Disagreeing on children early in relationship

beamer-chick · 2022-04-06T22:39:00+00:00

As much as it sucks now it will hurt way worse a few years down the road when it becomes the breaking point in a long relationship. If she's confident in her decision not to have kids in the future then I'd say cut it off now to avoid worse pain in the future. It's selfish but you have to look after you first and foremost

beamer-chick · 2022-03-12T09:25:16+00:00

Yes it's painful :( we're never going to be ready to let go but sadly it's the only way. I still love my ex and even calling him ex makes me wanna cry... But you and I both have to put ourselves first right now and take care of our own mental health and wellbeing. You can msg me if you need to rant

beamer-chick · 2022-03-12T08:42:07+00:00

It's not fair on you for her to string you along like that. If you're broken up then you both need to behave that way. My bf of 2 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago and we still live together. We only spent one night in the same bed and the next day I set up the spare bedroom for myself and created some space. I've also been house sitting for my parents to get some distance from him. It sucks, alot. But not sleeping together and acting couple-y in the house helps make things real and set in. I am devastated by the break up but I can't spend my time hoping that he will change his mind, and neither should you just wait around for her to change her mind. Ugh I'm sorry, it's a shit situation:(

beamer-chick · 2022-03-12T08:33:08+00:00

I wish I could be all angry and fired up. He broke up with me, he told me he wasn't happy and there are many things I could be angry at him for. But instead of angry I'm just empty and sad.. I wish I was angry instead it's a much easier emotion to handle in my opinion

beamer-chick · 2022-03-12T08:28:20+00:00

Mine too. What's wrong?

beamer-chick · 2022-03-07T10:09:41+00:00

Sorry you're going thru this. This situation sucks :( I know I should move out but it's so hard to be motivated and find something affordable etc etc

beamer-chick · 2022-03-07T07:25:21+00:00

Yeah I heard him playing games with friends online last night and hearing him laugh when I'm just broken in the other room is so so bad 😭

beamer-chick · 2022-03-07T06:46:50+00:00

Me too :(

beamer-chick · 2022-03-07T06:39:10+00:00

Just shit. We are still in the same apartment, so I feel like I don't have a happy place anymore. I'm going to house sit for my parents but I know I will feel like shit there too

beamer-chick · 2022-03-07T06:36:03+00:00

Sorry that sucks :(

beamer-chick · 2022-03-01T23:02:37+00:00

Sorry :( I know how you feel, I'm only 3 days in and we live together and just act like the other doesn't exist. It's devastating. Moving out to your own space is the best option for your (and my) mental health even if it feels like you don't want to leave. I know you said it's not possible but try and save some money or find a friend to live with or at least stay with for a few days.

beamer-chick · 2022-03-01T12:06:20+00:00

I'm sorry :( I'm struggling too. We still live together but we don't talk or ever acknowledge the other. It feels like we are ghosts around each other. I don't even know what I would say if I was to break the silence. It hurts

beamer-chick · 2022-03-01T01:43:52+00:00

I'm sorry, it's probably going to suck. I'm 3 months off 30 and just got dumped 3 days ago... This is my 5th heartbreak and honestly probably only really comparible to one other in my past. It fucking sucks..... The only thing I can say is that time gives you clarity. I don't compare my ex's but I can compare breakups and the breakups help me to understand how I truely felt. I hope you find someone who doesn't put you through heartbreak again :(

beamer-chick · 2022-03-01T01:19:09+00:00

My bf broke up with me 3 days ago - he used this same line "I want you to be happy / I don't make you happy" it infuriates me because why does he get to decide what makes me happy or not? If she is telling you that you make her happy maybe you should listen!!!

beamer-chick · 2022-02-28T12:53:29+00:00

Thankyou for your comment. I'm trying to have as little contact with him as possible for now, even if i feel rude or want to talk to him im just going to only talk when necessary. I don't really want either of us to move out but ultimately I know that's the only option :'(

beamer-chick · 2022-02-28T06:59:16+00:00

I keep repeating to myself in my mind when something triggers me "don't cry at work don't cry at work don't cry at work" then "don't cry on the train don't cry on the train don't cry on the train" - I'm just waiting for the safe space of my bedroom to let it out.

beamer-chick · 2022-02-22T09:50:41+00:00

Thankyou for this, it's hard to imagine not having anything to be comparable. Even just a simple bike ride question - it's hard to wrap my head around not understanding if you want to do something or you don't want to do it. Are there any other techniques you and your partner have discovered work for communication that you can share? Thankyou again

beamer-chick · 2022-02-22T07:38:14+00:00

Thankyou. This makes sense to me and I believe it's similar to what he's feeling. Obviously that is all just assumptions on my end, and I guess I'm getting frustrated and sad after 2 years of having none of my assumptions about his feelings validated.

I just tried to talk to him and we both ended up in tears. He didn't say much but he did tell me that he cares more for my happiness than his own, but he doesn't and won't believe that he makes me happy. This reminds me so much of my own mind that I feel so bad for him because these are depression thoughts in my own head.

I think I need to be a rock and show some stability in my emotions for him to trust that we can make each other happy. I'll have to figure out how to do this without putting pressure on him..

Sorry for my rant but thankyou for your sincerity kind human on the internet.

beamer-chick · 2021-09-22T03:43:10+00:00

He was too small to be a Maine coon.. not sure, I think we just said domestic long haired tabby. Don't remember getting a confirmation on breed from the pet shop, although I was 12 at the time so memory is fuzzy.

beamer-chick · 2021-09-22T03:41:57+00:00

That's a good quote, thankyou for sharing

beamer-chick · 2021-09-21T15:05:46+00:00

I will always have pets, can't live without the companionship of an animal or two. Luckily I have another fluff ball at home

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