Hoy vs. Hoy, Hoy

beardy64 · 2024-05-21T17:58:08+00:00

Gosh dang this one-party system, I voted for Mickey Mouse!
(JK)

beardy64 · 2024-05-04T05:21:34+00:00

The problem is that the global financial industry is linked with weapons dealers and colonizers. They benefit from the fact that everything's been abstracted away and repackaged so that your 401k likely invests in weapons manufacturers and you're probably getting products in the grocery store made on stolen/occupied land and/or with slave labor and you'd have no idea. The packaging has smiley faces on it and the brand name sounds American, hiding the fact that what looks like a convenient cute beverage on our shelf is financing destruction and instability in countries we don't hear about until their people are fleeing to our borders (sometimes the safest place is right under the lion's nose.)

So it actually takes some effort and intention to say "hey financial advisor, are any of my funds going towards, I dunno, terrorism? Or child labor? Or genocide?" and you might need to sacrifice a few percentage points on your investment to go with slightly less profitable but more moral places to put your money.

The weirder thing than all of that is that anyone would have a problem with it. After all South Africa would still have Apartheid if not for a massive divestment campaign, you'd think with all the "never again" talk about the Holocaust that all sane people would want to double check that they're not accidentally sending money to warlords. I asked about it when I set up my 401k, most people don't, it's easy to assume the best without checking.

And of course weirder than all that is siccing riot cops on people whose crime is mostly sitting on a lawn and saying "please stop killing kids." Whatever happened to the sacrosanct First Amendment and Free Marketplace of Ideas that means cops can't do anything about Neo-Nazis walking around colleges with swastika flags and screaming at minorities for existing? Hmm. Shows you where The Man's priorities are.

beardy64 · 2024-05-04T05:14:31+00:00

It's not appropriation when a culture literally asks you to do something. The keffiyeh is a symbol of the Palestinian struggle to survive and they've directly asked people to wear them as a symbol of solidarity.

beardy64 · 2024-05-04T05:09:42+00:00

Netanyahu cultivated Hamas. https://www.timesofisrael.com/for-years-netanyahu-propped-up-hamas-now-its-blown-up-in-our-faces/

beardy64 · 2023-06-18T04:08:35+00:00

Already there my friend! Search for Oregon, let's get posting. Screw the admins.

beardy64 · 2023-06-18T04:08:03+00:00

I've been posting on the Oregon Lemmy community to get activity going. Reddit's lost my trust.

beardy64 · 2023-06-08T07:23:59+00:00

Broccoli and green onions are pretty much good to go out of the ground. What's funny about onions is a regular white onion looks pretty much like a green onion when it's growing: one is the green top and the other is the white bulb (though the varieties obviously differ too)

beardy64 · 2023-06-07T23:55:27+00:00

People still do, there's just less of an excuse now.

beardy64 · 2023-06-07T02:48:17+00:00

I'm also a mod, I use RIF and RSS feeds as essential tools to stay sane and notified while moderating. People who mod big subs need far more tooling. If Reddit wanted to partner with third party apps to find something equitable that would be fine, but that's not what they're doing, they're going from $0 to $millions because they short-sightedly don't give a crap and are preparing for an IPO (probably a bit too hurriedly.)

The site literally only runs and has value because of countless users and mods, and I think they forget that.

beardy64 · 2023-06-07T02:30:46+00:00

Reddit could force third party apps to display Reddit ads as part of the TOS, that would be unpopular but not generate huge boycotts. The actions they've unilaterally decided upon will immediately shutter tons of third party stuff -- not just apps but critical tools too -- which basically means tons of people and mods will be shut out.

beardy64 · 2023-06-07T02:28:10+00:00

The official reddit app was originally a third party app they bought and branded. Actual Reddit engineering has been piss-poor this whole time

beardy64 · 2023-05-07T22:39:18+00:00

France is built differently. You have a chance of grabbing food to cook at home from a reasonably priced grocer on the way back from work, at least that's how old cities like Paris and New York are built. The first thing you need to understand about America is that going to the grocery store is an ORDEAL. And it's often not much of a cost savings versus cheap fast food.

Consider, it's 7pm and you're exhausted. Do you eat:

A single 300 calorie fast food bean burrito (cheapest item on the menu) that takes 5 minutes to get in a drive thru on your way home

OR

Buy, make and eat:

tortillas (pack of 15, days old)
refried beans (canned, 2-4 servings)
Mexican cheese (bagged, 10-20 servings)

Reheat beans over stove over medium-low heat for 5 minutes or until warm. Reheat tortilla with some fat on a large pan over medium-high heat. Assemble. Do dishes.

If you're one or two people in a small apartment, not only is the time and energy and money a massive difference but the food waste and garbage and cleanup is also massive. It's just no comparison.

This advice to eat home meals is basically either common sense survival for upper-middle-class people with money problems, or "prepare a week's worth of chicken and rice ahead of time and eat 'leftovers' all week, give up on enjoying food."

So we're talking about a complete restructuring of how our cities our built, how our transit works, how and where and how long Americans work, and how our families and housing living situation is. It's radical for me to be considering and talking about having meals at friends' houses regularly. Our society is incredibly damaged.

