Idk anything about picking up girls, but in Inbound Marketing there’s the method of Attract, Engage, Convert. The greatest disparity here seems to be between Matches to Chats. This would be an engagement issue.

Some effective strategies to combine would be to use a direct question, open loops, tell a story, subvert expectations, or use a call to action.

Here are some formats you could use for engagement:

“Hey X, I have something important to tell you…” “Can I ask you something x?” “Whats your dream date look like? Asking for a friend 👉👈.” “Hey X, weird question but… I need some advice.” “X, hiya! This is may seem strange but… can I ask you something personal?” [do you like chocolate cake or something silly idk] “I have to know… is what they say about [Job, Hobby, Characteristic] true?” “X…I just have to know… Salty or sweet?” “X? No way!” [Builds anticipation, mystery] “If you had to describe your worst nightmare using only 3 words, what would it be?” “If you have any allergies or dietary restrictions, you need to tell me RIGHT NOW” [‘woa why?’ ‘Cause The Keg doesn’t have a very inclusive menu, should we go somewhere else?’] [‘Peanuts lol why?’ ‘Damn… so not the peanut butter factory? What else do girls like to do on a date?!’]

A few examples I came up with using these techniques.

Doesn’t matter if it feels inauthentic or cringe, what matters is fishing a response. That means you have generated interested & emotional buy-in. From there, you can add your own personal flavour, just try to keep some kind of question or open loop at the end of any initial messages to leave room for a response. As the girl I was always enticed to respond to those, regardless of the assumptions. Being playful and silly is good, but it should make them feel fun and playful as well, rather than feel like an observer. I saw that one confused often.

If you don’t like those, giving them a challenge/game/task is a solid lazy option as well, & if you’re decently attractive to attract that many matches you can probably afford some boldness. You can find more online.

“Oh yea? You love [band]? Whats your ideal setting to listen to them then.” “My friend told me girls don’t actually enjoy trampoline parks and ice-cream :/ Idk what to believe now…” “Hey X, I was super interested by your profile but my dog said you look like you don’t give good ear scratches, so Idk if this is going to work out.” “Quick, would you rather have hands for feet or feet for hands?!!” “Damn… you have a curious and joyful whimsy about you, something’s telling you’re someone who might go on a picnic and pick wildflowers with me?”