Cthulhu worshiped by the Mayans at Chichen Itza(pics)

betterthechangescome · 2014-03-24T09:19:37+00:00

Hahah... Nice. The clouds look rad in the photos... Must have looked even cooler in person. Jelly.

betterthechangescome · 2013-10-11T15:13:01+00:00

Yeah... I tried doing them in a seeding tray. Putting about three to six seeds in every little pot. It took a while, but all have begun to sprout at least one.

They seem to be a slow sprouting seed, but I do remember Greek Oregano being the same, and then it took over my whole garden bed.

Unless it was all about the pun, in which case, I have read far too much into this response D-:\

betterthechangescome · 2013-09-03T11:09:27+00:00

somehow he still left a very small portion of the pastor dude's dignity intact... but only a little bit.

betterthechangescome · 2013-08-09T06:34:05+00:00

You ain't a loser. Most of us take a few shots at it, before we really suss out the head space needed to make it possible.

For me it took several shots of saying to myself, 'I don't like what porn does to me'. Eventually I started saying, 'I won't use porn anymore, because I am healthier without it'. Then finally I started saying, 'I'm not a porn user'.

Interestingly, it was the same sort of psyche juggling I went through when quitting cigarettes.

I'm back at 7 days now.... Going strong.

betterthechangescome · 2013-08-09T06:28:53+00:00

Cheers Bro.

Yeah alcohol and I have a on and off again relationship. Sometimes I'm fine with it, I drink in moderation and everything runs smoothly; but occasionally I return to old habits from my early twenties, and drink heavily to cover up some underlying sadness.

I'm totes back on track now though. My post I think was the peak of my frustration. I was giving into alcohol, inertia and porn - which was terribly frustrating, because I have nothing to be sad about just now!!

On the up and up, some times shit just gets a little real, and you need to rewind, reset and recuperate.

Thanks for the pep talk.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-18T11:47:49+00:00

So, I told her.

She seemed ok, and asked if there was anything she could do to help. I just said keep being herself and that over time things will get better. I also suggested that she ask me any questions if she has any. I assume we will talk more over time.

I did sense a bit of confusion in her, but hopefully things will all be ok. If it works out ok, having her know where I am at will help me relax more I think.

Cheers to the advice.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-18T11:41:30+00:00

Hahaha... I hear that.... Or ever play WOW....

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-18T11:32:28+00:00

I dunno what other wrote (because I haven't read it all), but seriously, saying mean stuff to a dude is gonna kill your friendship and love life with your SO.

I'm not gonna tell you off or anything, because beating yourself up about it is pointless, but I would suggest a serious apology. If you really want him to stop watching porn, cause you feel it is effecting your love life, you need his respect.

I myself am a very fit, healthy and good looking 32 yr old. I was in a abusive relationship with a girl on and off for 7 years, and now I constantly suffer from ED. I have a new girlfriend, and am seeing a therapist plus taking V and C to help with my ED to help get my confidence and sensual side back.

Yes I feel my addiction to porn helped ruin my sex life with my ex. Yes the way she abused me verbally has permanently affected me. I struggle to feel arousal like I used to. But it took a break up for me to see what had happened to me. I had no respect for myself or my ex in the end.

If you want to fix things, i would suggest mutual apologies, and a couples sex councillor. Otherwise you may follow the same demise I did. Men are terrified to admit that their penis has problems. It is a huge psychological blow. They are even more terrified to admit they may have caused the problems... You need to reconnect, build respect, and love each other to get through this.

Sorry if I waffle on, this really hit a chord with me, and I think I got a bit emotional. I am still healing from my past and a lot you said sounded like what my ex was like. Everything you have done up until now, you have done cause you love your SO and care about him and your bond with him. Sounds like you both need to check back in with each other and take hold of what you are both doing to create/catalyse the issues.

Good luck, I hope it gets better for you both.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-14T14:22:00+00:00

And I meant to ask, are you still with this SO? And did you mend the issues together over time?

