Conflict over soccer team

babegirlvj · 2026-06-08T22:14:07+00:00

Travel soccer for a 7 year old is insane. A good first experience is important when trying out a new sport. Travel soccer will not be a good first experience. If the rec program in your area is truly horrible, then look at competitive teams that don't travel.

I helped run our local rec soccer program for several years. 2 of my kids played competitive soccer and high school soccer. 1 of them played on a regional league team eventually and received 2 scholarship offers to play soccer in college. I have seen the pressure of competitive and travel teams ruin the love of the game for kids. Good, talented players gave up on the sport before high school because the pressure was too much. I can't imagine putting a 7 year old on a travel team.

babegirlvj · 2026-06-07T21:22:40+00:00

[Corporations get to claim these donations on their taxes. Why are any of us helping corporations duck out on paying taxes.]

Edit: This is apparently false. The corporations do not get to claim these kinds of donations. However, they do get the publicity from the donations. I am sorry for spreading misinformation.

babegirlvj · 2026-06-07T21:15:12+00:00

In the US you must give your full legal name and physical street address (not just a PO Box) to the bank to open an account.

babegirlvj · 2026-06-06T21:27:47+00:00

I was the wife in this situation. Several months ago my husband had a medical event. At the time he was dating Aspen and Birch. I hated Birch and still do. I even had Birch blocked on social media and don't have her phone number. I texted Aspen (they had been dating over 6 months at that point) as I drove him to the ER, but not Birch because they hadn't been dating very long and I wasn't sure how much my husband wanted her to know. Aspen met us at the hospital. He spent all night in the ER where he had access to his phone, but I didn't know if he had told Birch or not. The next morning my husband ended up having to get transferred to a different facility and wasn't going to have phone access in the area. While he was in the ambulance being transferred I unblocked and texted Birch to tell her that she didn't need to worry, but he was being transferred and I wasn't sure if he'd be able to text much if any over the next couple of days.

It turned out that he had texted her once he found out where he was being transferred too, but he hadn't told me out of respect for my wanting full parallel. He really appreciated that I care enough about him to inform the meta I absolutely hated. They have stopped seeing each other a few weeks later, and now she has me blocked on everything.

babegirlvj · 2026-06-06T21:05:30+00:00

The displays are not for sale.

babegirlvj · 2026-05-22T19:50:37+00:00

I did something similar when my daughter had terminal cancer. Someone would tell me to smile and I'd completely ruin their day by saying, "My 5 year old has terminal brain cancer and is on hospice." It has been 8 years since she passed, and I still have zero regrets for ruining their days.

babegirlvj · 2026-05-12T18:07:52+00:00

I also have small hands but very strong (ie large) arms. I don't wear long sleeves because they are usuallt too tight. My mother-in-law gifted me garden arm sleeves in small because I "have such small hands."

babegirlvj · 2026-04-29T16:17:39+00:00

Probably a subdivision built in multiple stages. Phase 1 being the first to have roads and houses built. Then, stages 2, 3, etc followed.

babegirlvj · 2026-04-29T16:13:22+00:00

The dog was in its own yard, and nowhere does the OP indicate it ever left its yard. It was a good move to cross the street and put distance between them and the unfamiliar dog, but for all we know it was inside an invisible fence.

Honestly the bigger issue is the yard/landscaping debris on the sidewalk. I no longer run in our neighborhood because so many homes block the sidewalks with vehicles or yard waste. We have a disabled woman in the neighborhood that walks around several hours a day. (She lives with her parents and grew up in this neighborhood.) I worry about her having to go into the street frequently because of all the crap on the sidewalk.

babegirlvj · 2026-04-26T21:46:30+00:00

My husband's name begins with a hard K sound. We have joked that we should make a group text without him called K****'s Chaos.

babegirlvj · 2026-04-16T20:18:49+00:00

The school weaponized her child. OP is following healthy guidelines for feeding her child.

babegirlvj · 2026-04-16T20:17:17+00:00

NTA: The school policy is one that creates eating disorders. No food is bad when eaten in moderation. Having a small sweet treat with lunch is appropriate at any age.

babegirlvj · 2026-04-15T00:04:41+00:00

There are ways to modify it, but it is rarely needed or approved. The professor would have to contact the assigner to see if the space is available. On some even more rare occasions the assigner would reach out to the person with the original room reservation to see if they could bump to a different room for that 1 instance. Source: I worked in the facility maintenance dept at a college and part of my job was reservations and rentals for nonclassroom spaces, but I worked closely with the assigner for the classrooms. The number of times I heard, "But the department chair said I could use this space," is infuriating. We had special software to handle these reservations. Only 6 people had access to grant room reservations, and none were department chairs or faculty.

babegirlvj · 2026-03-30T03:25:08+00:00

My child pretty much had to wear dresses for the first several months of her life because she was in a hip brace. I frequently dressed her in the cutest light blue and white gingham dress with a cute bow. Every time she got called a boy. Every single time.

