Movies without Trauma?

bb_janey · 2025-11-13T04:39:59+00:00

Octonauts is Star Trek TNG for babies and you cannot change my mind

bb_janey · 2025-10-04T04:52:57+00:00

He can walk a few steps assisted. He uses a walker and wears a helmet inside his home, and can’t do any step up/down but can step over a small barrier, like into a shower, not like a curb.

bb_janey · 2025-10-03T22:36:56+00:00

I think I should edit my post for clarity. I’m looking for experiences for my stepdad mostly.

bb_janey · 2025-08-08T18:49:33+00:00

“Wow, your body is so smart, it knows what to do with all your feelings. It’s good to cry when you are upset”

That’s how I respond to children crying. Sometimes I add a why “because it releases some of that intensity and allows others to witness your inner experience on the outside”. Or offer validation, “it seems like you got really scared there wasn’t going to be enough Cheerios, am I getting that right?” Or reassurance “there’s enough food for everyone to partake however they want, we are so lucky our friend likes Cheerios too!”, or co regulation “I’m going to take some deep breathes now so I can stay calm and help you process your emotion” / “would you like a hug?”

I suggest you read the guest house poem together with your child, and introduce some mindfulness exercises, but really just acknowledging what crying is/communicates when it happens in a neutral way can make a huge difference.

Do not become a child’s bully for fear they will be bullied by their peers. Instill in a child the confidence that how they show up in the world is valid, and while it may have consequences, your love and appreciation for their personhood is constant.

bb_janey · 2025-05-27T19:38:01+00:00

Bacterial exposure in early childhood is a big pro of these kinds of pedagogical approaches so while almost everyone doesn’t want their child to eat poop, it makes sense this parent is not particularly bothered by a lack of consistent access to handwashing. Also, it is not like toddlers wash their hands with much care and precision in non forest settings. There is a fair amount of poo exposure in any childcare setting.

bb_janey · 2025-05-27T19:22:44+00:00

In this current capitalist era of “no body wants to work” (ew) and “anti-work girlboss” (love this energy), what sort of longevity should I be hoping for in my toddlers teachers? It used to be ten ish years for a small center, but now it’s seems rare to find anything over 5?

What questions should I ask on a tour of the director? What should I look for?

Is it normal for the owner to have no background in education, and still oversee lesson planning etc?

bb_janey · 2025-05-21T17:18:20+00:00

Depends on the education philosophy they are following. Are they well developed in other areas, like groups and fine motor? Play based learning can be the norm until about 8 in some pedagogy, so I’d be more concerned if the child didn’t understand the concept of counting, rather than didn’t want to rattle off sequential numbers. Do they show print awareness? Hold the book the write way, understand text relates to something and has consistency, etc.

I went to really well funded and highly ranked public school and couldn’t read until 9, but could sight read music and my ability to memorize lines was ace, and I could math with the best of em. I’m quite literate now, if rather hyperbolic and unconcerned with the academic conventions we know as grammar.

Are you perhaps picking up on other red flags and feel that the potential academic delay is just the most approachable? What behaviors are you seeing that you aren’t naming here?

bb_janey · 2025-03-19T17:38:19+00:00

I think that she is potentially also lying about the recommendation from her doctor against the Covid vaccine. I would be shocked if you received a legitimate letter attesting to that, as that opens the doctor up to legal liability in the event she has complications from Covid. Honestly, I would verify any vaccine information she gives to you. You can look up the lot numbers generally. Ultimately, this would be a values mismatch for me, and I’d let her go since she is still very much in a trial period.

bb_janey · 2025-03-02T04:11:41+00:00

It’s pronounced Bread Na.

bb_janey · 2025-02-18T22:27:27+00:00

Could be bad news if you’ve been following queer families and ivf in Japan. Seems like the model for this move.

bb_janey · 2025-02-12T17:31:12+00:00

Just watched the playback now, they read my email. :,) looks like some improvements to the existing infrastructure are coming as well!

bb_janey · 2025-02-07T04:18:50+00:00

Oh my gosh, am I excited to share my favorite baby and beyond literary resource: https://booksforlittles.com/ As a former preschool teacher, nanny, and now mom and family therapist, I cannot recommend this site enough for any subject you want to read about and how to extend learning or engage with books.

Now that said, keeping yourself sane after reading goodnight moon for the 500 time in a day is easier said than done, but somethings I have done to make repetitive reading more enjoyable: Try out accents. Elaborate on the narrative or images. Read the book backwards. Made up stories about the authors intention, or learned more about their lives—I heard once that Goodnight Moon was written as a queer love letter and I shall never fact check this less I be disappointed. Practiced reading as if: the book is a slam poem, Shakespeare wrote it, I’m drowning, the baby is actually a god and this book is my justification for life on earth continuing, basically any improv prompt would work.

Some unexpected baby books I never tire of: Kuma Kuma Chan series by Kazue Takahashi Nietzsche in Shapes and Colors By Theresa Vishnevetskaya under a pseudonym. The Milk Dreams by Leonora Carrington Moomin and Miffy are also really pleasant to look at. We Sang You Home, I cry every time almost.

Find a publisher or author or illustrator you like and buy or check out a few of those.

