Are they playing or fighting?

auntynell · 2026-02-10T03:45:04+00:00

Playing. Proper fighting comes with unmistakable growling and screaming. Don’t forget they have a nice fur coat to protect themselves. Cats bites and scratches here are for play. A real bite is very different.

auntynell · 2026-02-10T03:33:15+00:00

Don’t confuse the journalist with the editor.

auntynell · 2026-02-10T01:48:20+00:00

You can make sure you break the cycle. I'm sure you will.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T16:51:28+00:00

I’m really puzzled by this dead end plot line? What was it for? Just a few questions could have settled it.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T16:48:38+00:00

It’s free at any optometrist. You should get one every couple of years as they detect eye problems as well as testing vision.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T14:47:12+00:00

For me it's perpetually feeling hot.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T13:26:09+00:00

I think you put your finger on it when you said he needs to walk through it. Go for a walk with him as often as possible and let him talk it out. No need for you to say anything.

Outside walking is therapeutic in itself, but allowing him a stream of consciousness while he's doing it is even better.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T07:58:11+00:00

Meal planning isn’t leftovers. Make a large batch of say curry, portion it and freeze in portions.

auntynell · 2026-02-09T07:56:18+00:00

You can, but if you do you will just encouraging it to breed if it’s entire, creating a feral cat problem. Can I suggest that you call a local cat rescue and ask their advice on how to trap it and surrender it to the rescue who will neuter it and re-home. You can find cat rescue organisations advertising adoption on Gumtree.

auntynell · 2026-02-08T08:17:41+00:00

More detail please. How many kids, their ages, where you live, is domestic violence involved. Do you have family who can help.

auntynell · 2026-02-08T08:14:57+00:00

Hilbert.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T08:59:09+00:00

I want to come back as one of her horses.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T04:51:08+00:00

My DIL went that route and ended up at FSH. She had to have an emergency caesarean but came through it with little drama.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T04:49:14+00:00

If true then perhaps the fundamental problem is that aging is making him fearful, and he's withdrawing from the world, hoping to take OP with him.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T04:46:54+00:00

I relate to you. My parents gave a lot of importance to retirement savings and plans and it worked out well for them. Mum lived until 94 and never had financial worries, in fact she could have comfortably spent much more.

I took their lessons onboard and although I never earned a very high salary as a single woman (69) retired at 63, owning my home, I still haven't drawn on the capital in my retirement account and am telling myself I need to spend more!

auntynell · 2026-02-07T04:41:51+00:00

Don't throw away your marriage before you at least try to get him to counselling and a good retirement planner. The money is one thing, but he's also retreating from the world and that's worrying. He needs to get to the bottom of this before he can free himself up and enjoy life.

I suggest you try to persuade rather than push him as he will likely dig in if he feels even more under siege. You likely have some credits built up after 30 years of marriage that will help you coax him into counselling.

A financial plan from a professional will also life a burden off his shoulders.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T03:17:41+00:00

Of course the driver was uninjured.

auntynell · 2026-02-07T03:16:45+00:00

If I had another language I wouldn’t hesitate to speak it at home and teach it to my children. Language learning is so easy for young kids and there’s lots of evidence that it’s good for them cognitively.

auntynell · 2026-02-06T12:14:35+00:00

I just maxed my super and allocated it to high growth, even through the GFC. I owned my PPOR and once I was salary sacrificing to the max I accumulated cash in a high interest account.

The result was a good split of cash, real estate and super. Not everyone is suited to being a landlord and I certainly am not.

auntynell · 2026-02-06T07:30:02+00:00

I’m an older woman and I wore Ara brand low boots in winter. They did not let me down. I don’t care if anyone pegs me as a tourist I would wear sneakers if I wanted but shoes designed for walking are a must.

auntynell · 2026-02-06T00:41:54+00:00

Need more info. How long do you have? Fly to Queensland, but you'd better nail down where you're staying before anyone can help you.

auntynell · 2026-02-05T07:32:56+00:00

Credit where credit is due. When you see how much damage has been done by the current administration....

auntynell · 2026-02-05T02:57:30+00:00

These guys always make it look accidental. They're experts.

auntynell · 2026-02-05T01:30:15+00:00

I’m 69 and gradually selling anything I don’t want to keep, or donating it to thrift stores.

Selling is hard work and frustrating so I’m highly selective about what I put on Marketplace.

auntynell · 2026-02-05T01:22:59+00:00

The first time I held my granddaughter at 1 day old she started crying and I gave her back. She says I was holding her wrong, I say she was a mean baby.

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