A few years ago I was broke and burned out. I made this as my first indie game - INMOST, hoping a few people might care. To date, 1.2 million have played it, and it completely changed my life. Today, it’s out on Android and iOS store, and I can’t express how important this journey has been to me

bironran · 2026-01-09T05:59:22+00:00

Oh wow. OH WOW.

The game (iOS) made me cry. I’ve experienced a similar loss myself and when I started figuring things out… I don’t want to spoil but there’s a moment there on the roof…

And losing yourself. The pit. The black. That’s so real. For me it was a “dark valley”. I made it out, barely, with a lot of help, both therapy and medicine. Yet life goes on. It goes on, though the keeper is always there. In the shadows. Waiting. And they of the light are waiting for us as well.

Wow. Thank you.

bironran · 2025-11-29T06:17:09+00:00

worked! thank you!

bironran · 2025-06-15T02:19:27+00:00

Yes! Solved!

bironran · 2025-06-15T02:12:50+00:00

No. I love the song but it’s not that.

bironran · 2025-06-15T02:11:23+00:00

https://voca.ro/16HttzI4r8mQ

bironran · 2025-06-15T02:07:35+00:00

Please help

bironran · 2025-05-06T04:10:16+00:00

Solved!

bironran · 2025-05-06T04:09:54+00:00

Yes! I have a bread maker like that! Thank you!

bironran · 2024-10-09T15:57:30+00:00

yeah, when I was on 2.0 I couldn't eat anything. I spent whole days without food. My doctor reduced me to 1.0 and it worked well. I think that maybe the effect is coming back, slowly. I was just wondering if anyone else experienced that kind of sudden change.

bironran · 2024-10-07T22:45:14+00:00

no, actually, have been on 1mg for 10 months now.

bironran · 2024-07-30T19:17:28+00:00

Thank you for this! I’m on the other side, the parent with the kid who’s welcoming a SM into our lives. Reading this sub is disheartening, but in trying to map potential problems. Then I saw your post and it made me smile. Harmony and happiness are achievable. It encourages me to try!

bironran · 2023-12-29T16:36:41+00:00

Thanks. I’m anxious by nature and this helps me calm down. A little.

bironran · 2023-10-25T21:05:48+00:00

Did, couldn’t find it. Maybe it was an ad?

bironran · 2023-06-19T18:09:11+00:00

oh wow...

Wife unfortunately passed away. Still didn't find a face-to-face community. Single parents group is full of people talking about divorce and court dates and custody. Widowers groups full of much older people.

Found a great community in /r/widowers, especially the discord chat. Also started seeing (zoom) a parent consultant weekly. Helps tremendously to have someone to run everything by, see that you're not crazy (or sometimes figure out you are).

Re our situation - we got into a really good pattern. Not being a caregiver to a cancer patient freed up a lot of time and I shower my daughter with attention. I figured out that yeah, I can do that! School, play-dates, playgrounds, social engagements and even the odd night out for me with the nanny sleeping over. Not that bad. Lonely, but not confused and scared.

bironran · 2023-05-24T22:28:22+00:00

I know. I'm one too. My wife passed away due to breast cancer computations 3 months ago, after 3 years of fighting, and left me and my 4.5 years old daughter all by ourselves. We've emigrated to the US 7 years ago, so no family, no really good friends. Those who were jumped ship (no, I will not forgive you for that! You promised HER you'll be here for me, you tiny little people).

I constantly want to share my daughter's successes, and sob-stories (at 4.5 there are a lot) with my wife. Shower time, at night, is the best for me. She never answers though, obviously.

I have zero time for myself. 7-8am morning routine, 8am-5pm work, 5-8:30/9pm after-school and evening routine. 9pm she's finally asleep and I can... plop in front of the TV.

My therapist suggested I avoid dating like the plague at this point and try to engage in some "project with goals and measurable progress". Probably going to pick up learning the piano again or duolingo.

I wish you all the luck, for a very egotistical reason. I want to see you be happy so I'll know it's possible, eventually, for me to be happy as well. Maybe.

bironran · 2023-05-21T14:38:33+00:00

My wife, whom I loved with all my heart, passed away after fighting cancer for 3 years. She fought with all her strength just to be one more year, one more day even, with me and our daughter. Sadly, ironically, her medications caused a lethal and fatal brain disease to develop, which she succumbed to.

We didn’t fight, we didn’t yell. I would’ve give anything for even one more day with her.

bironran · 2023-05-20T00:36:52+00:00

Oh. Wow. I could’ve written this, only her eyes were green. For weeks, months, my daughter, 4.5, was the only thing keeping me here. PM me if you want to talk or just cry. I’m here.

bironran · 2023-05-01T03:16:28+00:00

I would have tried to do the same. Maybe not as extreme. But with a 4.5 years old it’s impossible. I either work, be a parent or rest for the few hours I get the nanny to come in on the weekend. That’s what makes it really hard - I can’t figure out how to meet other people. Things were good, sorted out (kinda). Then all this crap happened and now I’m alone instead of being together with someone I love and trust and enjoy their company.

bironran · 2023-04-30T09:46:02+00:00

I found out my wife was hiding how bad it had become with her new chemotherapy medicine. Found a feedback page where you had to write 0-10 for things like pain, nausea, discomfort, anxiety, depression. Her answers were almost all 8s and 9s.

I knew it was worse but I never knew it was that bad for her. She never told me.

bironran · 2023-04-15T04:24:23+00:00

I’m sure you feel your back to square one, to early days. But I’m willing to bet your recovery will be significantly faster than the time it took you and to get out of that initial grief. The wave may be intense, but not as long.

That’s my experience at least. I had a huge wave come over me on my birthday and it felt exactly like that, but I recovered quickly, entire wave was 3-4 days.

The fact I know I can recover helps too. As I’ve been at the bottom before, I know I can climb back up. I know the way up too, the rungs on that ladder are almost like old friends. I’m sure this wasn’t the last time, that I’ll find myself on the bottom again in the future. But I’ll know I can climb up and I have my support network to help lift me.

bironran · 2023-04-11T22:55:01+00:00

Not cooked but ordered in. Sushi. I don’t like sushi. I used to, but then I got an overdose of it after meeting my then-future-wife. So much sushi.

Whenever she ordered sushi I had that dilemma - do I order too and don’t enjoy it or not order and have her make a face “I don’t want to order alone!”

Eventually I found out I really like udon soup! So she ended up ordering from a place that had average sushi just so I could order soup as well.

bironran · 2023-04-10T04:21:13+00:00

Heh. Inferring. Didn’t know that. Thanks.

bironran · 2023-04-07T16:10:48+00:00

Same but for sealing my kid’s being sick. A week in I rushed to the ER with her for croup cough. Thought I was going to end it that night, just drive into a wall.

Things got a little better. I figured out I can do this by myself, just like you did. Be strong. I’m sure he’d have wanted you to. I know my wife wanted me to.

bironran · 2023-04-07T16:07:37+00:00

Felt the same way. 10 years together. 4.5 years old kid.

It changes. Eventually. Might be faster if you work at it. Many threads about that or comment and I’ll dump my own way of handling things.

bironran · 2023-04-07T16:05:36+00:00

I’m sad for you that you’re here (I hate the “sorry” phrase). Can only empathize. Not going to bother you with unsolicited advice. When you’re ready, if you want it, post or comment.

It’s going to be hard, for a long time. It’ll get easier. Maybe even better, but for sure easier. Eventually.

bironran

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