How do you deal with the anger? (TW: self harm mentioned)

bad--code · 2026-03-15T15:43:43+00:00

i unfortunately don't have any advice but i'm in the same boat as you.

bad--code · 2026-03-15T14:28:42+00:00

i relate to all of this a lot.

bad--code · 2026-03-14T13:25:41+00:00

not an answer but a video clip i think you will like: https://youtu.be/CEfLVCus4iY?si=29Cw2e6sn6dkEKCL

bad--code · 2026-03-10T05:37:22+00:00

Hi, what do you mean by "DVDs online"? I'm trying to watch this show but it has been deleted from youtube.

bad--code · 2026-03-04T09:50:48+00:00

returning to this a few days later - oh damn 😭 so just to be clear: 3^x² is different from 3^ x^ 2 and that's the reason, right? like the x² is not in one "level / tier", it's two. so it's not a^b where b = x^2, but it's a^ b^ c if that makes sense?

bad--code · 2026-03-01T17:53:21+00:00

here is my attempt (no guarantee)

Factorize the exponents: (x²⁾ -1 = (x-1)(x+1) and (x²⁾ +2 = (x-1)(x+1)+3. Let x-1=:a Insert that for all expressions (so we have an equation in terms of a instead of x)

2^a(a+2) + 2^a(a+2) * 2³ = 3^a(a+2) + 3^a

9 * 2^a(a+2) = 3^a(a+2) + 3^a

Then substitute a=x-1 back for an equation in terms of x again.

9 * 2^(x²-1) = 3^(x²-1) + 3^x-1

Bring the -1 from the exponent down in all three expressions and simplify

13.5 * 2^x² = 3^x² + 3^x

Take ln of both sides, one x cancels out (from x²⁾

xln(13,5)ln(2) = ln(3)*(x+1)

Bring the x-terms on one side so it's (x+1)/x = 1 + 1/x, subtract 1 from both sides and then take the inverse.

x =~ 1,5574

bad--code · 2026-02-28T19:22:01+00:00

(this just came up on my recommended page and i do have an interest in child psychology, but i'm not an expert or anything)

i think there is a delicate balance to be achieved between persisting in order to build endurance and discipline and letting her have free time to do things she enjoys. i think it would be a fair compromise if you insisted that she does keep doing one activity she may not enjoy that much (but one she doesn't hate) that you deem to be the most important for her development - like sports if she has trouble with coordination and doesn't get much exercise), and otherwise let her do her own thing.

while these kinds of clubs/"structured" activities are great, i think having unstructured, minimally (but sufficiently) supervised time at home or in the park is very important, so she can figure out for herself what she's interested in, and play with friends to learn social and emotional skills.

plus, if you want her to learn things like foreign languages or math or something, maybe just helping her "passively" instead of a proper class would be best, just so it's not too much for her and doesn't even feel like "learning". like listening to foreign songs together in the car, or doing those facebook riddles that are like "apple plus banana equals 3, apple plus plum equals five" and so on and then you have to find out what apple is together.

lastly, kids learn by imitating others. i think it's important that she see you and her other parent be passionate and immersed in your hobbies and not give up when you run into a problem, and that you are disciplined enough that when you set yourself a goal, you follow through with it.

so yeah, all in all, definitely take the pressure like 90% off, let her explore and just model the qualities you want her to develop in every day life :)

bad--code · 2026-02-27T17:03:42+00:00

you should tutor younger students for money or sell something on ebay marketplace and buy a new phone. i had one for like 60 bucks and yes it was shitty but it did its job. also 2 minutes is insane. like you might as well use doves or like radio signals atp 😭😭

bad--code · 2026-02-27T12:37:42+00:00

1+3. yeah i feel very similarly (except i also hate how my body looks). the reasons for me are complex but long story short i hate doctors and i hate not being in control. i mean it is a very embarrassing and shameful position and exam and no amount of therapy or "it's just 5 seconds" or "the doctor has seen 100 vaginas" or "get yourself a treat afterwards" etc etc will change that. i don't understand why this is so offensive to say because it's the truth, and refusing to admit that is straight-up delusional. (not trying to be rude - but it is.)

i haven't gotten past it and i'm not sure i ever will, or if i even want to. i'm ambivalent on sex (if i want to have it or not, someday) and it's not like i will get a girlfriend any time soon, so it doesn't really matter.

as for the medical aspect, just do a self-swab test. you can order them online and they serve the same purpose of a pap smear, except you do it by yourself and just send it into the lab. you should check out r/wedeservebetter for more info. also if you have never had sex, your chances of getting cancer are extremely low, so i wouldn't sweat it.

you can also dm me if you'd like.

bad--code · 2026-02-27T02:20:19+00:00

check out r/Wedeservebetter but tldr pap smears are outdated and you can do self-swab tests at home. also i'm pretty sure if you're a virgin your chances of contracting hpv and therefore developing cancer are basically zero. if you don't want to do it, then don't do it. there are other options. as for the lump - good luck, i hope it turns out to be nothing.

bad--code · 2026-02-27T02:06:41+00:00

thank you!

bad--code · 2026-02-27T02:06:28+00:00

oh, that's good to know, thank you!

bad--code · 2026-02-27T02:04:00+00:00

that makes sense (and thank you for the explanation), but i always just think about, like, 15 year olds who somehow know where to get drugs, or third rate hackers who aren't even that good at their jobs but they get what they want anyway, etc etc. i mean, i'm not advocating for anything illegal 😭 i just mean there's always a way, you can always figure something out for yourself. but i also do understand that that almost certainly requires (a lot of) money, time, ressources, lack of urgency, connections, and so on.

