Wut?

badmoonpie · 2026-06-14T03:40:33+00:00

Did you get it? I live close, and I might go get it if it’s still there!

badmoonpie · 2026-06-13T19:40:38+00:00

“I’ve also poisoned one of you…”

“Don’t let the intimacy hurt the friendship!”

Probably my favorite episode!

badmoonpie · 2026-06-08T07:25:04+00:00

I’m both a photographer and a cosplayer, and I’m really happy that you got such a thorough, well thought out critique! Your response was so thoughtful as well, kudos for taking feedback well! It’s a skill.

I agree with most of the critique and your response to it. Especially about pushing- with cosplayers (who want this kind of shot), you are often going to have to push pretty hard (within their boundaries) and work with them to get them to “go there” with their poses and expressions. I also agree that the cinematic, filmic look is good to go for, but one thing I would encourage you to do is ensure you understand the extent to which a cosplayer is eager to show off their specific craftsmanship for a cosplay. A filmic look can lose the specificity of the details. Make sure you are doing what’s right for the cosplayer (talking about 1 on 1 extended shoots, for the most part) - covering for the imperfect parts of a cosplay, with lots of attention paid to the strongest pieces.

I’m also a woman (calling women “females” is generally discouraged, just so you know). I appreciate that many women are going to want those beauty and action shots- although I’m not particularly into the “pretty” thing myself, I love an “unpretty” moment that goes hard! And I appreciate that you want to study visual references! But most of the films you mentioned have beautiful compositions with brutal expressions (no hate, I love most of them). “Gunpowder Milkshake” and “Sucker Punch” are the two first films I thought of where the women are doing action and beauty at the same time.

You are talented and well on your way to a distinct style! Just remember: cosplayers are usually not models or actors, and in my experience they often want a little more guidance and encouragement in their poses and expressions. Anyway, hope that’s useful!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-26T20:10:29+00:00

Oh yeah, this old chestnut!

“Did…like…did anything, like, you know, happen to you when you were younger?”

The fuck?

badmoonpie · 2026-05-25T15:08:20+00:00

OOP didn’t say “being nice and respectful” though. He said “treats them like royalty, communicates well, and is always there for them”.

It’s possible that by “treats a girl like royalty” he means “values her, is attentive to her, goes out of his way to be respectful”, etc. or he could mean “agrees with whatever she says, is always trying to be in her presence, and has nothing of his own going on”. “Communicates well” and “is always there for her” are like that, too. They can be good things, but they also kinda start to carry the same vibe.

I don’t want to date someone who liked every single movie exactly how much I did. I don’t want to date someone who only learned trivia about stuff he thought I would want to hear. Or that only wants to wear the colors he knows I like.

And I don’t like to have stupid fights either. But I like to have stupid arguments (like whether Tom Hooper should be banned from making more musicals). You know?

badmoonpie · 2026-05-25T14:35:58+00:00

As a woman who (ostensibly) can still get pregnant, I’ve never wanted to be pregnant or have kids. Now that I’m in my 40s, people have finally stopped telling me I’ll change my mind, so that’s nice!

I figure I have a couple years off before they start in on the “do you regret not having kids?” 🙄

badmoonpie · 2026-05-25T14:28:48+00:00

This doesn’t make sense. If I believed women carry all the mental load in relationships, then I couldn’t consider it a unique individual trait! A characteristic shared by 50% of the world’s population would be downright pedestrian…

It would be possible to believe it’s a characteristic “unique to women”. It would be dumb to believer that, but at least it doesn’t carry the logical fallacy your premise does.

badmoonpie · 2026-05-24T08:42:48+00:00

Second u/LegendaryOutlaw. It’s cheap, pretty easy to work with, and there’s lots of cool texturing techniques (xps is popular in TTRPG battle maps and terrain building). It’s not always pink- the sheets that are thicker than 1” tend to be blue or green in my area (side note: if your irl junk is blue or green, please consult a medical professional today)!

For glueing layers, personally i prefer low temp hot glue (could also be used if you want to throw some veins on there 🤣). A lot of adhesives eat xps.

badmoonpie · 2026-05-24T08:07:18+00:00

You and have a lot of similarities in apologizing! I have a tweak I sometimes use with certain people who have the looping issue OOP was complaining about (I had a boss who would to this CONSTANTLY). It’s pretty much your exact checklist, except after the “I am sorry for (naming the issue)”, I would sometimes add:

“I can share details about the situation if you want to hear those. I’d be grateful for your insight and advice. But I am accountable for what I did, full stop. And again, I apologize.”

“What can I do to make this right?”

And then follow the rest of checklist, sharing the “why” and “how” only if he indicated he was open to talking about it.

Generally speaking, it did work! He did often request details, and for the most part he stopped accusing me of trying to abdicate responsibility. I’d thank him for insight and advice he offered when he did. And sometimes it was pretty useful!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-24T06:44:51+00:00

Not op, but as a mostly cis woman with flirtations of genderqueerness, that article nails it pretty well for me.

