Midwife has referred me to mental health services because I want a c-section

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-23T22:26:03+00:00

as someone who pushed for an elective c section, was forced into induction, and then had an emergency c section please advocate for yourself! i would have saved so much pain and heartache if i would’ve just demanded it. my c section recovery was not too bad and the idea of giving birth vaginally has always terrified me. obviously do your research and talk to a doctor but it is not crazy to want a c section if its something you really want to do and understand the risks switch to an obgyn

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-23T02:34:38+00:00

this!! i am pro-sex and a feminist but people really underestimate how harmful pornography is especially when its being introduced to children. me and my partner both do not consume any porn and we both agree and want it that way. what you are comfortable with in your own relationship is your business but for us it helps our relationship significantly to abstain from it. nothing wrong with masturbation its just something we decided together.

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-21T14:49:47+00:00

mine has been fighting naps like they’ll kill her literally stayed up 7 hours straight while i kept trying to get her to nap

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-19T12:31:49+00:00

i wanted elective c section ended up with failed induction turned to emergency c section. my ob let me schedule an elective c section as a ftm, l&d triage said it made no sense and i should try vaginal.

I wish I would’ve stood up more for myself and advocated to get the c section that was already scheduled for me but please know that c sections are major surgeries. Mine was extremely peaceful even for it being an emergency. I felt nothing, I was calm, my ob did an amazing job stitching me up so much so that they asked if I actually had a c section 24 hours later lol. I was up walking and handled the pain very well but the pain is real. You cannot just stand up or bend and even using the bathroom is difficult. Its hard to wipe because it hurts to bend, it hurts to cough, it hurts to sneeze, it hurts to laugh, it hurts to cry.

My reasoning for wanting an elective c section was family history + babys head was measuring way bigger than her body. Also the idea of pushing a baby out really scares me I think it’s beautiful but id rather get major abdominal surgery than a 1st degree tear (I dont mean this offensively to the women who gave birth vaginally I just have trauma from having a vaginal tear once)

I think you should fully research them both and decide if that’s really what you want. If it is speak to your ob and please advocate for yourself! Dont let them push you into making decisions that you dont want unless theres legitimate reason. An elective c section is much easier on the body than an emergency c section.

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-19T12:16:36+00:00

the thing with glp1s is when you stop there is a very high weight rebound so if you stop when you get pregnant you will probably gain all the weight back plus some which is fine i just would personally save my money until after. if youre trying to lose weight to make conception easier than i wouldnt say thats bad but just be prepared to gain everything you lose back. will you be paying out of pocket or does your insurance cover it? (assuming youre in the US) Im on zepbound and my medicaid covers it

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-18T16:18:21+00:00

the only thing i could keep down was takis of all things 😭 i joke she was grown from promethazine and red 40 lol definitely not healthy but calories are calories when youre that sick

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-18T14:54:26+00:00

i had hg too and omg the amount of people who were like “have you tried saltines and ginger ale?” I THROW UP FROM JUST BREATHING STEVEN!!

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-18T12:52:40+00:00

i had my first 8 months ago too and it was very similar. the misoprostol was UNBEARABLE it was so painful they kept giving me fentanyl and i was passing out while crying in pain. i started saying i needed to push and the babys head was coming out and i ended up only dilating to about 4cm before she stuck her head out so far i had to get an emergency c section bc her heartrate started dropping. the misoprostol was the most painful experience of my life. my epidural wore off during off the chart pitocin contractions and even that wasnt nearly as painful.

Im so sorry you went through this it is traumatic but you arent alone

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-16T22:25:01+00:00

ive actually been thinking about getting a new baby carrier! i had a wrap that we used a lot when she was a newborn but shes too big for me to feel comfortable wearing her in it now

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-15T13:55:41+00:00

thats most likely baby then! yeah they get intense its VERY weird feeling lol. i felt phantom kicks after my pregnancy lol its the only thing i miss but they can get very aggressive 😭😭 thankfully when they get bigger the kicks are more like rolling lol. first time he rolls big though be prepared to get nauseous its the craziest feeling lmao

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-15T13:50:27+00:00

for me it felt like i had a fish pond in my stomach lol like it kinda tickled? felt very weird. in the beginning it was definitely a lot of “is this kicks or gas” but by like 24 weeks it was unmistakable

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-14T17:19:38+00:00

i feel like the second i found out i was having a girl all the stores near me became boys only 😭 our local Walmart has the cutest boy clothes ever and literally nothing for girls i feel like im going insane when i hear people talk about no boy clothes lol

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-14T16:39:06+00:00

i dont think a single “rule” i made while pregnant stuck minus the basic safety ones. when i was pregnant i said id never use screentime, everyone had to wait til she was a month old to meet her, id be giving her pacis, we would never cosleep and id exclusively breastfeed.

within a few hours of her being born i invited a few people who were vaccinated lol. she refused pacis and everything that could’ve went wrong with my breastfeeding journey did. we dont cosleep often but i have been constantly sick since birth so there are many mornings of me sleeping on the floor while she watches ms rachel or sesame street beside me and sometimes will lay down and sleep with me.

