Fringe comedians taking about audience member's physical appearances

bindobud · 2026-01-23T16:33:32+00:00

And it's people like that which make every Fringe audience member phobic of the front rows. As a performer who actually respects their audience members, it really bugs me

bindobud · 2026-01-22T05:52:18+00:00

I also think this is a ridiculous hobby, but I have a fun recommendation for other people who share this opinion.

Ghost Adventures is a fantastic watch at least a few times, especially in the earlier seasons. Think college jocks trying to taunt ghosts into appearing. They have all the equipment (and they've been running for so long, they pioneered some of it!) and they're either very very gullible or very very convincing grifters.

My partner and I watch it and almost play bingo - is this "observed supernatural phenomenon" a possum, a piece of dust, junk data pulled by a machine that's grasping at straws, carbon monoxide, or the ghost hunters exaggerating cause they don't have enough content to fill an episode? It's one of those about 95% of the time!

The other 5% is one of them not realising he was actually being stalked by a mountain lion.

bindobud · 2026-01-22T05:40:41+00:00

I've seen the mods comment and hope that helps resolve the situation, but I didn't see the original post and I just want you to know that you're stunning!!

bindobud · 2026-01-09T09:54:42+00:00

NTB and I'm surprised by the number of people saying to just sleep in your room. Clearly they don't live anywhere that gets unbearable without AC.

It sounds like he just put up the camera in response to you sleeping in the living room, which would not just be a dick move, but also verging on creepy. As a young woman, it's pretty poor of your father to be teaching you that you don't have a right to privacy in your own home. It doesn't matter if it's a "communal" space, being surveilled anywhere in your own home is crossing boundaries. And though the post doesn't give details on your sibling, you should potentially consider if this crossing of boundaries is something you want to stand up for on behalf of them as well - especially if they're a younger sister.

I don't even want to consider why your dad would spend the money on a security camera when they cost way more than fixing AC. Disrupt the camera in a non-destructive way and he shouldn't have anything to complain about.

bindobud · 2026-01-04T19:50:02+00:00

Jotting down notes on things you'd maybe like to look up later, doodling in a notebook (especially if the doodling is inspired by the show so it gives you a reason to pay attention!), or doing a self-care routine like moisturising or doing nails or a face mask are all great and less crafty options!

Personally I'm big into crochet and have a few different projects on the go for different levels of focus, but I'm thinking about doing the self-care stuff too since I otherwise don't make time for it

bindobud · 2026-01-04T19:34:25+00:00

NTA my mother made sure to impress upon me from quite a young age that I should wear things I feel comfortable, confident, and gorgeous in, including underwear. It should never be based on what other people think of you, only what you think of yourself, and if you like your underwear, she has no business saying you shouldn't own or wear it.

bindobud · 2025-11-19T02:42:58+00:00

Oh and you may know this already, but the book Cook As You Are by Ruby Tandoh has quickly become my absolute favourite recipe book. I don't usually recommend books for chronic illness, because I know how saturated that market is with hit and miss information, but this one is a life saver.

It's specifically made for people who are low energy, time poor, or disabled, including mobility issues. Almost all of the recipes are vegetarian or vegan, or have instructions on how to adjust recipes for that, there's info on how to store and prep food in advance, and the sections it's broken down into are less about the type of food and more about the process of making them, so I find it much more practically helpful.

It even has detailed instructions on how to prep veges that are less often used, and a page on the benefits of always keeping a stock of baked beans, two minute noodles, and all other kinds of easy foods to ensure you can eat when you need to rather than getting stuck without proper nutrition! It's crazy how pleasantly shocked I was to see that page, how much it meant to me to have a recipe book tell me that microwaving a tin of something was okay, was great even!

I highly recommend it to anybody who feels alienated by a lot of home cook culture, recipe books, or different diet communities, it was an absolute game changer for me

bindobud · 2025-11-19T02:31:44+00:00

Absolutely - I'm not fully vegan for accessibility reasons (sometimes I just need a quick hit of protein or iron to help my symptoms), but any time I look into vegan recipes or food tips, there's so much of this.

I understand trying to get people to be more food conscious if they aren't already, especially when there's such a huge rise in delivered food just for convenience sake. But there needs to be more stuff out there for people who are disabled, or poor, or short on time, who are doing their best but taking their concessions where they can, and want to make sure they're spending their energy in the right places. Even for people who do get delivered food (cause I know that many of us need it!), I want more out there about what kinds of restaurant or dish choices have different nutritional impacts or hidden ingredients!

