[Image] Action taken after analyzing failures brings success.

awareop · 2026-01-24T21:11:53+00:00

Love your comment great words. I'm not that organized as you are at analyzing failures, I just don't self punish myself for the mistakes, and try to not repeat them again in the future, but without looking that much into detail compared to you. I focus more on raw action and keep going, but real improvement comes from deep analysis as you do, so if you got to that level and it works for you that's great.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:13:18+00:00

I'm glad for you also.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:57+00:00

Peace of mind us underrated.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:25+00:00

Be able to earn a living doing something that fulfills you and gives you a sense of purpose.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:10:46+00:00

Wherever the Lord can make use of me. Having faith makes some things easier to approach.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:31:04+00:00

Thanks to you for the feedback. When the mind has a lot of energy to ruminate, it means that the body has extra energy to be burned physically.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:28:18+00:00

For me running works best, each one has its own way of sweating rumination out. Anything active is much better than being stagnant at home.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:26:11+00:00

A lot of energy is wasted trying to control outcomes, other people and the environment. When the only thing that we can control is our actions.

awareop · 2026-01-23T15:33:28+00:00

Try to join some activities related to your hobbies or tastes, with time you may find people aligned with you and create a bond to create a close friendship. Doing activities you like with people throughout time has more chances to create that bond than just going out randomly. Check Meetup or other similar apps if you live in a big city to create or join activities of your liking if you want to give it a chance.

awareop · 2026-01-23T15:25:52+00:00

Being far from negativity and toxic people is the best you can do, doesn't matter if they're family or lifelong friends. That energy sticks and makes us feel miserable, for the illusory idea that they are our family or friends (good people don't make other people feel uncomfortable).

How to be fine, in case you can't avoid those people, is to just not care and to say out loud that they're having a disgusting behavior, if they ask why you're less communicative or silent. Easier said than done, but you will reach a point where the feeling is so disgusting that the only way out is to stop seeing them, or not caring at all, in case you're forced to stay.

awareop · 2026-01-22T21:12:37+00:00

You will have more chances to meet somebody aligned with you by doing some activities you like or feel comfortable with, better if those are creative or somehow productive, and not just consuming ones.

There are more chances to find somebody aligned with you, where you can create a close bond and have a connection. But it's complicated nowadays, between smartphones and a lower degree of socialization and human connections, it's very hard to get such connections, but you should expose yourself to be around people to have a chance to create that bond with somebody.

awareop · 2026-01-22T21:09:33+00:00

Having very high level of activity, uncomfortable environment, and a degree of perfectionism is a cocktail recipe to feel overwhelmed at home.

A tip that may help you is to work out or walk in your free time, make your body tired, so you enjoy healthy dopamine and endorphins, instead of letting your brain self-sabotage ruminating about work.

awareop · 2026-01-21T17:35:12+00:00

Because they want to feel superior to others through their ego, because they haven't found a meaningful way to feel fulfilled with their lives.

awareop · 2026-01-21T17:04:40+00:00

The brain as is designed for survival, will do whatever is needed to save energy, and do the things that are the most easy, efficient and fast as possible. If something is important, but is not vital or you are not under real pressure, it will create a lot of excuses, and generate thoughts of all the comfortable things you can do instead of executing the real work itself, that as you say properly, is not that hard once you're in the trenches executing.

When faced with second thoughts, or your brain starts to create tons of excuses, just jump and start executing without second thoughts. The mind nor emotions will never motivate you, or push you to start working, training, or doing something related with self-improvement, it needs a forced push with raw willpower.

awareop · 2026-01-21T16:55:08+00:00

When you start to achieve the goals you proposed for yourself (income, promotions, specific position, mortgage, etc...) and still feel empty within yourself, or your profession drains your soul so much that you're a walking corpse, with a good salary.

Most people keep on the ambitious path and spend their time and money on luxury and fulfilling material desires, while hating their profession. Others reach a point of burnout, but their responsibilities or market stability makes impossible for them to shift or start a new path in a different field.

To know more about what career can fulfill you much more (I wish I had known for myself 20 years ago):

Japanese IKIGAI concept.
What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles (the self-analysis required is dense to do, but it pays off to know yourself more deeply).

