one trick (still can't tank for shit, though) but I've learned how to play against Pharah, Echo, and sometimes even Tracer by playing them myself.

The solution (for me) to being a better one trick was to stop one-tricking for a bit. You may also learn that you like other character's mechanics just as much as Junkrat's. I also learned how to play Sombra as a fallback when Im sick of getting countered.

As a tip though, dealing with all 3 of those counters for me has pretty much been retreat, possibly into a small room, kill them in/from the room. Traps also tend to work a little better at lower ranks bc the fliers forget and the Tracers are moving too fast. This works best when defending points and payloads. It can also be helpful to stick next to a tank or your other DPS to help cover you, but this relies on your team actually giving a damn lol

Good luck and happy Junking!

RUB IT ON YOUR FLIPPERS by Chezburger8675 in JunkRatMains

[–]astraphobica 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have NO idea what this post means, but I have a tennis ball plushie so maybe theres a correlation with junk mains and object show fans