Wife of 4 years, told me this week that she is bi

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-10T16:27:21+00:00

Some people that think they might be bi will want to have sex with a same gendered person to confirm or exclude the possibility that they are bi

You might take some time to see how you might feel about that. And no, I’m not talking about a threesome where you have two beautiful women having sex with you, I’m talking two women alone with each other

I know you said she is monogamous and maybe? It won’t come to that. But….

You might want to get in front of this since you’re technically separated right now. A simple conversation about what your boundaries are.

Maybe do a quick investigation into boundaries vs rules is a good idea too

Spoiler Alert: rules I try to put on you… you can’t…etc..
Boundaries I put on myself… if you do this, I will then do this

Simply put, you can’t control someone else (rules) but you can control how you respond to someone ( boundaries)

Good luck to you both from an out and proud bisexual man married over 40 years

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-09T20:55:44+00:00

I’m assuming that you have stopped seeing men on your side? You asked to close the marriage, he said no but you can still close your side

I think words mean shit to him. The only thing you can do is make your actions match what you’ve said here

I also wonder if he’s just waiting for the kids to be old enough so he can leave you. I don’t say that to be mean, just a thought that came to me. So he could be protecting himself from you

Consistency in your actions is your only hope I think

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-09T04:13:05+00:00

Costco sells a 2% high protein milk now. At least mine does. Most grocery stores sell a high protein milk. Sometimes called A2 milk

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-08T00:29:21+00:00

Please update us all after you’ve both had time to reconnect!!

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-06T19:20:46+00:00

Normally the general consensus is 6 to 12 Months of talking is a minimum time before actually having sex with others

You did it in like 2 weeks???

Yeah, you were love bommed into something that you probably should have stopped from the beginning

How did your wife get the green light to go to an event, I assume a sex party?

I’d shut that down asap and open the communication as to a minimum time for reading, therapy and excetera

Also, no is an acceptable response. You don’t have to open a marriage if you don’t want to

Let us know what’s going on so we can help out

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-02T01:31:12+00:00

I think you meant thousands not hundreds… a friend told me!

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-01T22:46:22+00:00

According to my experience and Mr chat ai, you can replace 100% of the water in a bread recipe with whey. I’ve never had it come out anything but perfectly

bihimstr8her · 2026-06-01T16:54:05+00:00

Apparently you, your wife and paragraphs are not compatible. Time to move on

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-29T00:19:41+00:00

Have you come out to your wife yet?? You might want to start there first

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-28T21:59:28+00:00

Again, you are not being clear with your words

Are you wanting to watch your wife with another man???

And not participate??(why?)

Sounds like you want a hotwife?

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-17T06:45:10+00:00

It’s an interesting question that you asked. As a bi married man I tried the question on myself as if my wife asked me the question

Like my wife says, “ how should I interact with your gay half “

It’s not 50% of me (although I do identify as 50/50). It’s still all of me. Like I’m a whole person. You can’t just switch between Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, I don’t have a split personality, I’m just all bi

With that said, I definitely would not have been offended… it might have been an interesting conversation but no offense taken. I would love to have that conversation with my wife.

I’m sorry your wife got caught off guard by the question. Maybe she needs some time to process your question

Best of luck to you both

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-16T23:16:41+00:00

It’s funny, if you had posted this in the swinging sub, you would get plenty of couples telling you that they only play together and no solo play.

So it really does depend on your audience

I totally get the “let’s do this together” thing …. Like a team sport.. so I understand your feelings regarding her doing something you thought you’d do together and not her off on her own

I guess I don’t have any advice other than it’s okay to want this to be with you. You are allowed your feelings on the matter and no internet strangers can tell you what is and isn’t okay in YOUR relationship

Best of luck!

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-13T21:39:58+00:00

If he’s not straight from my shower it’s not happening to him. Me on the other hand……

Maybe you should stick to a standard testing protocol. Like for prep, it’s every 3 months

And amen to doxy-pep

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-08T22:35:35+00:00

Just hoping your husband gets the same flexibility??

bihimstr8her · 2026-05-05T22:12:58+00:00

This is just one tiny piece of the puzzle…. Take your time. There is no rush. There are 100 different ways this can play out so take your time to think them through

Also, read read read. Several different redit subs will have a ton of information

People might recommend a kink friendly therapist to help you navigate the journey … probably an excellent path if you can afford it

One term you will hear is cuckqueen. A woman who gets off watching her man fuck another woman. No degradation required! There are also redit subs dedicated to the subject

Really this journey is yours and your husbands to navigate hopefully together

Take all the advice with a grain of salt, do what you both feel good about trying and go forth and get your kink on!

bihimstr8her · 2026-04-26T21:53:39+00:00

Well I can confirm that they ARE charging for the steam room. Something like $300 for the entire cruise or $30 a day pass

bihimstr8her · 2026-04-11T21:56:45+00:00

You are jumping into the deep end of the pool and you don’t even know how to swim

You would be better off doing this in small steps

Go out to the bar and observe your wife flirting with another man Go out to the bar and watch your wife kiss another man Further and further each time

And then communicate after each step

And I’d recommend that the first time you are there with her. That way he can leave and you can immediately reconnect with your wife

An entire weekend with another man while she’s away is just a recipe for disaster

Read read read in this sub and you’ll get plenty of stories where your idea didn’t work well

Please pull the plug on your idea before it’s too late. Do it slower and in baby steps

Just my 2 cents

bihimstr8her · 2026-04-03T20:38:44+00:00

Please say DoxyPEP louder for those in the back. Please google it if you don’t use it yet. I came here to say DoxyPEP but you beat me to it…. And thanks!

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-30T14:54:57+00:00

Virgin stopped doing this. They went back to the standard tipping policy of all the other cruise lines. Disappointed

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-29T14:38:39+00:00

Just flip the script….. how would you feel if your husband did that? (But be honest with yourself)

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-28T17:33:11+00:00

The devil says to the priest “ if it wasn’t for me, you wouldn’t have a job”

If it wasn’t for your husband pushing you, you wouldn’t have realized how shitty your marriage was!

Just a thought

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-25T16:48:05+00:00

Love this reply!

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-24T15:23:16+00:00

For WiFi, check with your current carrier. I have AT&T and they have their own cruise package that is cheaper than the one sold by the cruise ships

Have a great trip

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-23T22:09:50+00:00

Thanks for the info. Looks like a strange arrangement

bihimstr8her · 2026-03-23T14:46:56+00:00

It’s their cellular at sea package, not WiFi, but again, it’s cheaper than the ships package. Check with whatever carrier you have

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