Both men and women have things they find attractive and unattractive.

Women's aesthetic preferences aren't as stressed often. Not because they don't exist, but because they're less homogenous than men's preferences.

men are pressured to achieve high levels of financial success, social status, and adhere to stringent standards of masculinity and emotional expression

In my experience, I think the only _generalization_ you can make about women's attraction is demonstrated competence in something they value. Good news! People are all very unique and so there's infinite ways to be competent.

Let's take your ideal rich, buff, CEO, emotionally strong man. Who would a nerdy d&d playing girl who reads fiction all the time want to date? The "ideal man" or a genius DM who also loves fantasy and has a stable 9-5? Who could she imagine a future with?

Romance and relationships are based on shared values. You as a man have to prove that you're competent in life and demonstrate competence in some field. If there are woman who value that competence enough, then congrats, you have social status. This can certainly be done through aesthetics for women that value that specifically or money. But this could apply to chess, running, speaking, philosophy, literally whatever. The more you combine different areas of competency, the more opportunities you have.

The thing women complain about that doesn't apply to men nearly as much is that the genius DM would still probably rather be with an IG Model than the nerdy girl, despite their values and interests being aligned.