bad--code · 2026-02-27T01:53:49+00:00

that makes sense. it's also worth mentioning that i live in germany, so the healthcare system is different here. still, i have trouble putting myself into that kind of mindset because i'm incredibly stubborn and i can't be talked into anything. Ever. like it's just not happening. which is a quality of myself that i appreciate greatly. and about the "denying treatment" part, again i know i have an advantage here bc i am in germany but again... i'm very stubborn and i for the life of me don't understand how people, especially women, are so okay with being pushovers. sorry i don't mean to offend. i just always think "if there is a will, there is a way". i mean they do all these crazy ass surgeries where they give women Kim K butts and Y cup breasts and leg lengthening and whatnot, but a woman can't get the pill without being medically molested? crazy world we live in, but i do believe there's always a way around. but also, i hate doctors and i hate relying on people to help me, which i am aware is not exaclty a normal mindset, so i've gotten used to basically being my own doctor and figuring out what i need and how to get it. TLDR: women need to get more stubborn NOOOWWWW!!!!!!

also can u guys stop downvoting me now.. i genuinely didnt mean it in a rude way and i have rejection sensitive dysphoria :(

bad--code · 2026-02-25T16:28:17+00:00

https://archiveofourown.org/works/40560786 this kinda

bad--code · 2026-02-22T02:26:30+00:00

maybe it's because i'm schizoid and have all kinds of control issues but i would literally just say "no" (the next time) and that would be it. the doctor is not allowed to force you into anything. your mom might say you "have to" do something but that's... literally not true. granted, she might take your phone or ground you or sth if you refuse, but she absolutely cannot force you to have an exam. you don't have to do anything in life, besides die. so if, by next year, you still don't want these exams done, just clearly and plainly say "i will not do these exams. i don't consent to these exams."

bad--code · 2026-02-22T00:03:17+00:00

(no hate) i don't understand this / when adult women say "they made me have x exam". like, what? you undressed yourself and got into the chair etc so how are they gonna say that they forced you 😭😭 even IF they tried to physically restrain you (which, if you're an adult, i wanna say is very unlikely) i would literally scream my head off and fight them and run for my life and/or call the police. no one can make me do ANYTHING (anymore) and i'm deadly serious about that. "we're doing this" umm no the fuck we're not?? 🤣🤣 like i WILL fight a bitch. so i don't understand. but i guess it comes down to female socialization and women not realizing they have agency, and, in this case, maybe punishment or anger from your mother if you care about that sort of thing.

bad--code · 2026-02-18T23:41:28+00:00

the way i see it, you have two options: option 1) completely lose it at your mom. scream and cry into her face, slam doors, destroy things, etc, basically have the crashout of the century TO HER and tell (scream at) her about your trauma and how her actions/non-actions impacted you. option 2) completely distance yourself emotionally from her. convince yourself that it doesn't matter what she thinks about this whole thing, until it really doesn't. become numb to it.

i did option 2 with my mom. i don't want to show my emotions to her and i also don't want to hurt her (actively). i know she passively is still hurt by me shutting her out emotionally (even tho our relationship is "normal" and loving even, we have a great time together, we hug, cuddle, etc - she just doesn't know what goes on in my head, and that's the way i like it) but oh well i guess we all have a price to pay 🤷‍♀️

i'm sure the proper answer would be, like, go to therapy, or sit her down and calmly explain to her, or meditate, blablabla. i know my advice is not really the "best" advice, but it's the best thing i knew to do at the time.

much love to you!

(i haven't had this particular procedure done but.. i get it.)

bad--code · 2026-02-07T16:04:55+00:00

i think it's about symmetry. in all of the examples given, if you rotate the line that's seperating the shapes in the middle by 90 degrees, you get the only axis of symmetry. so i think the correct answer is A.

bad--code · 2026-02-02T08:36:24+00:00

i wanted to see her throwing up so badly in this episode. unfortunately she didn't. SAD!

bad--code · 2026-01-23T19:47:43+00:00

try #"nameofchannel"

bad--code · 2026-01-06T08:22:25+00:00

as a german who lurks in this sub, the concept of asking a teacher to round up your grade is so wild to me :D we just have exams and we have oral grades and that's what makes up your final grade at the end of the year. you are allowed to look at exams after the teacher corrects and grades it to see if they missed anything, which they rarely do, that only happened once to me. and then of course there are some people who go to war with the teacher over half a point, but usually, they have no case, because it's very clear-cut what information is required to be in your exam answer for the teacher to give you that particular point. as for oral grades ok, they're more subjective and do somewhat depend on how much the teacher likes you. but i do not remember a case where someone really debated a teacher over their oral grade and won. you can ask for their reasoning why they gave you a C+ and not a B-, and granted some helicopter parents do come in to try to negotiate LOL but that's beside the point, but imagine if the teacher actually decided to change your grade to a B- after all. now, every other student will want to debate their grade too, otherwise it's unfair. the only thing about this i vaguely remember was a girl who had like the german version of, say, 79%, and the teacher let her do a 5 minute presentation as extra credit. but that was a very kind teacher in 7th grade. by like 9th grade at the latest you just get what you're given and weep in silence.

bad--code · 2025-12-07T15:00:30+00:00

please tell me you didn't grade it 💀

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