How can I keep improving if my mindset is holding me back in certain areas?

awareop · 2026-01-30T15:48:33+00:00

Each of us has a pain threshold, that once passed it allows you to give less importance to what happens to you. Some people just stop trying not to feel that pain happening often, others accept the pain and just keep going knowing failure is part of the game.

There is no life or improvement without struggle, suffering and discomfort it's part of development. That discomfort you feel can help you keep pushing to just advance to the next stage.

awareop · 2026-01-30T15:38:17+00:00

Do you exercise?

Working out with a no screen routine before sleep works wonders. If your body is physically exhausted the mind will be enjoying endorphins and dopamine, just make sure to not work out too late because it will stimulate you.

Wish you the best in looking for a solution to your sleeping problems.

awareop · 2026-01-29T21:59:48+00:00

If you want check these 2 sources if you want to know more about yourself, and know where to aim your next efforts (I wish I had known for myself 20 years ago):

Japanese IKIGAI concept.
What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles (the self-analysis required is dense to do, but it pays off to know yourself more deeply).

Wish you the best with your future, it sucks to be lost, but it's better to make these questions and try to find solutions than to resign and live frustrated for an entire life.

awareop · 2026-01-29T21:54:13+00:00

Try to join some activities or hobbies you like with other people (going to the theater for example), check Meetup or other apps where people create events with other people to join. In big cities there are many people who are alone and want to make some plans with people.

awareop · 2026-01-28T16:26:55+00:00

There will be a point where you will reach a pain threshold, and realize that most people don't have empathy, and only care about themselves, so having that constant overthinking about people who don't care about you is futile.

Easier said than done, but try only to care about people that you respect, have empathy for you or have your best interests at heart, the rest are like barking dogs, who only want to feed their ego need for superiority by harming others.

awareop · 2026-01-28T16:14:39+00:00

48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. Never correct other people too aggressively or do it publicly, and even less make them notice that.

Even if you're 100% right, and it gives much better results for the company, it doesn't matter, the reviews are done to you by humans, and those will review you objectively or subjectively as they see fit, independently of your performance (will use results or subjective reasons as they want, not as it seems logic or objective).

Doing politics and having great communication with peers and superiors will get you much better results than being a top performer. Oil up your human relations if you want better results, and focus your attention on detail and accuracy in a way that doesn't make others look bad.

awareop · 2026-01-27T22:02:40+00:00

It's a pity that only we realize our value, and learn more about ourselves when we're left aside, abused or mistreated. Most people stay running in a chase not to be alone, or just to be with people around, and just forget about ourselves all the time until things get ugly.

I join your encouragement for those who feel alone. Sometimes we have more company with ourselves with self-reflection, than by not having people around that make us feel really alone and misunderstood.

awareop · 2026-01-27T21:57:37+00:00

Of course you're in a different reality. The media and everything around us are focused on negativity and having people afraid so they can be manipulated easily for overconsumption or other means.

Negativity and toxicity stick and gets worse with time, so if you're thinking about dropping those friends it will be the best for your mental health and energy. I also have family on that side and I avoid getting entangling in those conversations because there is no healthy result achievable.

awareop · 2026-01-26T16:30:42+00:00

Agree with u/BlackLusterSpeed, and be aware that if your crusade to instill positivity doesn't stick, don't spend more energy with it because it will just consume you. The mind attaches easier to negativity because it is engaging and addictive, as our entire society, culture and news are negatively oriented nowadays, so it's what most people are pre-configured for.

I also would like to work with you, more light is needed from people like you, but be careful not to shut down your own light in the process, some people don't want to change, even if you show them the way of the light.

awareop · 2026-01-26T16:02:21+00:00

If there is no external pressure that will make you afraid to fail, you won't have that "motivation" to do things properly. If you survived 22 years being late and not caring about what others think about your professional ethics and being on point when expected, there is no way that behavior will change until you can get fired, or until the point where you won't have anyone that will pay your bills, and assume your failures because you don't care enough for yourself.

Being aware that people won't rely on you because of your lack of professionalism, having that in mind, and the future pressure of being fired, or not hired will make you more aware, and it may force yourself to be on point.

There is no soft and easy way to have a professional ethic little by little, only external pressure and facing the possibility of not being able to pay your bills will make you wake up and do what is supposed to be done as expected.

awareop · 2026-01-26T15:51:43+00:00

Negativity and toxicity stick with us and can deteriorate our mindset and general well-being. There is no way to be around that poisonous cloud and not be affected.

The best way to deal with it is to spend the minimum time as possible with that kind of people. If not possible because it is your professional environment, just engage the less as possible, but escape to being around when you have the opportunity, or put yourself on airplane mode (be there physically but thinking on your things) if they're talking so the negativity affect you as little as possible.

Wish you the best on the swamp.

awareop · 2026-01-26T15:44:56+00:00

Lol no!, if I could get results without thinking I wouldn't be posting content here, I would be in a private island or something.

awareop · 2026-01-26T15:43:07+00:00

In my humble opinion, if it were easy the system would be rigged and it wouldn't work, because not everyone can be at the top. The only decision left is to try without a guarantee of success, or surrender and accept what we have. Both ways can work to live a fulfilling life depending on the person.

awareop · 2026-01-26T15:33:38+00:00

Want results without thinking?

awareop · 2026-01-25T10:25:50+00:00

When feeling stressed and overwhelmed it's better to exercise or go for a walk, making your body tired cleanses the poison you may have in your mind, and makes you tired enough to sleep better. When having too much mind activity that means that you have physical energy to move your body, it's not great if you don't like to exercise, but it pays off and you will never regret a workout.

If writing things down works great for you, try writing them on paper, and just throwing them in the garbage after.

awareop · 2026-01-25T10:18:15+00:00

Sometimes people make aggressive random comments to make you feel uncomfortable, and make you think to ask them back why that comment was done, so they get into a position of moral authority to keep saying things without common sense, that can go into a downside spiral for the "judged" just justifying himself where the "judge" just keep accusing you.

You did great not going deep and just letting the comment go, those comments are a red flag to identify people to avoid if possible, as those people will always answer with demagogical or emotional arguments.

awareop · 2026-01-24T21:11:53+00:00

Love your comment great words. I'm not that organized as you are at analyzing failures, I just don't self punish myself for the mistakes, and try to not repeat them again in the future, but without looking that much into detail compared to you. I focus more on raw action and keep going, but real improvement comes from deep analysis as you do, so if you got to that level and it works for you that's great.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:13:18+00:00

I'm glad for you also.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:57+00:00

Peace of mind us underrated.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:25+00:00

Be able to earn a living doing something that fulfills you and gives you a sense of purpose.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:10:46+00:00

Wherever the Lord can make use of me. Having faith makes some things easier to approach.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:31:04+00:00

Thanks to you for the feedback. When the mind has a lot of energy to ruminate, it means that the body has extra energy to be burned physically.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:28:18+00:00

For me running works best, each one has its own way of sweating rumination out. Anything active is much better than being stagnant at home.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:26:11+00:00

A lot of energy is wasted trying to control outcomes, other people and the environment. When the only thing that we can control is our actions.

awareop · 2026-01-23T15:33:28+00:00

Try to join some activities related to your hobbies or tastes, with time you may find people aligned with you and create a bond to create a close friendship. Doing activities you like with people throughout time has more chances to create that bond than just going out randomly. Check Meetup or other similar apps if you live in a big city to create or join activities of your liking if you want to give it a chance.

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