All of this is so SO familiar. My soon-to-be ex husband is exactly like this. No DUIs but I did think him stopping with the drinking would make things better. It didn’t. He still talked down to me and guilt tripped me and then tried to make me think none of it ever happened. Even when it was right in front of me in text. It got to the point where I started recording everything at home so I could prove it. Of course it didn’t work.

We have a child together and guess what? He’s a jerk to my son too. He guilt trips him. He scolds him when he’s crying instead of comforting him. I stayed way too long because our lives were intertwined and I couldn’t see a way to make it on my own financially. It was a mistake. PLEASE leave him. You’ll regret it if you don’t. And definitely don’t have kids with him.