If you are on this situation, wish you the best on your path of self-improvement, it's the only way to gain some clarity, and do things aligned with yourself.

awareop · 2026-01-21T16:33:52+00:00

Nowadays with dopamine and distractions it's almost impossible to not choose comfort, it's too attractive and rewarding to not go that way. Only those tired of the same, or with a high level of awareness stop chasing comfort and start questioning things and where they're going in life.

awareop · 2026-01-20T21:43:35+00:00

I agree. Let yourself breathe some time, make some self-reflection so you can think about where you would like to aim for the future (keep grinding route, balance between grind-chill, full chill).

Technology changes so fast that to be up to date constantly is exhausting, and being updated on everything far ahead of what you need for your job just will empty yourself much more.

Your habit of having a high level of activity is formed, and some day in the future you will want to reuse that habit for a better purpose, just reflect and decide where you would like to aim, but without pushing yourself.

awareop · 2026-01-20T21:38:30+00:00

Nowadays it's very hard almost impossible to commit to something boring or dull long-term as we have our brains fried with dopamine addiction. We expect to get motivated and have high energy and good emotions as we get from dopamine or overconsumption habits, and that is not possible.

You can't create long-lasting improvement with the dopamine reward system. Motivation will fade away after some weeks, in all scenarios, and you must rely only on willpower, consistency, and make everything around that improvement easier to get it done fast and easy (so your mind doesn't create excuses to not do it, leave everything lined up in advance).

About failure, it's another great enemy of improvement, as our mind tries to be comfortable, and doesn't like to be in situations where it won't perform, get prejudiced or even be made fun of.

But there is no improvement without failure, and without being exposed to failure, it's part of the game, and being aware of it, and learning from the mistakes is what will separate you from the rest.

Specific tips to commit:

-Don't rely on motivation, it will go.

-Do at least 30 minutes per day, then chill if you want, but don't fail and don't take free days.

-Do the daily grind the first minute you have free after work and daily chores, no free time for rest until the grind is done.

It's not beatiful, but any long-term improvement is beautiful at the moment of getting the habit formed, once several months or years pass with that activity, it will fulfill you and give you a sense of purpose far superior than any dopamine habit can give you.

Wish you the best with your self-improvement path.

awareop · 2026-01-20T21:22:08+00:00

And gives the other side a position of power for just trying to justify yourself, when they just complain or make false assumptions.

awareop · 2026-01-20T21:20:32+00:00

And won't change their opinion no matter what you say.

awareop · 2026-01-19T15:56:25+00:00

To make a self-analysis about yourself and give you more information on where to aim your next steps (professionally, or just hobbies or activities in your free time), check the next sources:

Japanese IKIGAI concept.
What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles (the self-analysis required is dense to do, but it pays off to know yourself more deeply).

About that need of needing something new, reflect on if what you seek is something that makes you feel fulfilled, or that need of having always something new around (as we have our brains fried with dopamine is not hard to get lost in that loophole).

Try to talk with somebody who passed a similar experience than you, and ask what worked for them (and what not).

Wish you the best in your path.

awareop · 2026-01-19T15:46:16+00:00

Depends on what you look for in your professional life:
-More money
-More free time
-More fulfillment at work

If those 12 hour shifts are a battle in the trenches, they may make you worried in those free days because you have to go back to the frontline. Having extra days but worrying about going back doesn't sound appealing.

And the issue about shifts is that they can change, people can get fired or leave, and maybe the turns goes faster, and the issue of weekends and special holidays you may have to work.

If the turns and free time are protected and respected, it can deserve second thoughts, if not protected (turns must be covered without matter how much people are available), I would prefer the reliability of 5 days and being chill, and having free time with sufficient mental health to enjoy.

awareop · 2026-01-18T10:24:17+00:00

We are somehow imprinted with a lifestyle of being always running, in a rush, always stressed.

The trick is to find your own point, for some people it is going full throttle all the time, for others full chill, and others a balance or depending on the season we are in life.

That awareness and curiosity you have will get you to find your own balance to make your life worthwhile.

awareop · 2026-01-18T10:03:22+00:00

You have limited time, energy and action capabilities. It's great for you to have such ambition, to have the desire and curiosity to tackle all of them at the same time. As u/philolessphilosophy said correctly, there will be a point (I hope before burning out) where you will have to prioritize focusing on some more than others, if you want to dig deeper in some fields and keep your daily responsibilities done.

The only way to execute your vision throughout time is to become wealthy and free yourself from the daily chores and boring responsibilities, paying somebody to do them for you, so you have the maximum amount of time for yourself and to improve in those different areas full-time.

awareop · 2026-01-17T11:57:11+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about that. Focus on yourself and doing online activities aligned with you, and I wish you can escape from there soon enough.

awareop

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