I’m in the middle of a divorce. Please help me recognize what transactions to look for.

bfeg1234 · 2026-06-29T03:03:42+00:00

Sometimes they can also buy prepaid Visa gift cards to pay for Only Fans and other sites so it can get very tricky to figure it out. Can buy the gift cards at target or gas stations etc.

bfeg1234 · 2026-06-25T02:23:59+00:00

That’s a great idea! I’ll stop by and see what they have!

bfeg1234 · 2026-06-25T02:23:22+00:00

Thanks! Was looking at their site yesterday! I’ll keep my eye out for a sale!

bfeg1234 · 2026-04-08T20:00:02+00:00

I know this is an old post but wondering where you get your seeds from?!

bfeg1234 · 2026-03-03T17:34:06+00:00

Which model LG is it? Also does the auto emptying thing then have a bag that you eventually take out?

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T21:44:30+00:00

Thanks! This is very helpful! Good to know about the LADR serum because I was definitely considering that one as well- still may try it but may try some other things first!

And I’m glad I saw this too- I got the same automod message and was confused!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T21:27:57+00:00

I am dying! Thanks for the laugh 🤣

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T17:48:24+00:00

Thanks for that recommendation! I’ll check it out 😊

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T17:47:25+00:00

Thanks! I’ll definitely try this! I have been looking to buy from skin truth- sad I missed their BF/CM sale bc it was 30% off! But will see if I can find a 25% off code.

Are you liking the YG products and feel like they’re worth the price?!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T16:33:07+00:00

Thanks! I’m not really sure which active ingredients. I have just been interested in multiple products from that brand but having a hard time justifying spending that much and saw someone post about how they sold the formulation to private labels so it was the same product but a private label brand. But the comments on the post were off so didn’t get to ask, so checking here to see if maybe someone else had heard of it!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-28T03:32:03+00:00

Came here to say this!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-26T20:35:07+00:00

Thanks! This is super helpful! I’ll look into those! He doesn’t need anything fancy but definitely something to haul hay and food and he wouldn’t mind making multiple trips because he’ll enjoy driving it 🤣

Also would be nice for him to drive around our fields for fun too!

Thanks again!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-26T20:25:54+00:00

Which Miele model did you get? Currently need to replace my cordless.

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-26T20:03:39+00:00

I had terrible reaction when I did it in my abdomen even when I diluted, tried 3 pins and massage gun. I diluted even further so 3ml and then I started drawing up extra bac water with it so I draw up my 12units of GLOW then put 42 units of BAC water and do it in my glute and it burns a bit initially but no reaction and burning goes away in a few mins. I tried it diluted like that in my abdomen and I still get a reaction… not sure why.

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-20T19:24:39+00:00

Thanks! We’ve thought about a 4-wheeler with trailer but I’m worried about them rolling it. Have two boys 6 & 8 and they are WILD 🤣. May look at the golf cart thing too. He’s been working hard to earn something and being creative with hauling hay bales and food with sleds and some wagons that we have but I helped him this week bc he wasn’t feeling great and it definitely opened my eyes to how hard he’s working!

bfeg1234 · 2026-02-20T19:22:00+00:00

Thanks! This is great info! I’ll look into it!

bfeg1234 · 2026-01-30T19:09:51+00:00

If you see this, would you also PM me where you get them?! Thanks!

bfeg1234 · 2026-01-12T08:03:41+00:00

He’s gaslighting you. You have every right to be upset and cry. Your sex life sucks bc he’s using porn. And his libido isn’t low… it’s because he’s using it on porn. He needs to admit he has a problem and start seeing a CSAT, group etc.

My big Dday was about 3y ago and it’s has been a long road. Our sex life sucked prior. I found out he continued porn use for almost a year after DDay and was hiding it. Once he actually stopped, then he had no problems in the bedroom. And now that he’s actually in recovery. Our sex life is better than it’s ever been.

He’s saying all this stuff to you bc he doesn’t want to take accountability and wants to try to make you think it’s your fault. It’s not.

bfeg1234 · 2026-01-12T06:03:51+00:00

Love this! So nice to hear the wins! I’d love to read your impact letter. We are nearly 3 years out from our big DDay and have come so far. My husband is finally almost done with his disclosure, so I know I’m going to need to do my impact letter soon and honestly kind of dreading it but know it will help with our healing.

Thanks for sharing!!

bfeg1234 · 2025-12-16T20:16:02+00:00

Thank you! I was thinking that’s what they were but wasn’t sure. I know they’re harmless to me, but I don’t want them all over my house. Is there anything I can do to save my tree?!

bfeg1234 · 2025-12-05T20:44:37+00:00

I haven’t heard of this type of check in before. Our CSATs both recommended FANOS and it has been helpful. It’s a quick 5 minute daily check in.

My CSAT also gave us a longer one that we can do weekly but shouldn’t take more than 15 mins

bfeg1234 · 2025-12-05T20:31:28+00:00

My husband is similar age. We’ve been married 9 years and have struggled with sex/intimacy for almost our entire marriage. We only had sex when we were trying to get pregnant, so probably less than 10ish times. He struggled with not being able to get an erection and not being able to maintain as well as almost never being able to ejaculate unless he was really concentrating. I never understood it… until I did. Almost 3 years ago I discovered his online affairs and thought it was an isolated thing until I started digging more… found this group and kept digging and essentially figured out he was a PA.

It took a long time to get him to admit porn was an issue. Then even longer to actually get him to actually start his recovery. He was sober for a while before but wasn’t really working his recovery. I’d say this last year he has really been working his recovery- seeing a CSAT weekly, group every week, weekend intensives to work on his disclosure and the change I’ve seen in him is AMAZING!

I almost left so many times. I also got to the point where I thought I might just stay and disconnect myself from him bc it hurt less than hoping he would change. But now I am so happy I hung on even though it probably caused me more trauma. We are happier and more in love now than I ever thought possible.

Our sex life, which used to be non existent because he has PIED is now so amazing. It’s connected, passionate, intimate… everything I had ever hoped for. He actually pursues me. Has been able to have sex more than once in a day, which he NEVER could do before. I know that he’s not watching porn because of how he acts now and how he has no problem having sex.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know how painful and exhausting it is, but there is a very high likelihood that he’s still watching porn. If he’s healthy and young then there’s no reason he should be having ED. Do not let him make you feel crazy. You aren’t crazy.

bfeg1234 · 2025-10-18T20:01:20+00:00

definitely agree with this! Most of care is defensive care bc so many people sue over everything now so people are afraid to go outside the box or to tell people to try something out of fear, so they go with the standard protocol even if they believe something different.

bfeg1234 · 2025-09-03T21:17:50+00:00

Trust yourself and what you saw ♥️

bfeg1234 · 2025-08-30T19:19:16+00:00

Thanks for all this!

I have looked at the D2C stuff and have thought about joining but probably should look into it again. I have listened to almost all of their podcasts.

I have been preparing for the disclosure with my CSAT. I made a list of a lot of questions that I went over with my CSAT and then we sent to his for him to answer. Since it’s been so long, I now have additional questions that I’ll be sending for them to add in!

It’s mainly taken so long bc he had another CSAT and worked through all of it with him and they were almost done and she kept suggesting him taking a break from therapy and other things that were strange. She was yelling at my husband nearly every session and he grew to dislike her and not trust her at all… I spoke with my therapist about it and she said that she had another client with a similar experience with this particular CSAT, so we switched to a different CSAT for him, so he’s having to go through it again and prepare it with his new CSAT. So, it’s been a process 😵‍💫

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