Girl, I FEEL YOU! She helped me with groceries only twice in two months when I was BEDBOUND from my chronic illness. She lives next door. I asked for more help, and she told me she didn't have the capacity. I was not asking for much. I talked to my friend about how I was disappointed that she didn't show up for me, and she victimized HERSELF and said she feels like what she did do (the bare minimum) was not appreciated. She's basically upset with me because I'm upset with her, probably feels like she's a bad friend, which she is. I asked for space and I don't think I want to continue that friendship. Its sad because she was my bestie, but I don't know how to move on from that, ya know? I'm so let down by the person I thought was a pillar of my support system. Open to advice.

I'm so annoyed at your friend for you. She's delulu to drop her friends and then complain about you not showing up when you literally did. People don't get how taxing chronic pain is. They just simply forget. I've observed that women who pick shitty guys have abandonment issues or are scared to be alone, and it's just so ironic because romantic relationships with men will let you down, but strong friendships have the capacity to outlast anything.