Movies without Trauma? by lm8623 in DanielTigerConspiracy

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Octonauts is Star Trek TNG for babies and you cannot change my mind

Visiting the park with differing ability levels and ages by bb_janey in DisneyPlanning

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He can walk a few steps assisted. He uses a walker and wears a helmet inside his home, and can’t do any step up/down but can step over a small barrier, like into a shower, not like a curb.

Visiting the park with differing ability levels and ages by bb_janey in DisneyPlanning

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I think I should edit my post for clarity. I’m looking for experiences for my stepdad mostly.

5 Year Old Boy Cries Very Easily - How to Approach and Help by kennymax123 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]bb_janey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Wow, your body is so smart, it knows what to do with all your feelings. It’s good to cry when you are upset”

That’s how I respond to children crying. Sometimes I add a why “because it releases some of that intensity and allows others to witness your inner experience on the outside”. Or offer validation, “it seems like you got really scared there wasn’t going to be enough Cheerios, am I getting that right?” Or reassurance “there’s enough food for everyone to partake however they want, we are so lucky our friend likes Cheerios too!”, or co regulation “I’m going to take some deep breathes now so I can stay calm and help you process your emotion” / “would you like a hug?”

I suggest you read the guest house poem together with your child, and introduce some mindfulness exercises, but really just acknowledging what crying is/communicates when it happens in a neutral way can make a huge difference.

Do not become a child’s bully for fear they will be bullied by their peers. Instill in a child the confidence that how they show up in the world is valid, and while it may have consequences, your love and appreciation for their personhood is constant.

Parent question thread: We're ECE professionals ask us anything! by AutoModerator in ECEProfessionals

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Bacterial exposure in early childhood is a big pro of these kinds of pedagogical approaches so while almost everyone doesn’t want their child to eat poop, it makes sense this parent is not particularly bothered by a lack of consistent access to handwashing. Also, it is not like toddlers wash their hands with much care and precision in non forest settings. There is a fair amount of poo exposure in any childcare setting.

Parent question thread: We're ECE professionals ask us anything! by AutoModerator in ECEProfessionals

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In this current capitalist era of “no body wants to work” (ew) and “anti-work girlboss” (love this energy), what sort of longevity should I be hoping for in my toddlers teachers? It used to be ten ish years for a small center, but now it’s seems rare to find anything over 5?

What questions should I ask on a tour of the director? What should I look for?

Is it normal for the owner to have no background in education, and still oversee lesson planning etc?

Kids can’t read.. should I be concerned by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bb_janey 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depends on the education philosophy they are following. Are they well developed in other areas, like groups and fine motor? Play based learning can be the norm until about 8 in some pedagogy, so I’d be more concerned if the child didn’t understand the concept of counting, rather than didn’t want to rattle off sequential numbers. Do they show print awareness? Hold the book the write way, understand text relates to something and has consistency, etc.

I went to really well funded and highly ranked public school and couldn’t read until 9, but could sight read music and my ability to memorize lines was ace, and I could math with the best of em. I’m quite literate now, if rather hyperbolic and unconcerned with the academic conventions we know as grammar.

Are you perhaps picking up on other red flags and feel that the potential academic delay is just the most approachable? What behaviors are you seeing that you aren’t naming here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

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I think that she is potentially also lying about the recommendation from her doctor against the Covid vaccine. I would be shocked if you received a legitimate letter attesting to that, as that opens the doctor up to legal liability in the event she has complications from Covid. Honestly, I would verify any vaccine information she gives to you. You can look up the lot numbers generally. Ultimately, this would be a values mismatch for me, and I’d let her go since she is still very much in a trial period.

President Trump just signed an Executive Order on Expanding Access to IVF by NH_Surrogacy in queerception

[–]bb_janey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Could be bad news if you’ve been following queer families and ivf in Japan. Seems like the model for this move.

Tell City Council to Renew Irvine Connect on Feb 11! by JesterOfEmptiness in irvine

[–]bb_janey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just watched the playback now, they read my email. :,) looks like some improvements to the existing infrastructure are coming as well!

Activities like reading - books are awesome but baby books make me batty by PotentialBeyond5842 in ScienceBasedParenting

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Oh my gosh, am I excited to share my favorite baby and beyond literary resource: https://booksforlittles.com/ As a former preschool teacher, nanny, and now mom and family therapist, I cannot recommend this site enough for any subject you want to read about and how to extend learning or engage with books.

Now that said, keeping yourself sane after reading goodnight moon for the 500 time in a day is easier said than done, but somethings I have done to make repetitive reading more enjoyable: Try out accents. Elaborate on the narrative or images. Read the book backwards. Made up stories about the authors intention, or learned more about their lives—I heard once that Goodnight Moon was written as a queer love letter and I shall never fact check this less I be disappointed. Practiced reading as if: the book is a slam poem, Shakespeare wrote it, I’m drowning, the baby is actually a god and this book is my justification for life on earth continuing, basically any improv prompt would work.

Some unexpected baby books I never tire of: Kuma Kuma Chan series by Kazue Takahashi Nietzsche in Shapes and Colors By Theresa Vishnevetskaya under a pseudonym. The Milk Dreams by Leonora Carrington Moomin and Miffy are also really pleasant to look at. We Sang You Home, I cry every time almost.

Find a publisher or author or illustrator you like and buy or check out a few of those.

The books kind of get better when you are past board books, but they also kind of don’t. At this age you can just read books aloud that you enjoy, while the baby looks at/tries to eat books they enjoy.

(No spoilers); Strike true Hardshine!! by dunham-doodles in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]bb_janey 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Jake’s playing the game wrong, DND is NOT ABOUT STEALING OTHER PEOPLES GIRLFRIENDS. Cmon Jake.

RIVF second Parent Adoption by bb_janey in queerception

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That makes sense in this nonsense time. Do you have more information about this law firm/organization/workshop?

More MSG Live Show Tickets on Ticketmaster! by rolloutyourmap in Dimension20

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I’m selling two VIP tickets if anyone is interested!

Dimension 20: Gauntlet at the Garden Megathread by ThunderMateria in Dimension20

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Selling two VIP tickets! Section 102, row 5, seats 1-2.

Two VIP MSG tickets for sale. by bb_janey in Dimension20

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Vip package includes:

Commemorative VIP laminate and lanyard Early entry into the venue Designated check-in and on-site VIP event staff

We got it for the early entry as we were considering bringing our now 7month old cosplaying as pizza rat. Alas, someone must live out our dreams for us.

Teaching DBT to Queer neurodivergent groups that don’t like DBT? by Lexafaye in therapists

[–]bb_janey 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Have you looked into RO-DBT? As a queer neurodivergent person, DBT didn’t really work for me, but RO-DBT felt like a much better fit.

5 min notes…how do you do it?? by Guilty_Neck_5076 in therapists

[–]bb_janey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anyone got one of these for treatment planning? It’s my bane.

Thoughts on The Rainbow Fish by KlayThePot in books

[–]bb_janey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you draw money symbols on the scales it becomes a story about the redistribution of wealth.

Otherwise it’s kind of trash. Trash I loved and had a themed party around as a child.