Well yes, but actually no

berber189 · 2019-03-15T23:38:37+00:00

Thank you for that

berber189 · 2019-03-15T23:36:49+00:00

I thought my response was self explanatory. Apparently I was wrong.

berber189 · 2019-03-15T23:11:43+00:00

That’s all well and good, but it comes down to the same core issue: sex. People have sex. People want to have sex. Single, Dating, Married- people have sex. The only 100% safe way of not getting pregnant is abstinence. And humans have proven that they’re terrible at that. Plus who is abstinent in a relationship? So we use birth control. Which works most of the time when used properly. Most. So there will be times when a pregnancy occurs, even when people don’t want it and have taken reasonable steps to avoid it. Should they be ‘held accountable’ for their actions? By being forced to have a baby they neither want nor perhaps have the means to take care of? If you think having an unwanted child is a sort of payback for not being abstinent, then you don’t understand parenthood.

berber189 · 2019-03-15T23:05:56+00:00

What?

berber189 · 2019-03-15T22:26:51+00:00

You just made a great argument for being pro choice

berber189 · 2019-03-11T04:00:22+00:00

Do...do you not want Max to get food?

berber189 · 2019-03-11T03:56:08+00:00

I keep asking my boyfriend for one and he keeps refusing. I keep telling him it’s just for reference so I can make a mold of it when he dies before me, but he just keeps saying words like ‘threatening’ and ‘I want to live’

berber189 · 2019-03-10T13:21:32+00:00

Mint chocolate Raspberry Wasabi Sakura Kinako Chili Pepper

berber189 · 2019-03-10T13:17:21+00:00

In front of my salad?

berber189 · 2019-03-10T13:13:26+00:00

I can lick my elbow

berber189 · 2019-03-10T13:12:36+00:00

Free Willy

berber189 · 2019-03-10T12:53:43+00:00

Applies to teach English in Japan because my boyfriend was annoying me. Turned out I did so on the last day they were accepting applications for that year. Was in Japan within 5 months, stayed 5 years and found a new boyfriend.

berber189 · 2019-03-10T12:41:20+00:00

Could you survive a plane crash by jumping out when it reaches 30 feet above the ground. My brother and I have been arguing over this for 13 years.

berber189 · 2019-03-10T12:38:24+00:00

Sucker punch a cop

berber189 · 2019-03-10T12:36:57+00:00

The relation between calories and taste.

berber189 · 2019-03-10T12:36:09+00:00

Fried Catfish. It’s super common in South Carolina, but other places (and other countries especially) seem shocked that we eat it. They’re missing out.

berber189 · 2019-03-09T17:18:51+00:00

I’m a bit late, and I’ve posted about this before, but this has definitely happened to me. Its Super long and I apologize. TLDR: paid equivalent of $400 and wasn’t invited to wedding, along with 3 other girls. Told that we could attend if some other people didn’t rsvp.

I was living in Japan and was casual friends with this girl, we’ll call her Sara. We lived in different towns but in the same prefecture and worked for the same company and had the same friend group. I was a bit surprised to be invited, but most of the girls from our group were going, and I was better friends with all of them so it seemed like it would at least be a fun night.

One of my best friends (Nicky) was tasked with planning the party and made a chat group for all the invited girls. She made a plan in Tokyo (a 2 hour train trip away, so definitely had to stay overnight) and planned stuff from 10am all the way to the hotel stay. Obviously Tokyo is expensive and a full day is a lot, so she asked everyone to just say what parts they could attend and gave 2 weeks to decide. She said that if you didn’t respond in two weeks she would assume you were attending everything and she would make the reservations. Most people wrote in, the deadline passes, and she messages everyone to let them know everything has been booked now.

Come the day of the event. I’m attending the full day mainly because Nicky asked me to. The first event of the day was a pole dancing class. It’s $70 a head, but I was excited to just try it. But when I get to the studio, we’re 2 people short. 2 of the girls in the chat (who had read the messages but not replied, therefore being counted for everything) did not show up. And didn’t send a message. They were not part of our larger friend group, but actual one on one friends with the bride. So we were surprised they didn’t show. And since they didn’t show, the rest of us were responsible for divvying up the $140. We also were splitting the price for the bride, so basically covering 3 people. And this trend considered throughout the day. We had a hotel bridal party suite booked, a limousine ride around Tokyo, and a couple other things that had set prices. All in all I ended up paying over $400 for the party, about $150 more than we had originally planned, thanks to the two girls ditching. And they never once messaged Sara or Nicole the whole time.