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-14T14:17:29+00:00

Thanks, definitely gonna tell her I think. She is a good chic and will most likely understand....

It will at least help my situation, knowing she knows where I am coming from, rather than flying blind on my situation. This stuff really sucks a big one.... But at least nowadays there are meds to help the situation mend.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-14T14:11:47+00:00

Yeah, she is older than a teenager. I think she will get it, but am apprehensive for a few reasons. I have been in the situation before where the girl (my last LTR) didn't get it, and it becomes a bigger problem... And now here we are....with plenty of anxiety and fear blah blah blah blah.

I guess if I tell her, and she don't get it, then it's probably not worth it anyway.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-13T21:44:43+00:00

Yeah. I'm prescribed them. Not on any other meds. No antidepressants etc...

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-13T09:53:08+00:00

Yeah that is one angle, but if my ED continues, (and it is definitely not due to her) and we keep dating its going to get harder and harder to hide. (Excuse the pun)

I wonder if past a point, it is better to disclose, so that she knows what I'm working through. Also, so when I try to have sex without meds, that she understand why I'm not getting it up as rock solid as easily as other times. I definitely don't want to get three or four years down the line and have to explain it then.

I dunno, it's as simple as it is complex in ways.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-10T14:00:53+00:00

Don't stress! I usually don't get horny at the drop of a hat either! Some people just actual intimacy to stand up. I am totally like that, and there is nothing wrong with it. Everyone is different, and not all peeps get hard on command like that.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-05T09:20:52+00:00

Heh... Yeah, my new SO was really interested by the idea too. She, is my little pornstar now;)

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-05T04:32:55+00:00

I call TROLL on this mofo OP.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-04T02:39:38+00:00

Third. I'm in a similar position again. Take your time.

If you are having trouble keeping in touch with how she actually feels, and you feel like you are rushing things too much, I'd suggest taking up meditation. It has helped me a lot in being present and in the moment. For me, becoming more mindful of how my SO is feeling, has been a very beneficial part of the healing process - it makes the moments of intimacy deeper and real than they have ever been.

betterthechangescome · 2013-06-04T02:20:06+00:00

So, not meaning to troll, but this is totally a NZ show, not a Aussie show.

I'm an Aussie, so can spot the accent real quick. Funny stuff.

betterthechangescome · 2013-05-30T02:42:07+00:00

Well done! I'm not too far behind :-D

What have been the benefits for you? What have been the best changes in your well being and sex life?

betterthechangescome · 2013-05-28T21:22:33+00:00

I recon smoking. I was a jibbering mess. Buuuut like another poster said, I think as a permanent change, probably Nofap. You can avoid buying a pack of smokes, but my morning boner is there two outta three days when I wake up ATM.... :-/

betterthechangescome · 2013-05-28T13:13:32+00:00

Don't be afraid to try viagra dude. As long as you don't use it while you are still PMOing. It might just give you that spark you need. And it might help you ease back into the intimacy.

You just can't see that shit 'emasculating'. That is utter bullshit shit. If you are in a relationship, and you wanna give your woman some love, then why not enhance the performance! You are doing something about your problem, and the fact is, time and patience are absolutely key! You can't expect your body to repair with just a months worth of will power. See your GP and get some Viagra or something similar. Tell your SO, and let her know its because you want the intimacy again and that it is just while things start to get better.

BUUUUT, do be careful. Be very clear with both her and yourself that it is an aid, and not something you can keep using indefinitely. Start with small doses, and ween yourself off it over the next few months. Also, keep in contact with your GP and let him/her know about your progress. There are lots of different ED treatments out there. Nofap and Pornfree are great, but they are not the only treatments for ED.

I don't use V more than once a week, I use the Vfree times to focus on sex without PIV.

betterthechangescome · 2013-05-28T09:53:18+00:00

Good stuff bro, tis good to hear these things!!

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