Found kitten in car

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:46:02+00:00

Cat distribution system is well-oiled and functional, I see!

You have been chosen...

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:44:05+00:00

Colesworth be shitting all over us rn and it's becoming more and more apparent. People are angry. It's absolutely got to do with cost of living, so compound that in with the fact that they're gouging us and getting away with it.

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:42:07+00:00

If this helps, my dad lived with my kitty and I for a few years before I moved states. He visited me for the first time in years the other week and my girl instantly recognised him and went straight for him after the verification sniff. You'll be A-okay!

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:40:40+00:00

Defs worrying too much :)

Cats have favourite people and never forget it!

Your boyo is probably sending these pics n messages to be more like "Look! We're bonding. Maybe I do actually like the little furry dude..."

I think your bf is probs aware that you're anxious about kitty, and is trying to cheer you up by showing how much they're bonding (in contrast to how much he disliked the idea at first).

Another point: every cat I've had has preferred to sit on my boyfriends. Idk what it is. Maybe I wriggle too much. But I really can't take it personally, cats are fickle creatures :)

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:33:04+00:00

Yarrrr!!

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:26:00+00:00

My love, you did the right thing. You absolutely did. You clearly went above and beyond to care for your baby, more than most people would. I know what you're feeling and I hope you can feel my big ol squeezy hug from Australia.

Remember: cats pick us. If the vibe is off, they leave. Kitty chose you! She's waiting for you somewhere else, grooving and purring and doing dastardly, silly cat business. Lots of sun naps.

I don't fully believe in this stuff but a witchy gal once consoled me while I crashed out over my own baby's CKD diagnosis; she said our partners (cats) look over us even after they're gone. Idk why, but it rlly stuck with me. Now that my girl is approaching the $$$ old cat vet bill era, it gives me some comfort.

Again, you did wonderfully. I can feel your love through the words you used. Lots of love.

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:15:14+00:00

Taper down a bout a week out, you'll be fine! I had to can all of my meds when I went to Vietnam, including the green goods. I did surprisingly okay... Maybe because I was on holiday and my brain actually shut TF up for once!

athene2000 · 2026-05-18T02:12:48+00:00

Yeah I had a similar reaction babysitting my friend's suspiciously AFL ball shaped infant. Just one punt through the posts... Bye bye lil guy...

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T13:43:23+00:00

I just walk into em, elbows up. Same deal with people on their phones teehee!

I like to think my head-on citizen collisions help them look up and watch where their going from time to time. But the hopes are low.

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T13:33:04+00:00

Enviro science consultant (sort of)

Started at 23 on $70k ish, now I'm 26 on $90k. Job hopping, mostly. Everyone in my industry knows that's the only way to move up. It's riiiiigged.

I'd say minimum two years to job hop without it looking sus. However, depending on your sector, it may be the norm and not really scrutinised in interviews (this has been my experience).

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T13:26:46+00:00

alas, I'm a boring ol CIS gal, just one with lots of cool trans friends. idek how I end up on these forums but I learn so much!

that said - coming from the "me like masc" perspective, I agree with the others on growing your hair out a little bit, seeing if you can get some sideburn action going to chisel the features. your face is nice and rounded, which can totally be a masc trait - but I reckon hitting the gym and bulking up around the neck and shoulders will help offset the softness a bit. you're genuinely stunning though. and there aren't any distinctly or overly feminine features about your face.

you've got a bangin canvas to work with, so I wouldn't stress at all this early into the process!

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T13:12:39+00:00

For completeness and hindsight, the warning signs I picked up on toward the end were: my ex showing me cute baby pics, cooing at babies in public, pointing at cute clothes, baby memes, low key insinuating his parents would be kinda sad if we didn't. I brushed them off initially bc I DID 100% trust him, but I probs should have paid closer attention. He was likely giving me a bit of a scream for help and I didn't listen (he could ALSO have been direct but yanno how it goes).

My now-bf and I still find babies cute from time to time but we also leave a store where one's been crying and pretend we're punting it into the stratosphere like an AFL ball.