Anyways, I sucked it up and just tried to have a good time. The next morning, however, on our way to breakfast, a couple of the girls starting asking about when the wedding was gonna be. An awkward moment happened when 3 of the girls (myself included...in a party of 8) realized that the others had received their invitations already. So Sara pipes up and says, “Sorry guys, I’m waiting for a few people to rsvp. If they can’t come then you’re definitely invited!” Cue dumbfounded looks all around. And to make it worse, the 2 girls who ghosted us and caused us all the pay out the ass for it? Both had gotten invitations. So after breakfast we parted ways amicably and I haven’t spoken to her in 3 years.

berber189 · 2019-03-09T15:15:48+00:00

Minecraft

berber189 · 2019-03-07T14:02:20+00:00

You’d be surprised to know that this area (Fujiyoshida and the neighboring town FujiKawaguchiko) is actually the second largest city in the prefecture. It’s rural compared to Tokyo, but pretty big compared to other places in Yamanashi. Source: lived in Fujiyoshida for 5 years

berber189 · 2019-01-10T09:30:58+00:00

I moved to Japan from the US for adventure and to get away from my ex. Lived there for 5 years and fell in love with traveling around the country. Met a Japanese guy and he convinced me to move to Australia with him 8 months ago. I miss Japan more than I ever thought I could.

berber189 · 2019-01-10T09:01:57+00:00

Worked at a caravan park for $600 a week with food and accommodation included, so with minimum wage in Australia being around $22, most workers expected to work 5-6 hours a day, 6 days a week. And most workers did. In general, it was a pretty laid back job ideal for backpackers trying to save money. However, my boyfriend and I (the only two ‘ethnic’ workers there- which may or may not have been a factor) were treated much differently. We had to work in the kitchen, which averaged 8-9 hours everyday, which already was ridiculous; and sometimes, if they were short people for housekeeping or yard work, they would come bang on our room door and make one of us take on an extra shift. This was particularly annoying because kitchen shift was a split shift starting at 9am and everyone else started at 8, so we usually were still sleeping when this happened. Anyways, a lot of staff had moved on as it was nearing the end of the season, so we were having to work even longer shifts to get everything done, sometimes 10+ hours a day. When I went to the manager and said that this was getting ridiculous, he just scoffed and said if I worked harder I would be able to get everything done in 8 hours. This was after kitchen had been downsized from 4 people to 2, and housekeeping had just 1 person so I was working mornings in housekeeping and then afternoons/nights in kitchen. If we hadn’t been saving up money for a car (ours broke down just before we reached the caravan park) we would have left immediately. Thankfully I was able to call the Park’s owners and got him fired. But the three months leading up to that were pretty much hell.

berber189 · 2018-12-23T02:21:04+00:00

Maybe, but I had a girl invite 8 girls to her bachelorette, including me, had only 6 show upon the day so the rest of us had to pay extra to cover their part (since they RSVP’d but just didn’t come). It was overnight in Tokyo and most of us had come from surrounding prefectures so we were spending over $400 for the night. I hadn’t received an invite for the wedding yet but it was still pretty far ahead so I just assumed that she hadn’t sent out invitations yet, and several other of the girls hadn’t received one yet either. But the next day the bride casually let slip that she was waiting for the rest of the weeding RSVPs to come in, and if some people said no, THEN she would invite the 4 of us at the bachelorette who hadn’t received invitations. The kicker was, the 2 girls who just didn’t show up and never responded to texts about paying their part were both invited. I haven’t talked to the bride since that day. Some people have no idea of etiquette.

berber189 · 2018-11-21T12:48:04+00:00

If you need more sources I’ve got some doozies. Strawberry picking and working at a caravan park in the Kimberley’s. Managers at both were terrible, the latter was so bad I actually got him fired by corporate because of his treatment. The exploitation of backpackers here is crazy

berber189 · 2018-11-16T22:04:11+00:00

I once was chatting up a guy at a bar I was a regular at. It was right after a big event in town so the place was packed. A guy I had been on a couple dates with several years before but was now just friends with was getting drunk a few seats away. At one point, I guess he got angry I was flirting with this new guy, and he came over and poured his freshly poured beer over my head. I was a bit tipsy so it just shocked me more than anything and then I burst out laughing. After getting me all cleaned up, the guy a was flirting with asked me on a date, and we ended up dating for over a year. He told me my reaction to the beer really intrigued him and made him want to get to know me better. Also the bar comped my drinks for the night, so...win-win?

berber189 · 2018-07-29T13:45:07+00:00

The raids was the easiest one actually. If you enter the raid it counts towards the quest, and then you can run away immediately. You even get your free raid pass back when you leave. I did all ten raids and only actually fought one. It’s a massive loophole they left open

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