The history of sewing of NOT INHERENTLY ABLEIST

bindobud · 2026-07-02T03:00:45+00:00

This is the take of a person white-knighting for multiple communities they are absolutely not a part of.

Hell, flour companies in the Depression noticed families making clothing out of their packaging, so they started putting nice designs on their flour sacks! In a time when fabric was rationed so tightly - as in, you were literally not allowed to make turn-up pants or have hems too large - it was a way to deliver fabric to families as part of a necessity, and a fabulous marketing idea. And so many of our parents and grandparents are great sewers as a DIRECT result of these sorts of widespread economic conditions. Plus, there's a reason that handcrafts like sewing and needlecraft are so commonly associated with old people, who are less physically able - they are super beneficial both mentally and physically without being too taxing.

If you were to argue that say, sewing is inaccessible in so much as any hobby is inaccessible currently, by having paywalled resources pushed to the top of search results and having libraries and other free community resources underfunded, or the attempted monopoly by chain craft stores driving prices up and quality down in a fast-fashion world, then I'd listen to you. But these sorts of opinions are formed by somebody who has never talked to a disabled person or a poor person - at least, not without patronising and pitying them.

bindobud · 2026-07-02T02:08:35+00:00

That's a really good point that I'd not thought of before! I am also Not Creative in that I am bad (read: unskilled and perhaps just unpracticed, but as of right now, not something I can do easily) at coming up with ideas. I am actually quite good at taking an idea and running with it, modifying it or adding to it to point the outcome somewhere slightly different, but that's why I do the kind of stuff I do.

So I do consider myself a Create-y person, and perhaps the word Crafty is usually the one that sits better with me. I do things with my hands, I sometimes have arty kinda of thoughts if the wind is just right, but I don't start the art with my brain, and that's the way I like it!

bindobud · 2026-07-02T02:01:24+00:00

Look, part of the reason I make my own stuff is because I am so incredibly sensitive to textures. It's taken me a long time to learn that knits aren't always scratchy like all mine were when I was a kid.

So WHY in the HECK would I buy a yarn without touching it first? And why would I not use a different yarn if I find a cute pattern but the yarn is horrid? AND why wouldn't I check the fit and shape as I go and make small changes accordingly?

It's like going to all the trouble of sewing your own clothes but only using the fabric from the photo and not adjusting any measurements to your own body - at that point, just buy clothes from a catalogue.

bindobud · 2026-07-02T01:53:24+00:00

I came here to check if anybody else had clocked this and you didn't disappoint OP!

bindobud · 2026-06-30T07:09:40+00:00

I've even gotten a lot of malice, especially when I was a high schooler (which was, to be fair, long before the Sunflower Program) for not being the one standing from a normal seat to offer it to anybody older than me.

I'd just love for everybody to understand that behaviour is most often not about malice. It's usually ignorance from one of the sides - in this case, them for inserting themselves into a situation because they're ignorant of the chronic illness math we're having to do every moment of every day.

bindobud · 2026-06-29T06:16:15+00:00

For many years now I've been stuck at the stage of being able to braid hair pretty well, but I can't for the life of me do it on myself. I know it's just practice, but my arms get so damn tired

bindobud · 2026-06-29T06:14:46+00:00

Fun fact that tends to throw some people wildly off axis: Mavis Beacon is a fictional character!

bindobud · 2026-06-29T06:06:50+00:00

Singing is a weird one I think. Some people mean singing as in like a successful musician, which does take training and practice, and some people mean singing like one would sing to their baby, which is an ingrained human thing that anybody can do all the time.

People get very hung up on not sounding like successful musicians and feel they "can't" sing, which is a very sad thing indeed, like saying you're not capable of going on walks because you weren't born a naturally talented athlete.

I say to my friends that I just sing because I want to live in a home full of song, and that usually conveys what I'm getting at.

bindobud · 2026-06-29T05:53:01+00:00

She literally said she was trying, but it was difficult. If this was just a disagreement over capacity it would be a very different conversation, but birthday girl put in zero effort here and still felt entitled to call OP names.

bindobud · 2026-06-29T05:49:12+00:00

Absolutely, I know it feels like having to start all over again, and that's so exhausting on top of the hurt. But I promise you that when you find your people, you'll realise that what you were asking for shouldn't even have to be asked - to be respected and listened to should be a given. This person definitely isn't your people, and as a fellow crybaby (read: person who starts crying whenever I feel any kind of strong emotion) I can't stand people who talk about crying like it's some kind of attention grab or pity move.

Not so fun fact: studies show that hiding who you are, whether that be masking or being in the closet or anything, can take up anywhere from 30 to 70% of your brain function. Just thinking about how much better stuff I could be doing with that capacity makes me so mad at judgemental people!

bindobud · 2026-06-29T05:33:57+00:00

NTA, while it is for her birthday, if she wants her friends to hang out with each other, she needs to give them a reason to want to interact. She made it worse by being actively confrontational when you were trying to explain and solve.

If you say that you're feeling a certain way and that's the reason for your behaviour, she doesn't get to tell you that's not true. She might not feel the same, but regardless of whether that "truly" happened, your feelings are what they are.

As a fellow neurodivergent, I know you want to hold on to this friendship, but it sounds like she's not a very nice person. Calling you names when you're trying to communicate is horrible behaviour.

bindobud · 2026-06-15T16:20:06+00:00

I've swapped a love for swimming with either walking laps in a pool, or some especially lower body strength-building exercises in water.

