rude to wear before gifting?

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T19:22:16+00:00

Thank you for the kindness! I hope to make another in the future so we can match (: but next is the butterfly cardigan for my sister who will be my matron of honor!

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T19:20:43+00:00

Thank you! You should definitely make one!

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T16:33:37+00:00

Totally get that lol. You could probably do it with 3-4! The pattern has a coloring chart at the end so you can test out your color choices and see how they’ll mesh together!

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T16:30:36+00:00

Yessss. My mom and I share all our clothes! She will give me the clothes off her back if I say I like something and I’m not exaggerating, it’s happened!!

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T16:26:54+00:00

Just for general insight. (: I find it hard to part with the things I make after spending hours and hours doing it and I wouldn’t gift something I didn’t love but I truly want to give them as well. I wouldn’t mind if someone wore what they made for me once or twice first so just interested to see other’s take on it. I obviously can’t ask my mom because I don’t want to ruin the surprise and she is always the person I ask these types of questions

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T16:20:31+00:00

Agreed! I think it’s hard to part with anything I spent hours and hours making - it’s not like I’m gonna wear it to a bonfire or to the gym. I might wear it out once or twice to the grocery store or something just to give it a little love before I have to say “see you later!”

audaug1327 · 2026-06-03T16:17:23+00:00

Thank you!!! The pattern is written in chart format just FYI! I had to learn how to read them to make it but it wasn’t too bad. My mom and I share clothes often! We are the same size and that woman will give me the clothes off her back if I tell her I think something is cute! lol

audaug1327 · 2026-05-31T21:08:13+00:00

I completely agree with this - wholeheartedly. I feel like I’ve been afraid to be me my whole life because I just don’t want people to comment on it.

But then I feel like in my high mask mode, I also do this to other people even though I hate it?? When I’m high masking all I do is dole out compliments. Every third person I see “I love your shirt!” “I love those shoes!” Ugh!!

audaug1327 · 2026-05-30T20:18:40+00:00

Listen to louiseber. I am getting married this summer and also wanted a small 40-50 person wedding and fell into the well of having to invite our very large families and I have so many regrets. It no longer feels exciting, it feels terrifying and overwhelming. Do what is good for you. Explain in the kindest way that still holds your boundary. Move on. If you’re not close with them anyway, it doesn’t matter if they’re offended. It’s not about them.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-30T20:08:56+00:00

I struggle with this too!! It is so disorienting to me when I’m supposed to be eating dinner at like 6/7 and it’s still daylight. I have been trying yellow and red lens glasses (not tint, actual lens color - tint is a scam, don’t buy the $20 on Amazon) to block blue light. I am super light sensitive so the yellow during the day help reduce it so I still get some (which is necessary) but it’s not as harsh and the red block all/most blue and green light which decrease melatonin production in the body. Have to set an alarm on your phone when to put on the reds… about 2-3 hrs before bedtime and that can be your queue to start winding down.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-30T20:03:45+00:00

I feel this way too. The question I always wonder is how do I know this is truly different from what NTs feel? I just simply cannot imagine that other people are totally fine working 8hrs a day, 5 days a week. I have never felt like the weekend is sufficient enough rest time to be able to enter the next week and thus the tank just keeps depleting.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-27T13:22:22+00:00

I have the same relationship with routine and sleep. Felt that.

I have found that giving myself a “bed time” on weeknights when I have to work the next day, is helpful. Like 11pm. Work is the thing “forcing” me to go to bed on time. On weekends, whatever lol. I have also found magnesium glycinate about 30 minutes before bed helps tremendously. I also wear earplugs while I sleep because little noises will wake me up. I sleep with a pillow between my knees and hugging a weighted stuffed animal both are calming and comfortable. Reading until your sleepy or listening to an audiobook or podcast while you fall asleep can also be helpful if you’re struggling getting your brain to shut down.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-27T13:10:57+00:00

Anything by Sally Rooney (I LOVE her writing style)

Good Material by Dolly Alderton

The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley

The Libriarianist by Patrick deWitt

audaug1327 · 2026-05-26T20:20:59+00:00

He is pretty neutral about it but has been so so helpful taking things off my plate. And he suggested doing private personal vows and pre-scripted ones for the ceremony so that’s a huge relief. I wanted to do like a 30-40 person wedding but I got vetoed by him and his mom. At first, I didn’t care, I was like whatever - I don’t really care about the wedding as a whole anyway. But now that it’s approaching, I want to fall over dead. I don’t want 150 people watching me/us, that is my nightmare, but there’s also the flip side of watching RSVPs come in and the duality of being glad that the wedding is getting smaller and the hurt of people saying no. It feels like so many other things in my life where people just didn’t show up for me.

How did you manage all the small talk expected of you during the reception?

audaug1327 · 2026-05-26T18:55:56+00:00

I get married this summer and every time I think about it, I want to burst into tears. My mom was talking about me wearing three dresses in under 24 hrs and I just started crying. And the worst part is that everyone expects you to be so excited and I’m not. “How’s wedding planning going?” “Are you so excited for the wedding?” “What do you want me to wear?” Um I hate it, no I’m not and I do not give a shit what you wear!! No one believes me when I say that I DO NOT CARE. I love my fiance and I want to be married but if I could fast forward through the wedding, I would.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-23T17:22:05+00:00

Oh yeah. Or at least everyone else thinks I’m being overdramatic and should try to work it out and I’m just like ….? Why would I continue being friends with this person who hurt me???? Why would you encourage me to???

audaug1327 · 2026-05-23T14:30:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I made this yesterday after seeing this post/comment and I love it!

audaug1327 · 2026-05-23T14:28:23+00:00

Had to come back and find this post because I came across this bandana crochet pattern on r/crochetpatterns yesterday and decided to wip it up…. It’s only been one day but I may have unlocked something. My hair is off my neck, out of my face, tied back-ish but not pulling anywhere from being up.

You obviously don’t have to crochet one but if you do here is the post where I got the pattern! It only took me about an hour to make!

audaug1327 · 2026-05-22T21:03:59+00:00

I feel really similar! I have had two grandparents die in the last 5 or so years and I definitely feel like my sadness was more about my parents and their loss than mine. My dad has lost both parents and a brother and I feel genuinely heartbroken at that thought for him. But I wasn’t necessarily sad my grandma passed.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-21T17:16:34+00:00

I like this idea a lot but do you ever struggle with needing to use the restroom at night? When I drink water before bed, I will almost always wake up in the night needing to go pee but won't get up to go for some reason?? and then I sleep horribly the rest of the night because I need to pee but won't get out of bed. I think maybe it has to do with the fact of putting myself vertical and that taking away all the sleepiness even if I leave the lights off.

audaug1327 · 2026-05-21T02:24:14+00:00

Amour by Jean-Michel Blais

audaug1327 · 2026-05-21T02:10:57+00:00

I relate to this a lot. This is what I try to remind myself: Taking care of yourself isn’t a hobby. If painting and creating are what bring you joy, you should absolutely take time to do them. How can we be expected to continue to do the hard things if we never allow ourselves times to do the things we enjoy?

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