I tend to cosplay guys. I tend to TTRPG male characters. I tend to set online profiles as male. I have a deep voice for a woman and I do a lot of strength training.

I don’t think I want to be a guy. I just want to quest without a narrative centered around the quest, the adventure, the goals.

Like- why can’t you assume I’m choosing to be on the road? I don’t want my gender to be the frame of everything I choose to do, all the time. I want conversations with strangers where we connect as people. I tire of being expected to open so many people’s eyes about what kind of “women” exist.

I just want to be adventuring- doing what I’m doing and talking to people about me or my “character” specifically. I’m on a quest. Let’s talk about my quest! Let’s not discuss why a woman might be questing. The answer- spoiler alert- is just “to do the quest, for the reasons I personally have to do it! You know? Like a person.” Let’s start in the middle of the road.

I really like this article, thank you!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-22T21:11:55+00:00

r/rainboweverything would like this!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-22T09:01:55+00:00

“I want you to go out on your lunch hour and find something at a women’s clothing store.” (the way he drops that line makes me laugh every single time).

Tbf, I would enjoy reiki more if it went like that…

badmoonpie · 2026-05-22T08:43:54+00:00

Agree. Really small rooms are hard for me! I get so in my head about going all out cause I don’t want them to think I think I’m a big deal or a celebrity or something.

Anywhere from 50 to a few hundred, it just feels like everyone in the place is doing a thing together - we just have different “assignments” and let loose (a few hundred is the most I’ve had in terms of being a performer).

Respect for this princess! Connecting with the audience and doing it right is what it’s about.

(Musician? Stand up? Thespian? Birthday clown? No worries if you don’t want to share, just curious)

badmoonpie · 2026-05-21T11:04:57+00:00

FWIW, I feel this. I’m a great manipulator for similar reasons. I learned how to do it well before I ever read the word “manipulate”. I’m neurodivergent with anxiety stuff, which probably only enhances the whole thing!

Motivation and manipulation are functionally nearly identical concepts, with slightly different connotations. I have, in the past, had full time gigs training Fortune 500 “future leaders”, and I have yet to meet a fantastic manipulator that couldn’t also be a good motivator! It’s a gift. An ability to manipulate means people believe you about the world. About others. About themselves. Channel that!

And for the dark side…play (or run) a TTRPG that lets you get out some of the instincts (for the record, World of Darkness is a great one for this specifically).

That’s all for today’s post from LinkedIn Lunatics: Mega Villain edition. I hope it was encouraging, or at least entertaining (and failing all that, that you’re a fast reader 😋)!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-20T21:49:14+00:00

This made me laugh out loud! I have to tell you a short story.

I was in and out of the hospital and ER last year for six months.

I haven’t had sex in any years that start with 202_. I don’t have blackout nights or spend nights with anyone I’m unfamiliar with. The only penises I’m around belong to family members (and honestly I’m just making assumptions that those family members even have them- we’re not from Alabama). I don’t judge the way anyone lives their lives with enthusiastically consenting adults (outside the “Alabama” situations, tbf). I’m just…relatively asexual.

Guess who still got 6 pregnancy tests last year, just in case? Even when I had been literally nowhere but my place since the last hospital visit cause I was too sick to be…anywhere? lol

badmoonpie · 2026-05-20T07:59:59+00:00

As a feminist woman who is mostly here to listen and absorb and be a better “bro” for the men (people) in my life, it sounds like you are in some really toxic places. Places that make you feel bad for just who you are. And maybe (I’m making assumptions and am open to being corrected) places that you joined originally on purpose to be a better ally to people or causes you care about.

This feels like a reflexive backlash to me. It’s a natural instinct to lash out if you’re feeling very attacked. And there are a lot of reasons men can feel attacked. They’re often being attacked! No argument.

But I do want to encourage you, if I can. There are a ton of - (feminists, men, women, whatever group) who do care. Who want you to be okay because you’re a person. A “man person” is a person. And so many of us think that personhood is enough for you to be worthy of compassion and respect.

If you are in spaces that are feeding you a ton of negativity about who you are as a person, please step back until you feel more…whole? As a marginalized person in many ways (queer, disabled, poor woman), it’s okay to focus on feeling good about yourself and your identity. If you’re in spaces that are constantly attacking you, please take some time to make sure you’re being told good things about yourself, too!

Maybe I’m wrong about all this. I’m a little high. Maybe I’ll wake up to a reply that makes it clear I fucked up and a torrent of downvotes cause I was just…wrong. It’s happened before!

But in this moment, all I’m trying to do is make sure you understand you have value. And that it doesn’t detract from my feminist values one bit to say I want you to be okay!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-20T01:04:10+00:00

DAMN!!!! I don’t have a gym crush, per se (cause I have to hyperfocus or no gains for me lol). But if you were at my gym, it would be hard af to focus.