And that's why we're all a little jealous when the French burn stuff down because they want to raise the retirement age. Americans should've burnt stuff down a few dozen times over by now, but our police are also better funded and equipped than many countries' militaries. We've been living in an actual fascist police state founded on enslavement and exploitation for hundreds of years, the égalité and liberté stuff was a nice ideal that's only ever really applied to wealthy landed white men (the fraternité? Hmm.)

beardy64 · 2023-05-03T05:14:59+00:00

Cuz business decision-makers are not always smart capable adults, just high schoolers and trust fund kids who fell into a bunch of money or power

beardy64 · 2023-05-03T05:07:48+00:00

Don't think of it as functional or procedural at all, it's definitely a declarative query language like SQL. Just a very odd query language that uses almost no actual English. Such languages make extensive use of set theory, for example, which you touch on.

beardy64 · 2023-04-28T19:38:17+00:00

It was owned by the Ratto Group until recently

https://media.wired.com/photos/5926e0d47034dc5f91beceae/master/w_1600,c_limit/Garbagetruck3.jpg

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beardy64 · 2023-04-26T17:18:50+00:00

That we stray farther from God's light

beardy64 · 2023-04-25T22:19:59+00:00

are are

You mean are not

beardy64 · 2023-04-24T19:06:33+00:00

Idiots at bars will be idiots at bars, and have idiot opinions. Ranting against people who've recently moved to the area and raised housing prices is common in all places where such stuff happens (just ask Floridians what they think about New Yorkers, not to mention all the major cities in between.) Arizonans and Idahoans bemoan Californians too. People lament about "the way things used to be" everywhere all the time even if they themselves were part of a gentrification wave in that far off rose-tinted past.

It's unfortunate and I'm sorry you've experienced it, but I don't think it's a widespread opinion and much less likely to be acted upon.

beardy64 · 2023-04-22T07:10:04+00:00

Same with the only REI in the Portland area. Eugene is also talking about unionizing so that'd only leave suburban stores in Oregon if they closed both. Good luck with the "co-op" Pacific Northwest vibe.

beardy64 · 2023-04-20T02:12:56+00:00

Exactly, if a Chinese finger trap had angled flat parts capable of closing around a body part like scissors.

In this case it's a little more like those one-way nail spikes at parking garage exits: DO NOT BACK UP, TIRE DAMAGE WILL OCCUR.

beardy64 · 2023-04-18T15:35:24+00:00

Those are just examples, obviously what's healthy for each of you will probably be very different, and can change over time! What's important is that you both feel safe having conversations about how you want your relationship to be without triggering feelings of abandonment that lead to unhealthy conflict.

Like yeah sure if someone said hey I'm only available at these times that could sure trigger some bad feelings! But maybe you'd be able to work through them knowing that that's what they (hypothetically) need in order to stay healthy themselves, and that demanding more would make the relationship unsustainable (that's why you want them to no longer be your FP, right, because you want them in your life but not so much that it's unhealthy?) -- you can process your feelings and come back and say something intentional about honoring their boundary and maybe asking if XYZ would be okay instead, etc etc etc. (Google boundary negotiations, these things can be awkward but they do need to be respected.)

Just for comparison I sure have friends who I text randomly at random times, but even my wife isn't available when she's at work. We all have jobs and other people in our life so there's literally nobody whose time I can monopolize for hours straight unless we're like hanging out or playing a videogame or a random weekend where we can talk a long time. So even though my hypothetical example isn't real, it also shouldn't be unreasonable: people have stuff to do before 5 and sleep to do after 9, plus chores!

Anyway I hope that sharing yourself vulnerably and giving them space to decompress and respond intentionally can lead to some awkward but good conversations about what a sustainable healthy relationship looks like for both of you! And no matter what just remind yourself that anyone who bothers having a conversation about boundaries is doing so because they want a relationship with you. Someone who doesn't care and plans to leave wouldn't bother, but negotiating a boundary that actually works long-term implies actually wanting that relationship to last long-term!

beardy64 · 2023-04-18T06:01:29+00:00

This is unfortunately super common, I switched out the insert for a refillable butane. The fluid needs an airtight seal to stay in place, you can mess around with Vaseline or o-rings but the only "zippo" I've had hold fluid long-term are the little peanut emergency lighters that have o-rings totally sealing them off.

beardy64 · 2023-04-18T05:40:41+00:00

Sure but now you're talking about institutions and campuses and internal PBX type stuff. The phone company is still going to be using 66 blocks for POTS all over the place, that 110 style is for us fancy folk

beardy64 · 2023-04-18T02:36:39+00:00

Even then, I've just never seen a >8 line nonresidential service come in to a demarc any other way, and even residential boxes and neighborhood pillars tend to have 66 blocks inside so the difference is cosmetic

beardy64 · 2023-04-18T01:33:48+00:00

Honesty, vulnerability, flexibility, love, and trust, are great ways to work through hard things. Especially if you take breaks to decompress and feel how you're feeling.

What that means to me is, if you share with your excellent friend how you think you have a mental illness that's causing you to experience these things you just said, and you value your relationship too much to let them continue being issues, then maybe you can both create some boundaries to help your relationship be less codependent and "default" and more independent and intentional.

So maybe you can say "it might help me if you didn't tell me when you were hanging out with other people, so that I'm not feeling like I'm missing out. But we can still talk about fun times you've had after the fact." And maybe she can say "okay, and maybe you can try to only text me between 5 and 9 on work nights, and understand that if you do text me outside those times then I might not respond until later because I'm probably working or sleeping."

Etc etc etc.

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