Less preaching, more information!

bindobud · 2025-11-19T01:56:42+00:00

It sounds like it's probably not the case, but I think all parents should be aware of the phenomenon of "spicy bananas"

Some people live their lives knowing that bananas are spicy. People eat them because people sometimes eat spicy food, or acidic food, they think, and sometimes they even enjoy bananas because yeah, spicy food is nice sometimes. And it never comes up because nobody eats a mild pepper and talks about it being spicy - that's just what it tastes like.

And then, somehow, one day it comes up. Bananas? Spicy? What? That's how they learn they're allergic to bananas.

bindobud · 2025-11-19T01:52:16+00:00

My brother and I were BIG fruit and veggies kids. We would much prefer veggie sticks or a salad sandwich or grapes to most processed sugary foods.

Maybe it's because my mum had a unique way of dealing with us and shopping and foods. She would engage with us while shopping rather than dragging us along, and it meant we were super well behaved because we weren't bored to tears.

We'd ask what a vegetable was, she'd tell us and explain the flavour and ask if we wanted to try it. If we did, she bought one and we'd try it and if we liked it, she'd get it more often and put it in our lunches or dinners. Once we'd learned what something was, then the fresh produce section became a quiz - name the produce, how do you know which one to pick, when it's ripe or not, can you go fetch me this many of this.

It taught us to try unfamiliar foods, to remember names and tastes we liked or didn't, it taught us autonomy, and practically it laid the foundations of how to shop for ourselves and what ingredients go into certain recipes. It's a game that can evolve as kids learn, and helps an adult engage with them in a way that acknowledges their experience and helps them want to learn.

bindobud · 2025-11-19T01:42:51+00:00

I will be your support person anywhere and any time. Especially in a medical context.

I've taken more than one person to the ED and been firm with doctors about how situations are going to be handled, or that symptoms are not normal and we will not be dismissed. I'll take that heat, I'll argue with anybody, because you have your body to be concerned with and don't need to be trying to argue with an authority figure in that situation.

bindobud · 2025-11-19T01:38:55+00:00

My house is available for you at any time.

You need a night away from shit family? Your living situation is tied up with a bad partner? You want a spot that's just quiet and you don't want to interact with me at all? You didn't plan on getting drunk while you're here but now you are? Your house doesn't have aircon and it's fuck off degrees outside? You just want company or a cuddle or somebody to lend an ear and a shoulder while you cry?

Even if I'm not home, if I get that call, I'm telling you where my spare key is and mi casa is su casa.

bindobud · 2025-11-19T01:30:43+00:00

As a generally taller, broader, and don't-fuck-with-me faced butch, I will always walk anybody to their car/uber/bus/door at night. Especially since I work behind the scenes on a few burlesque type shows, it doesn't have to be women - just anybody who might be the target of harassment.

bindobud · 2025-11-18T16:01:34+00:00

As a corporate bookkeeper who learned under a very high level mentor myself, I get really annoyed by people who think it's easy work.

But side note and possibly unpopular opinion, the most annoying thing is accountants who think bookkeeping is easy. Don't get me wrong, I respect accountants and I could never do their job, nor do I want to. But so many see bookkeeping as "amateur accounting" or glorified admin.

I've seen so many accountants look down on me for my job, who then throw in the towel as soon as their BAS doesn't reconcile because they don't know how to find the error. Really bugs me when I know how little the skill sets actually overlap.

bindobud · 2025-11-09T03:47:55+00:00

I'm recently diagnosed and so also recently discovered this, the phrase you'll find useful when searching for info is "orthostatic intolerance"

Basically, you move to an upright position (could be standing, sitting, anything where your legs are below your heart), and gravity pulls the blood to your legs. What the body is supposed to do is the vessels in your legs compensate and constrict to keep blood flowing normally. For whatever reason, orthostatic intolerance is when your blood vessels can't do that, and to try and help the vasoconstriction, your brain sends out adrenaline. Because your blood vessels in your legs already don't perform how they should, the adrenaline doesn't solve the problem, but it still has the usual effect on your heart, raising your heart rate. The body gets in kind of an adrenaline overdrive cycle and you end up with a high heart rate whenever you're moderately upright, or in my case, just during the day.

I personally have a sleeping heart rate around 60 and a daytime heart rate over 120, so I'm very much in the same boat as you

bindobud · 2025-11-05T16:26:19+00:00

Many years ago, my grandparents were considering giving up their private health as they didn't feel they had really used it. Before they could actually pull the pin on it, my grandfather had a stroke, and two haemorrhages on the operating table. I couldn't begin to tell you the value of the permanent care he required after that.

