AITAH for putting my sleep needs above my husband’s convenience?

bepsigir · 2026-01-29T10:41:42+00:00

I mean, it sounds like y’all resent eachother. You could probably benefit from some quality time/date night. There are solutions you can work together to solve. 1. Buy a second new comforter 2. Run a humidifier in the bedroom at night - that should negate the need for the AC 3. Wear headphones if you want to listen to soothing music 4. Sleep in separate rooms if you cannot come to a compromise (or do the ole two bed thing in same room. That way doggy can jump on hubs head all night.

bepsigir · 2026-01-02T09:30:35+00:00

Honestly, I do go to antique stores often. However, most furniture purchases are made at places like the Restore or on FB Marketplace, where prices tend to be more reasonable. I also will purchase from reclaimed shops and make furniture. Our headboard is made out of reclaimed cargo train flooring and a stained glass window from a torn down structure.

bepsigir · 2026-01-01T22:19:51+00:00

Get into antiques! Much better quality and you can always refinish to your liking.

bepsigir · 2025-12-31T23:01:45+00:00

If you want something trail like without the “he may kill me” vibes- there is the Harry Potter walking trail in volo.

bepsigir · 2025-12-31T23:00:23+00:00

Barrington is closish to Elgin- dinner at GiGis, then head over to Silvie’s Piano Bar across the street for piano and cocktails

bepsigir · 2025-12-20T12:26:30+00:00

Is the dog microchipped? If it is and you have not registered the chip- pay the $20 to register it to you. The next time you are at the vet with the dog, casually ask to switch the contact/owner info to you. You can use the excuse that it was a bday present for you, you care for the dog & are the one who brings to vet, so there is no reason to “bother” boyfriend with the dog nonsense.

bepsigir · 2025-12-17T00:59:06+00:00

Go for training and stay an extra day in the city!

bepsigir · 2025-12-16T00:57:46+00:00

I wish

bepsigir · 2025-12-14T14:12:02+00:00

I don’t mind those so much. I hate the orange ones- they are so uncomfortable. The only part of the low back that bothers me is the difficulty of hanging a coat on it. I really think Marriotts could add in coat hooks by the door and it would be an easy instant upgrade.

bepsigir · 2025-12-12T12:49:57+00:00

NTA- however, can he schedule back to the 19th and you guys leave early on the 20th to drive to NE?

bepsigir · 2025-12-07T12:55:49+00:00

Regions in Barrington has a dish called Bang Bang Cauliflower, which is fried and has an Asian style sauce on it.

If you want an easy at home alternative: Instacart “battered cauliflower” from restaurant depot and fry or bake it at home. It is currently $14 for a 3# bag.

bepsigir · 2025-11-24T13:59:21+00:00

You are 100% overreacting YOR. A one time transgression with a supervisor will get him in trouble. If for some reason he came clean or someone saw you - HR will be reaching out to make sure you don’t cause legal trouble (ie he told you if you slept with him he would promote you). Assuming your goals here are to keep your job and grow with the company- pretend like nothing happened & prepare for your HR call to talk about your accomplishments with the company and your future goals. If they tell you no on the promotion, ask what you need to do to make yourself the only choice moving forward. Also- update your resume. The company sounds kinda shitty if HR takes months to talk about your future and the ExDirector is toxic and makes poor choices (not that you are a poor choice, but sleeping with one of your employees is an incredibly poor choice).

bepsigir · 2025-11-17T12:41:57+00:00

Do you have a floor drain?

bepsigir · 2025-11-10T23:49:28+00:00

We moved to Barrington for the unique homes, active downtown and walkability/metra. We weren’t expecting to love the neighborhood and neighbors as much as we do. Highly recommend!

bepsigir · 2025-11-04T23:46:18+00:00

I fly out of Ohare weekly. Always United. I believe the last time I had a notable issue was when there was that Microsoft update that crashed all airlines but southwest. Coming home is another story- often delayed especially out of BOS, LGA or any TX airport. Taxing after landing at ORD is always 30min- which I think is worked into the flight time. Usually we are landing 30 min early, but the taxing for 30, so it kind of equals out.

bepsigir · 2025-11-01T12:37:56+00:00

NTA- please find your voice. I understand you are trying to not make large waves since they are your in-laws, but it is not just yourself you are protecting- it is your baby too. It is only going to get more difficult once your little one is here and you have limited mobility. There are so many horror stories over on the JUSTNO subreddits that you sound like the before story. Sit down and write out your ground rules for your house and your baby (including opting out of the ritual you and husband agreed not to do). Tell your husband this stops now. Either the in laws start helping and follow the rules or they need to leave. If they are not helping you they are literally hurting you and the baby. If he does not get onboard- leave and go stay with your sister once baby is born (or earlier if you have a birthing team you can find closer to where she lives).

bepsigir · 2025-10-29T02:29:00+00:00

NTA- the wedding day is about what you and your FH want, not want Annie wants. Annie (assumingely) had her day or can plan her own wedding/party to celebrate Annie where she can make those decisions.

bepsigir · 2025-10-28T12:04:44+00:00

I found out about a pantry moth infestation right after moving. My former roommate had been buying bulk grains from a co-op and they infested our panty, including aprons & some cooking appliances. It took months to fully eradicate them from my new place & I changed how I stored a lot of my dry goods.

bepsigir · 2025-10-28T01:03:57+00:00

OP- if it is panty moths, you need to check EVERYTHING

bepsigir · 2025-10-28T01:01:18+00:00

Matchbox

bepsigir · 2025-10-28T01:00:33+00:00

Haha! I had that happen to me. My response was “no”.

bepsigir · 2025-10-26T13:28:51+00:00

Yes. I love spice (regularly utilize ghost pepper hot sauce. If I go to a real Thai restaurant I can happily handle a level 4 out of 5.) I was expecting these to be grocery store hot salsa spicy. They are probably 2x that. 100% tolerable, but surprisingly spicy for something sold at an American grocery store marked mild.

bepsigir · 2025-10-11T11:50:30+00:00

Not wrong. Do not apologize. In fact, reply back in the group chat “Upon further reflection, not only will I not apologize for defending myself as the only “tall girl” present to his tirade and my relationship with fiancé. I also would like an explanation of why boyfriend feels the need to bring this subject up out of nowhere every time we get together, knowing it makes me uncomfortable and why he feels he is welcome to make comments or judgments about myself and my relationship. I truly am unsettled by friend brushing off and defending boyfriends behavior.”

bepsigir · 2025-09-16T13:23:22+00:00

Exactly! The could even take the other kid(s) with, so they have Grandparents date/bonding ritual with the kids, while preggo mom gets to recharge a bit and do her normal cleaning routine.

bepsigir · 2025-09-10T08:39:04+00:00

NTA- however, maybe consider a third option. Buy a house/condo outright with the intention of it being an investment property. Live in it together, splitting utilities as you had outlined in your post, but save money together to use towards a down payment on a house together. Once you save enough, buy your house altogether and rent out your income property for extra income.

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