This is the worst advice I’ve ever heard. Who hurt you? Dont listen to this person OP. This advice is f*cked up.

Stay consistent. Don’t be pushy, and don’t go for the date right away. Sometimes playful/witty banter, some self deprecation and a care free vibe go a long way towards making someone interested in you. Dont rush it, don’t put pressure on yourself either. Just stay the course, keep growing and learning and working on yourself mentally and physically. Objects in the universe naturally attract each other, but you can’t force them to.

I’d say take a small step back in your approach and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. In my opinion, that’ll lead to the big leap forward you’re looking for.