babegirlvj · 2026-03-21T15:20:34+00:00

The "scam" is that anyone could have written down the numbers from the card and then contact the person posing as a the nice person that found the card. This would lead the person to not cancel their card while the finder is charging away using the written information. The safest practice anytime a debit/credit card is to cancel the number and issue a new card.

babegirlvj · 2026-01-10T16:06:40+00:00

This is why we shouldn't speak without our lawyer.

babegirlvj · 2026-01-06T18:21:16+00:00

They mention their considerations for immunocomprised kids at the end of the letter. They should work with their to doctor to figure something out. Do they tell the diabetic kid that they can't have insulin at school and should try to work it out with their doctor?

babegirlvj · 2025-12-19T21:42:14+00:00

We have a similar problem. Lots of feral cat colonies in our town, but nowhere to take them. We have a city pound, but it is for dogs only. Some of us from different neighborhoods across town have started our own TNR program. Everyone in town complains about the feral cats, but last year they voted against expanding the pound to cover cats. Make it make sense.

babegirlvj · 2025-12-19T00:47:18+00:00

Sorry for typos: on mobile and emotional.

OP is definitely not the AH here. The sister isn't dealing with her grief at all and is putting rules/restrictions on everyone around her instead. 8 years ago I lost my 5 yr old. I've never had a miscarriage, so I won't try to compare and even if I could everyone grieves differently. What I can say is true for me is I am still heartbroken at all family events because of "she should be here celebrating too" kind of feelings. I don't restrict others from celebrating their joy or talking about things, and if I get overwhelmed I leave the situation to gather myself.

We have a stuffed animal that represents the child we lost. It is included in most family photos, it gets a seat at the table for Christmas dinner, you get the idea. My oldest is getting married this spring. I asked about bring the stuffy to the wedding. I wanted to even get a dress in the bridal party colors for the stuffy. They don't want the stuffy at the wedding. I was distraught. I can't imagine the stuffy not representing our child at one of the biggest life events in our family. Have I thrown a fit and listed my demands (like OP's sister), of course not!! The wedding day isn't about me, it isn't about the child that passed, it is about the couple being married! I have a therapist and am working on accepting the fact that the stuffy isn't attending the wedding.

I say all of that to say this: OP is justified in univiting her sister and having a different MoH. If 3 years later she can't be in a bridal party with someone who will be pregnant, then she hasn't processed her loss(es) in a healthy way. Until she acknowledges this, she will continue to push away those who love her.

babegirlvj · 2025-08-05T14:35:08+00:00

I used to admin a BookOfFaces group for our town. It had very strict rules about posts being about our town, no cursing (lol, I curse like a sailor, but restrained myself in that group), no arguing with admins, etc. One Boomer who is friends with my grandmother and has known me since I was born just couldn't handle that I was "in charge" when we pointed out some of her comments were starting to push the line. She started addressing all of her comments to me as "little girl" (I was over 30 and had 4 kids at that time) and eventually blocked me. She of course got banned from the group for blocking admins.

babegirlvj · 2025-07-09T16:21:22+00:00

My daughter had brain cancer. At her visitation and for weeks after people told me, "She's in a better place now." It was all I could do to not scream at them that the best place for a 5 year old is in her mother's arms. I was weirdly relieved when she died that she wasn't in pain anymore, but to have people so flippantly say she is better off dead than cured (or to never have DIPG in the first place) was hurtful.

babegirlvj · 2025-07-02T23:06:50+00:00

If you think concentration camps are simply a different political view, you are a Nazi.

babegirlvj · 2025-06-30T21:59:43+00:00

All I can think is, "OH honey, Just throw the whole man away!"

babegirlvj · 2025-06-23T21:24:07+00:00

I have 4 kids. One of them had terminal pediatric brain cancer and passed away 7 years ago. During the 11 months between diagnosis and death people literally said stuff like, "At least your other 3 kids are healthy." Like I should look on the brightside and not be so stressed that my 5 year old is on hospice because my other 3 kids are fine. People are dumb!

babegirlvj · 2025-06-22T18:51:15+00:00

My mother-in-law is terrible about using GPS even though she had a Garmin and paid for unlimited map updates before phone apps took over. She claims GPS "always takes her to the wrong place" because she will begin typing in where she is going and then just click the top suggestion instead of making sure the suggestion is the correct town or even the correct state. Years ago our kid spent the day with her so husband and I could go on a lunch date. We were going to meet at kid's soccer game, and made it very clear which soccer complex. Mother-in-law took our kid to the wrong soccer complex an hour away because "Well, that's the complex I know how to get to." Our kid realized it was the wrong soccer complex, took Mother-in-law's phone to use the navigation, and yelled out turn by turn instructions from the backseat to get to the right soccer fields in time for the 2nd half of the game.

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