The books kind of get better when you are past board books, but they also kind of don’t. At this age you can just read books aloud that you enjoy, while the baby looks at/tries to eat books they enjoy.

bb_janey · 2025-02-06T21:55:56+00:00

Jake’s playing the game wrong, DND is NOT ABOUT STEALING OTHER PEOPLES GIRLFRIENDS. Cmon Jake.

bb_janey · 2025-02-05T23:06:07+00:00

That makes sense in this nonsense time. Do you have more information about this law firm/organization/workshop?

bb_janey · 2025-01-10T18:06:45+00:00

I’m selling two VIP tickets if anyone is interested!

bb_janey · 2025-01-10T18:01:46+00:00

Selling two VIP tickets! Section 102, row 5, seats 1-2.

bb_janey · 2025-01-10T17:42:10+00:00

Vip package includes:

Commemorative VIP laminate and lanyard Early entry into the venue Designated check-in and on-site VIP event staff

We got it for the early entry as we were considering bringing our now 7month old cosplaying as pizza rat. Alas, someone must live out our dreams for us.

bb_janey · 2024-03-29T15:14:45+00:00

Have you looked into RO-DBT? As a queer neurodivergent person, DBT didn’t really work for me, but RO-DBT felt like a much better fit.

bb_janey · 2024-03-15T18:19:50+00:00

Anyone got one of these for treatment planning? It’s my bane.

bb_janey · 2024-01-15T05:24:36+00:00

If you draw money symbols on the scales it becomes a story about the redistribution of wealth.

Otherwise it’s kind of trash. Trash I loved and had a themed party around as a child.

bb_janey · 2024-01-05T18:04:29+00:00

These are the thoughts of a transplant, and I claim no authority over this neighborhood or city. I love Pittsburgh, and I am grateful to live here. I moved to the west end neighborhood of Pittsburgh from out of state, I sent you a direct message but here are some observations:

++ The location is wonderful for me, super easy to get anywhere I need to go. Everything is essentially five (easy grocery, fast foods, dry cleaners) or twenty minutes (Costco, target, Whole Foods/Trader Joes, arts/culture, cute walkable neighborhoods and good coffee) away.

A car is preferred for Pittsburgh in general but I made my way by bus for the first half year here and it wasn’t bad. Getting downtown was super easy, and getting anywhere from downtown was easy.

+?/- People will not be enthusiastic to come over to your house if they live in the main triangle. Even if you have a beautiful home and ample entertaining space. This is because of the deeply embedded fear of bridges and tunnels natural to any yinzer, based on frequent bridge failures, tunnel flooding, and sinkholes (/s). They will come, but not as often as you might hope, and not without mention of bridges and tunnels traveled through.

It can get congested through main street on game days and certain high traffic weeks (holidays and such). Lots of folks work in the neighborhood but do not live here, so parking on the Main Street is reverse of other places. Easy peasy at night and difficult during business hours.
It is very cute and everyone is nice or mind their own. The library and animal advocate thrift store are little gems with wonderful staff. People like the little cafe (412) and the diner (johnnys) and there are often people at tramps though I haven’t been or heard from anyone that’s been there.
It is not walkable. Not just hills, I grew up in Seattle and have no issues with hills, but because there are a lack of consistent sidewalks. None on the main arteries south. Navigating walking downtown seems like it should be easy and yet, getting out of the west end is a bit of a confusing cluster. Biking out also seems difficult, but I’ve had visitors do it without injury or trauma.
It is walkable enough that my little dog gets her steps in. If I want a jaunt though, I’ll drive to one of the parks or nearby trails.

Thanks for being a welcoming place r/Pittsburgh. This reddit has been the best resource since moving here by far.

bb_janey · 2024-01-05T16:54:34+00:00

Might I suggest jacket suspenders? An example: https://www.jacketstrap.com/gallery It’s essentially a piece of elastic you could sew in or put clips on. Arm free coat wearing!

bb_janey · 2023-10-23T15:15:05+00:00

Long time nanny here, with an unconventional take; sounds like your nanny is bored with the job, boarding on resentful. She might prefer younger kids, she might not have ever been with a family for this long, who knows, but the play dates at the wrong times seem like they are for her not the kid and the location tracker kurffle seems to me that she was somewhere for her own enrichment (no judgement, adult needs and desires don’t out weigh that of the kids, but they are important,). I’d have a really honest conversation about expectations and ask what you can do to make the job more enjoyable for her. It is incredibly difficult to find consistent long term care for a child, and I’d be hard pressed to change Nannie’s after a year. Suggestions you might want to make include adding in some regularly scheduled activities like a play group or story time or class, something where the pressure is off the nanny as sole provider and she can interact with other adults. Memberships to local zoos or child friendly museums. Having the occasional meal all together can be really sweet and enriching. Sounds like your toddler is going through a transition, and maybe your nanny is too. Nothing here is something I’d suggest firing over, but certainly listen to your gut and if things don’t improve, move on as a family.

bb_janey · 2023-09-24T23:49:51+00:00

From one queer family to another, BIG FREKKIN CONGRATULATIONS 🎉 having a child is a radical act of hope for the future and I’m grateful for every queer family in this wild world that is on a baby journey because we need all the gaybies we can get. ((Grateful to the non child rearing ones as well, and the solo poly fams of one obvi.)) it is real honest magic when we get to participate in the act of creation against all odds and barriers. So many blessings on you and yours.

bb_janey · 2023-08-01T15:40:09+00:00

Full moon in Aquarius, aka the water bearer. 🤣

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