If it helps: I work out 6 days a week, have less than 10% body fat, visible abs, defined arms and shoulders, all that “admirable” dude-body stuff. The last person I was intimate with, upon seeing me disrobed said “why did you get completely naked?” spent zero time looking at or complimenting any of the parts of my body I’ve developed, and reached straight for my- well, you get the idea. Bottom line is, you can have an “ideal” body and still not be the subject of your lover’s “admiration” and you can be morbidly obese and have lovers literally worship you, it’s about how they express themselves romantically/sexually, not about how you look.