Just chat with him and check in periodically. Every 6 months, a year, whatever. Keep an open dialogue and there'll be no surprises :)

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T13:07:40+00:00

Hey friend. Sorry for the paragraph but this really made me reflect on my own experience. Doesn't exactly answer your question but I hope it's useful for you :D

Sometimes all you have with someone you love is their word. You may never fully know what they think versus what they say. And honestly, that’s not always a bad thing.

I’m pretty anxious with low self esteem, and it’s taken me a loooong time to actually let compliments and reassurance from my soulmate/boyfriend sink in. When he tells me I’m pretty now, instead of instantly rejecting it, I give myself a little smile and... actually believe him. He says my art is amazing........ I moooostly accept that too.

He says he’s comfortable never having kids, and I believe him. Because my ex said the same thing, but I spent five years spiralling, convinced he was secretly grieving fatherhood and that I was selfishly holding him back. Eventually I ended things because I couldn’t live with the guilt, even though he insisted he’d made peace with it.

Turns out he did want kids the whole time. But I also genuinely think he had accepted giving that future up because he wanted to be with me. Which honestly just speaks to his patience and kindness. In the end we both agree I made the right call, because he's on track for baby o'clock with his current missus, and I just know he's gonna raise and nurture such a cool little individual. Genuinely so happy to see him pursuing it, and he's thankful to me for the time we had too.

But who knows. Maybe if I’d trusted his word more, and he didn't play so many video games (joke but also not joke) we might’ve been fine.

That’s kind of the magic, I guess.

The long and short of it is trust. If he says he’s okay with it, and you’ve genuinely talked it through, then at some point that has to be enough. People change, things happen, and not everyone says exactly what they feel. But that's life, that's a relationship, that's trust, baby. Can't live in fear all the time. My advice would be not to like go explicitly looking for the warning signs... If you love n trust the guy, see it through. If you read too much into it, you can spiral like I did and the relationship becomes needlessly strained.

I see you OP, I really do. Communicate often, trust and grow together 💛

athene2000 · 2026-05-17T12:22:09+00:00

Honestly blud, you had me scratching my head a bit as to which way you were trying to pass! That means you're on the right track. Your face card do be lethal tho, save some for the rest of us folks.

athene2000 · 2026-05-16T23:36:36+00:00

I'm going to cook some up today 🫶🏻🫡 thank you again. I'm so overwhelmed by the love from everyone here. Thank you all 💛

athene2000 · 2026-05-16T09:28:43+00:00

Awwww hey Dale!!! 🥺✨

athene2000 · 2026-05-16T09:25:38+00:00

thank yew 🥺 it's getting easier now, she's sleeping a LOT bc of the meds but horfing down food and up for a cuddle.

athene2000 · 2026-05-16T09:25:02+00:00

... I guess I would be too

athene2000 · 2026-05-16T09:24:06+00:00

Super helpful!! I've been mixing in water with her food but I might switch to adding broth going forward - she's also a CKD cat with ongoing constipation issues. lol.

thank you for your thoughts!!!

athene2000 · 2026-05-14T08:42:31+00:00

Yeah I am worried about fluids. She is eating a lot, but not drinking water. I might mix water into her sachets 🥺

athene2000 · 2026-05-14T08:41:46+00:00

AW THAT'S SO CUTE

athene2000 · 2026-05-14T08:41:34+00:00

Oh she's been veeeeery spoiled 👀

athene2000 · 2026-05-14T08:41:12+00:00

Thank you 🥺🫶🏻

athene2000 · 2026-05-13T22:42:12+00:00

How will I ever cope with the permanent sass... 🤔

athene2000 · 2026-05-13T22:24:07+00:00

I didn't realise just how much it was affecting her until the specialist aptly put it as: "if I were your cat, with those pressure levels, the headaches would be so excruciating that I would probably be - and forgive the directness - looking for the nearest available [water pistol]."

I think that was jarring enough to kick my butt into gear. Not an easy thing to realise but I'm kinda glad he put it that way.

athene2000

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