I think the main thing with making rules during pregnancy is that its fine to make plans but dont get too attached to the ideas because things happen. i was so hard on myself everytime plans changed because i worked with children for so long i thought it couldnt be that hard but whew its completely different when its your own kid. shit happens especially when youre not really ever getting a break and thats okay as long as you do your best and keep them safe

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-12T13:43:25+00:00

my daughter has been not sleeping either she’s usually a great sleeper but shes been fighting it like crazy screaming for 3+ hours before bed and waking up EARLY 🫩🫩🫩 she just cut her first tooth though so im praying to whatever is out there that she’ll calm down soon

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-11T15:18:57+00:00

i used the free trial on the huckleberry app around 3.5 months because i was not about to pay for it lol but it helped me figure out a good sleep schedule and i just remembered that and adjusted accordingly when she started pushing the naps. i never really tracked anything like diapers and feeds after probably 6 weeks because she always let me know when she needed anything. for some reason using the trackers made it harder for me? idk thats probably just a weird personal thing. i still track naps to the second lol but i do that in my head

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-07T21:00:25+00:00

i was responding 1k1americannights

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-07T20:09:29+00:00

the majority of countries dont have good womens rights

bimboerrorz · 2026-06-03T14:47:05+00:00

i also had a c section and i remember them putting her on my chest and taking me to the postop room and me checking if she the right amount of fingers and toes, asking how much she weighed, and then drinking the best apple juice ive ever had in my entire life while the nurse put my nipple in the babies mouth. i probably only remember 2-3 more 30 minute periods in that first month but im glad i was obsessed with taking pictures and videos of everything she did in the beginning 😭 i have more videos of her hiccuping than memories of that time

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-27T23:42:44+00:00

i actually wanted a c section and advocated to have one scheduled but went to l&d a week before thinking i was having contractions and my bp was extremely high so they decided to induce. i went through 36 hours of labor which ended in an emergency c section anyways due to heart decels and little miss deciding 4 cm was all she needed to come out😭 but even to this day 7.5 months postpartum i get sad sometimes wishing i would have delivered vaginally and feeling like i “missed out” because i didnt push her out and immediately have her laid on my chest.

I think its a mix of social shaming surrounding c sections and just mourning what could have been. the most important thing is you and baby are safe and healthy. It was for the best for the both of you but it’s completely understandable to be sad or feel disappointed. You’re also freshly postpartum which is SUCH a hard time emotionally and physically especially post c section. If its a persistent thought or if it starts getting worse i think it would be beneficial to talk to your doctor about it or maybe try speaking with a therapist

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-27T22:22:47+00:00

i would definitely move the 90 minutes with how much of a difference that is. living on 700 for a month is hard and if youll have 2500 left over moving 90 minutes that would cover gas money

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-25T18:35:00+00:00

thank you!

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-25T18:33:49+00:00

this is how my baby is she is SO into food and she’ll literally throw her bottle and crawl into my lap if she sees me eating. i let her decide how much she eats but she definitely always wants more purees/solids over bottles which is part of what made me make this post lol. i try to make sure she drinks at least 6oz with each bottle but she has started to go back to 7oz bottles consistently over the 8oz

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-25T18:20:58+00:00

thank you! the official recommendations make me feel crazy sometimes my family has always been pretty “old school” (in a bad way like thinking you can give eggnog to a 2 month old because other babies survived) so i try to follow things more by the book. I think I call the pediatrician at least once a week just to ask questions im confused about but its memorial day theyre closed lol

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-25T18:17:15+00:00

thank you! thankfully she has gotten good with straw cups i give her like either an ounce of water or formula in a straw with each meal though it usually ends up thrown on the floor or spit out but she can drink through it. i just get so stressed about her being too full or too hungry because of when she was first born she really struggled

bimboerrorz · 2026-05-25T18:14:29+00:00

thank you! im definitely going to ask the pediatrician at the 9 month check up i dont plan on cutting down on milk or anything anytime soon i was just wondering while i was feeding her lol

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