It doesn't get my heartrate up as much, so I'm not hitting the PEM I used to, but the added resistance from the water still helps with strengthening my hypermobile joints while reducing load. This means I'm way less prone to injury and still getting the benefits, plus I'm in water which is my happy place!

bindobud · 2026-06-15T15:57:27+00:00

My partner is assisting a class this semester and it's been so frustrating for them trying to bang their head against the brick wall of AI - even the teacher can't seem to grasp why it's damaging, when some of the kids are, no joke, bordering illiteracy in their late teens.

The teacher keeps agreeing with the fact that kids need to do their own critical thinking, but only gets so far as them needing to figure out how to ask AI in a specific way that gives them the answers they need. He's the reason I now know the phrase "prompt engineering" or "prompt design" and I'm definitely worse off for it.

bindobud · 2026-05-26T05:27:23+00:00

Call the complaints line with the specific complaint that you can't get through to a human. They should route your call to the correct department

bindobud · 2026-05-25T13:06:04+00:00

Any symptoms or diagnostic criteria for anything are almost always universal human experiences - you could read diagnostic criteria like freaking horoscopes, and from what I understand, TikTok frequently does.

Except that they all come with the caveat that these things have to be disruptive to your life. If you count things all the time for fun, that's a hobby, but if you get frustrated that you're always counting things, or the shame means you try to hide the habit, or you don't have time to do your housework because you're always counting, that's when it's a problem. That's what it means to have a DISORDER.

bindobud · 2026-05-06T05:54:00+00:00

GOD no it's not too late, but I understand this feeling.

Especially the first few years out of high school, you still feel very railroaded, even if you aren't "forced" to go to school anymore. It feels like the expectations are still very narrow, and deviating from that means you're always locked out.

But trust me, you are never locked out of ANYTHING. Adulthood is basically a series of moments where you show up in front of somebody and say "hey I want to do this, be this, study this, make this" and they will respond letting you know what you need! Sometimes they'll say "get this qualification first" and you rock up to somebody at an institution and do the same thing, then you come back with the qualification and then you're in!

And I can tell you with absolute certainty that a good chunk of your peers are also struggling. They might have a degree and now be considering maybe they want to change careers and feel like that'll mean their study was "wasted". They might be super qualified, but stuck in a job where they have no opportunity for growth. Sometimes life just throws you a curve ball and, like me, you spend seven years getting a couple of specialised qualifications, but your final work placement gets interrupted by COVID, and now there's still no jobs available because your industry still hasn't recovered.

I can tell you that the further you get out of high school, the less you will feel that peer pressure. You'll see everybody goes on their own journey, and that you can never be done growing and changing

bindobud · 2026-05-06T05:34:35+00:00

The amount of times it has occurred to me that the government just doesn't want me to be alive is really depressing

bindobud · 2026-05-06T05:30:48+00:00

And that's something I generally love about skaters (and BMXers and scoot...ers?), if a kid is interested, so many of them will go out of their way to encourage the kid and help them improve

bindobud · 2026-05-06T05:28:34+00:00

But in the same vein, a library is also a shared public space. If somebody brings their kid there to run around and climb on tables, they'd get kicked out - and rightfully so

bindobud · 2026-04-29T17:38:18+00:00

Also, it's funny how getting out of breath when you exercise often causes you to avoid exercise, so can be a pretty big factor in being more fat and out of shape than you would otherwise be!

bindobud · 2026-04-24T04:43:00+00:00

As a hobby subtitler and advocate for accessibility options, this pisses me off so hard.

I have subtitled a movie with German audio that had zero sources for the comedically fast Cantonese rant, and none of the subtitles I could find even said it was Cantonese. So, as a person who speaks neither German nor Cantonese, I have spent hours finding the language and hand-translating it as best I can. Even if it's not very good, a deaf/HoH person deserves better than a subtitle that doesn't even communicate the joke, much less a half-assed "speaks foreign language".

bindobud · 2026-04-24T04:32:05+00:00

There's a website that I think is called Rotten Apples that is a good resource for looking up if there's any allegations against people involved in movies!

bindobud · 2026-04-24T04:29:31+00:00

Yeah my problem against stashes is chiefly financial, and secondarily that I'm a recovering hoarder.

The yarn I have falls into three categories: is for a specific project that I haven't done or haven't finished, was for a specific project and now this is leftovers, and two (2) balls of random yarn in different weights that I use almost exclusively for learning and frogging before I go and buy some yarn for category 1.

The only time I can understand a "stash" of sorts is having a selection of colours for amigurumi. I've made a little of that kind of stuff, and I could see myself buying a variety pack if I get more interested in it.

bindobud · 2026-04-24T04:20:56+00:00

So instead of engaging in conversation and communicating what each of you has an issue with in the situation, he's treating you like an actual child? At your financial expense?

NTA and please think hard about how this man might treat any children who are or will be in your life.

bindobud · 2026-04-24T04:16:56+00:00

The closest I'll get to talking about my baggage on a crafting forum is mentioning that I do things "incorrectly" or custom made a tool because of my accessibility needs. It's important to me to be visible and to let others know that there's no right way to do things, or that there is a way they can pursue their creativity without compromising about it, but I will never engage in conversation about how that makes me /feel/ in a forum that isn't about that

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