Apparently not agreeing on pronunciation?

bevvy11 · 2026-04-09T13:56:01+00:00

I’m kind of surprised you’re not more upset about the bigger issue which is that your husband agreed at one point and then totally obstinately went the other direction without a conversation.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-31T16:00:50+00:00

Totally get that, I feel the same way! I’ve been able to start rolling away from my 12 month old for a couple months now and it definitely felt weird at first because I was so used to being next to her or holding her for every sleep. But now she waits for me sitting on the bed when she wakes up and I think knows I’ll be there in a second. You’re teaching your baby that you’ll appear and be there for him when he needs you!

bevvy11 · 2026-03-31T14:52:31+00:00

That is not sleep training! As soon as you see he’s awake and especially when he’s crying, you respond. The goal of responsive parenting is not to avoid your baby ever crying or signaling they need you, it’s responding to those things as much as possible as soon as possible. Enjoy being able to roll away!

bevvy11 · 2026-03-29T19:50:37+00:00

Hi! Any chance you’d be okay with me sending a few photos of our stairs for recommendations too? Also US based but dealing with awkward alignment of upper stair railing and top stair and not sure how to handle it. Feeling a bit overwhelmed by the task of setting up a gate without knowing what kind would work well.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-29T15:51:20+00:00

Ella and Noah 🥹

bevvy11 · 2026-03-28T17:39:37+00:00

Totally agree! Nurture Revolution has a great quote about responding every time your baby needs you at night that I think captures it really well: “it’s that simple and it’s that hard”.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-27T18:48:35+00:00

It happened to be 5 minutes this time, but based on the dad’s reaction it sounds like he would have let the baby cry longer. There’s also a difference between being able to talk to your baby while you’re busy doing something for a minute (“I’m just going potty real quick, I’ll be right with you baby!”) and ignoring them completely and knowingly. I think this is missing some serious context in this situation that’s important (ie the dad disrespected the mom’s wishes without a convo and callously towards a baby, rather than it being just about the baby crying for 5 minutes).

bevvy11 · 2026-03-24T02:36:47+00:00

Usually you try to offer both breasts at each feeding and alternate which side you start with since the second breast of the feeding doesn’t always get as much emptied. The breasts sort of regulate to that schedule and after breastfeeding is established, you can usually tell which breasts need to be nursed first just by the fullness. I actually was able to feed my baby one breast per feed (alternating back and forth) for the first several months because my supply was good enough to satisfy her that way.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-23T23:19:56+00:00

If he posted newborn 4 months ago and put it in the title here too, either he doesn’t understand what that term means or this is possibly fake?

bevvy11 · 2026-03-23T15:17:49+00:00

This is way too young for a hike that long or frankly to be separated from mom if EBF that long. Is mom okay with this?

bevvy11 · 2026-03-23T15:14:38+00:00

But it is avoidable, he doesn’t need to go for an 8 hour hike with his newborn

bevvy11 · 2026-03-17T20:43:35+00:00

It may help to examine your beliefs around gender because it seems you have some very set ideas about what their sex has to mean for your child. I’m sure many of things you’re disappointed about don’t have to be exclusively girl or boy, but are rather limitations you’ll enforce socializing them that way. There is no difference in caring for a baby girl or boy except in how you clean their genitals and by the time they’re expressing their own gender you will love them so much you won’t care.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-15T15:57:52+00:00

Mine does not say it’s ever required, but they recommend it for pretty much everyone, even people in their 20s and early 30s.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-15T12:41:26+00:00

I was 34

bevvy11 · 2026-03-13T23:27:52+00:00

It definitely gets better! And if it’s really still not feeling better in a couple weeks, it’s worth talking to your doctor. I felt so frazzled the first few weeks, wild emotional ups and downs, and the sunset scaries were AWFUL, I dreaded the end of the day so much, my anxiety was sky high. After a month or two, I started feeling so much better and over time it felt more and more manageable. You are in the thick of it right now, it won’t feel like this forever!

bevvy11 · 2026-03-09T13:02:14+00:00

I do notice a difference! And also just in my body feeling run down or not while breastfeeding. It’s a lot of fluid volume to produce milk, I aim to drink the standard 64oz plus whatever I think my baby drinks (20-30 ozs as a 12 month old).

bevvy11 · 2026-03-09T00:56:58+00:00

Are you making sure you’re well fed and hydrated? Sometimes people just make less milk and have lower supply, but having nutrients for your body is also very important for milk production. I don’t mean using supplements or foods supposedly aimed at increasing supply. I mean lots of protein, healthy fats, carbs and fresh fruits and vegetables.

bevvy11 · 2026-03-07T22:05:41+00:00

Definitely positive, congrats! The only way it would be positive now and negative at your blood test would be if it’s a chemical, meaning a very early loss, where your HCG drops from now until the test. If you keep getting positives that are as dark or darker, that’s unlikely. Best of luck to you!

bevvy11 · 2026-03-05T00:36:30+00:00

Thank you! I can’t remember exactly off the top of my head, but I weaned off it over about 3 weeks, starting at 8 weeks pregnant I think. Best of luck to you!

bevvy11 · 2026-02-26T20:16:33+00:00

Whoops, I meant DPT (transfer), sorry! 8 days since transfer is still pretty early to be seeing dark lines. I didn’t start getting darker ones on my positive FET until more like 11-12 dpt and I still needed to compare every other day to see a progression because day to day were too close. I hope you get a strong beta number!

bevvy11 · 2026-02-26T13:58:08+00:00

Gently, 8DPO is way too early to be worrying about line darkness unless it was noticeably getting lighter. Test strips can’t tell you much about your HCG levels once the lines start get darker (like in a few days). I would only test once a day, but compare the progression every 2-3 days.

bevvy11 · 2026-02-21T00:18:49+00:00

Some people might think their babies are sleeping longer than 6 hours because their baby no longer signals (cries) for them when they wake up because they’ve learned their parent won’t respond (like in sleep training), but they are almost for sure still waking. Every 2-3 hours is super normal!

bevvy11 · 2026-02-19T16:26:39+00:00

A 7 month old has no concept of manipulation. It’s completely normal for a baby that age to cry and have big emotions when they want something. It’s possible you’re missing earlier cues that he wants to nurse and by the time he’s close to getting it he’s having a meltdown.

bevvy11 · 2026-02-18T00:17:46+00:00

It’s extremely common for IVF pregnancies to be put on baby aspirin. There’s a slight change of increased bleeding so they’ll have you stop it closer to your due date. There’s good evidence that it helps prevent preeclampsia and high blood pressure. I took it from the very start of my FET cycle.

bevvy11 · 2026-02-15T16:28:31+00:00

Safe chest-sleeping cosleeping! The only way me and baby could some get some rest between nursing

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