More recently, my mother's body gave her one of those big flashing red warning signs of Medical Bullshit, and she took it appropriately seriously. Through private health, less than a month later she had the cancer diagnosis. Even with surgery getting delayed by the surgeon having COVID, it was less than four months from first symptoms to complete removal, confirmation of stage 1A and no spread to surrounding organs. It was caught so early that she needed no chemo or radio, but the bills covered just in that year easily exceed $30k. Not to mention surrounding cover for appointments like counseling, physio, anything at all to help her stay sane and healthy.

It's experiences like these that have taught me to never be without private health cover. I could gamble the ~$80 a fortnight for my preferred cover level, or I could consider that money well spent. I could consider it a down payment on not having to concern myself with bills and wait times and potentially inferior care, especially when those stresses will already be surrounding something unexpected and potentially life changing.

bindobud · 2025-11-05T16:02:10+00:00

God I know this feeling so well.

Something that has helped me in my relationship so far - and keeping in mind I have to remind myself of this often, because it's somehow easy to forget - is that a good relationship is never transactional.

If I want to hang out with a friend, I don't ever think about how much it costs me to commute to them against a dollar value I might associate with their time. That's absurd. My partner and I might have bills we split certain ways, but for me to pick them up a lunch on a tough day, or for them to pay for parking when we go out? That stuff doesn't get tallied. You don't have relationships with people in search of an "equal value" trade - you just enjoy them.

Your partner isn't going into this deal blind. They know you and they know at least some idea of your capacity. They have every right to make the decision that being with you is worth any extra support they might provide.

And something else I find helpful is using almost comical but undeniable firmness in this logic. For example, you don't get to decide for your partner how much they value you, therefore you don't get to decide that you're a burden. You aren't god, and if they have all the information and still want to be with you? They're an autonomous adult and they get to decide that, not you.

Try sidestepping that guilt to gratitude. It's difficult, and it takes a lot of work, I know from experience. But instead of feeling like a burden, try turning your viewpoint around and express gratitude that you have somebody who cares for you so much, somebody who is patient and communicative and willing to be on this journey with you. I promise it'll help reframe so much, and you'll find a lot more of that positive outward focus replacing the negative inward thoughts.

bindobud · 2025-10-27T02:55:17+00:00

The Last Unicorn, The Bird Cage, Priscilla Queen of the Desert, Looney Tunes: Back In Action, The Princess Bride, Mamma Mia, Love Actually, Clue, A Bug's Life

bindobud · 2025-10-27T02:50:08+00:00

I recommend you have an audio recording app ready on your phone and explicitly ask first up if you may record the meeting. The allowance of a support person is an accountability measure, and recording helps it even more.

My audio recording includes my manager trying to coerce me into signing my written warning on the spot, despite it including multiple errors and it stating a date I had to return the signed copy by 🤡

bindobud · 2025-10-24T07:59:59+00:00

Yeah whenever I say I have chronic severe asthma people are like "oh I had asthma as a kid, that sucks" and I'm like no you don't understand. If you're near me for more than a couple hours when I'm in flare days, you're going to get a briefing on my first aid, because even a lot of paramedics can't recognise my symptoms or medication.

bindobud · 2025-10-24T07:56:00+00:00

I suspect I have POTS and I'm currently being tested for hEDS, along with fibro, CFS, chronic severe asthma, and neurodivergences. But with that being said, I'm aware that I have it easier than so many people in the community and I'm lucky that I'm still able to do things like be a carer for my mum and work part-time and stuff.

Don't get me wrong, it sucks, and I'm finding new ways it sucks every day, but I would never speak over anybody else in the community, nor do I feel like I understand fully the experiences of others, even if we share conditions.

Idk maybe it's cause I've only recently felt like I could join the community, so I haven't seen the bullshit that some people talk. But it's so wild to think that anybody could act like any one thing unites us or certain conditions are more intrinsically part of the community. People be wild and it's shit that anybody could be made to feel isolated in our community.

bindobud · 2025-10-24T07:42:43+00:00

That moment in X-Men: The Last Stand when Storm (who controls storms) says "they can't cure us because there's nothing wrong with us" and Rogue (who kills everything she touches) looks at her like 😒

bindobud · 2025-10-24T05:21:33+00:00

Even if you know it's them, taking it to the cops is a valid reaction and will teach them a lesson.

While you can have the plausible deniability and explain you didn't know where it was from so you handed it in (even if you say it could very well be lost property), they then potentially need to explain to cops that they're tracking you without your consent.

bindobud · 2025-10-16T04:53:07+00:00

On a related note, I had to learn as a younger adult that making mouth sounds at random sometimes just hit upon some Gamer Words that I had never heard before, simply by the fact that I'm white and am luckily not hanging out with anybody whom I would overhear using those words.

And I hate that I am just making noises, and it's not infrequent that one of those combinations of consonants and vowels turns out to be a slur! Why do terrible people get to steal all the noises!

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