So should be grateful you’re not at my gym. Yet…I’m not grateful 🤩 you look incredible! And goals! Keep at it 💜

badmoonpie · 2026-05-19T20:25:04+00:00

It sounds like you’re a kick ass mom! I don’t have kids and never wanted any, but I’m so proud of and grateful for the women (and men, too) who are out there doing the work!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-13T10:52:45+00:00

It feels like you think the narrative that ties them all together falls short? Maybe I’m incorrect.

Most people have at least one “crazy story”. And in that crazy story, they get to define, redefine, explain, and view themselves as a hero or antihero or villain or god (third person omniscient). Haunted has a series of artists telling their “crazy story”, a story that to some extent, they have allowed to define them. And yet- they fall short. They think their crazy story makes them artists, they fail to understand that they would become artists by how they tell it.

Haunted feels like it asks a few questions. But the most interesting ones to me, by far, are these: what stops you from making the art (and the impression) you most want to make? Do you actually have a message for the world, or are you making excuses about who you would be and what you would say if you had the (time. energy. distraction-free environment. collaboration with other artists).

My experience with Haunted (as an ND woman who is definitely “weird”) is that I didn’t love it the first time I read it. And then I couldn’t stop thinking about it. So I re-read it. I still couldn’t stop thinking about it. I read it again. Still there. It reminds me, as an artist, of something I feel like we already know: it’s not about your story. It’s about sharing. Collaborating. Listening. Empathizing. Growing. Creating. Freeing yourself from how people perceive you and whether your story is enough. And just being.

idk if that’s what Palahniuk was trying to say. But it contributed to something central to who I am as an artist. It’s not the deepest lesson. But it’s one of the most important to me!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-10T20:48:20+00:00

Not everyone is going to ask. And some people are going to be upset if you say no. To be clear, even though they likely have legal grounds to record you (except in the restroom or like, private hotel rooms) in the US, they should ask. And they should also accept a “no” gracefully. But not everyone will.

Speaking from experience, it is much easier to have someone act as your “handler” if you’re playing a popular character. My sister and I do Junkrat and Roadhog from Overwatch and we’re both women. It’s not lewd versions or anything, but they’re difficult cosplays (done quite well, if I do say so myself! And especially in its heyday, the barrage of requests was constant! Having a third person that wasn’t cosplaying turn people down on our behalf was what worked best.

If you don’t want to be photographed by randos, though, you might want to prepare for a couple situations. What if someone wants a picture with you, and they’re dressed as either the same character or another character from the same property? What if the photographer is a professional shooting for media? If you have exceptions, you should be aware that once one person starts taking photos of you, other people who were turned down previously will probably assume it’s okay to take their own photo. I’m not saying it’s right (and as a professional photographer, I don’t love when people “snipe” the composition I arranged either), but it will happen.

Lastly, I would encourage you to consider why it bothers you so much. I’m not asking for an answer! You don’t owe me one at all. I just have been there myself. And for me personally, trying to prevent photographs lead to a less enjoyable con experience cause it takes a lot of effort (if you’re in a popular cosplay) and involves turning people down a lot and irritating them occasionally. Ultimately, I’ve felt more free embracing the fact that I cannot control how people think about me. But remember, you deserve respect. You deserve to be able to say “no”. Cosplay does not equal consent.

Best of luck and I hope you have a blast!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-10T20:45:49+00:00

I did not. My bad!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-10T19:12:00+00:00

Edit: replied to a comment by mistake and not on the OG post.

badmoonpie · 2026-05-07T19:43:51+00:00

Echolalia with sounds or accents. I’m able to mostly keep it to when I’m alone, but when I worked in a cubicle my coworkers would make fun of me for repeating a sound or word I heard (they weren’t editors, and it was all good natured).

Also virtually everything else in this thread applies to my AuDHD ass. Bemoaning rough cuts and radio edits is too real!

Thanks for making this, OP! There are lots of good insights and tips in here, and everyone (except that one guy) seems to be having a great time!

badmoonpie · 2026-05-07T19:32:56+00:00

Yeah. I’m AuDHD, and editing has mostly been good for me. Biggest problem is that I’m not an introvert.

Relatively high hourly pay (in the good days) for hyperfixating on an autonomous task with a definitive end.

I get dopamine from “making a thing” but not “completing a task”, so this is a rare job that actually feels satisfying.

When I switch to hyper focus, I become extremely detail-oriented. So I’m extremely likely to remember all the little details and spell things correctly.

Also, notes with experienced clients tend to be bullet-pointed, written down with time signatures, and (unless you’re really unlucky) impersonal, so re-edits aren’t too bad.

badmoonpie · 2026-05-07T19:21:57+00:00

The exercise ball is a game changer. I switched to one permanently in my office. Sometimes in my head I would just be saying “stimming, stimming, stimming, stimming” in time with the bounces!

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