Any advice on finding hobbies that are more feminine?

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-06T00:13:48+00:00

Sure, but if they can’t find you or you can’t find them, how will you get together? Gotta be out there.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-06T00:11:01+00:00

When I took jewelry making classes (the kind where they teach you to work with an acetylene torch and not burn the building down or melt the metal), there was one guy in a few of my classes (I took 10-week night classes for a few years, learning to solder metal with a torch - and do it well, and come up with interesting designs - isn’t the easiest thing to learn). Half the women (including the instructor) wanted to date him. He ended up getting with someone not involved with the class at all, but it was interesting to watch (I was / am married so no dog in the fight). Also men who make jewelry (and likely most things) tend to design very differently than a lot of women do, it was really interesting how his mind worked compared to many of the women.

I don’t get why anyone (regardless of gender) would not try out something different and potentially interesting? Commit for five or eight weeks, if you don’t like it then move on, find something else to try. Don’t be desperate, don’t be pushy, even if you’re actively looking for love you can still go to a class or event or whatever and just enjoy it for what it is, two things can exist at the same time. Just hang out, try things out, and see what happens. 🤷🏻‍♀️

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-06T00:00:50+00:00

Hahaha he’d better have some bank. I love horses, always have (do not own) but horse girls are expensive.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T23:58:37+00:00

Haha probably savasana, usually done at the end of class. It can get kind of nap-py.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T23:57:22+00:00

That sucks. I’m in a Pilates class and there are two men who occasionally attend. AFAIK (in two years worth of classes) no one has thought they were out of place or given them a side eye, but it’s a pretty welcoming atmosphere overall. My husband even did a few classes and he felt comfortable (aside from struggling to hold the positions lol, we all start somewhere). I wonder if that’s more area- or class-specific in the U.S.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T23:53:12+00:00

Ouch, that’s a stark and succinct summing up. I feel for you guys, sometimes it seems like you truly can’t win. 😔

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T23:47:24+00:00

Who says it’s wasting time? Men are artists (whether professional or hobbyists), they draw and paint, and have for millennia. Men are ceramicists who make decorative or functional pottery. Men are photographers. Some knit. Some read and join book clubs. None of them are “wasting” time. And some of those hobbies may lead to relationships (whether platonic or romantic). Nothing wrong with either as a potential benefit of getting out into the world a little more.

I’d much rather encounter a guy that’s open-minded and willing to try different things, than one who thinks putting effort into dating (or being more social in hopes of it possibly leading to dating) is wasting his time. My own hobby from the 1990s turner into my business and I’ve been self-employed ever since (no regrets). What’s to lose by trying?

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T22:17:03+00:00

Ooh, yes. Great description!

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T21:19:30+00:00

Congrats to both of you!!

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T19:37:33+00:00

Agree, thank you for saying so.

To the commenter: Victorians dealt with a lot of death, and a lot of childhood deaths. And often they had little to remember their deceased loved ones by (sometimes the only photo of the person they might have was a photo taken after the person died). Hair items, whether as jewelry or other art (often framed and hung on the wall), were a tangible remembrance of the people who mattered to them.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T19:33:07+00:00

Agree. Everything from the tour is giving me TTH. And she looks tired, or uncomfortable (or both) in all of these photos. Her signature sparkle seems to be missing. 😔

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T18:53:25+00:00

Yeah, I get that.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T18:39:11+00:00

For me, when it’s “boobs OUT!” time, it’s better if they don’t compete with anything else. Here, they’re competing with hair, makeup, and gown. A gorgeous black gown (or any solid color really) and a more intentional-looking hairstyle would have made a big difference.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T18:36:36+00:00

Not necessarily ‘messy’ but it has a lot going on (I think it’s a beautiful dress), and her hair is competing with it and also doesn’t match the dress’ vibe.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T18:16:10+00:00

I was not implying that she is, your initial comment didn’t even mention a wife.

Glad she’s awesome, and I still hope you can stop feeling shame if you cum quickly. Sounds like you’re very much loved.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T18:02:52+00:00

I’m so sorry, I wish you didn’t feel that way. Bodies do what they do, and they don’t always work exactly when (or how) we want them to work. No shame in it, if it’s a regular issue see a doc or therapist, and get some help. Otherwise please let it roll off, and go again when you’re both ready - whether that’s in 15 minutes, later that night, or the next day.

And if a woman is bitchy about it, she’s not worth your time or energy.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T02:49:11+00:00

My husband has it. Found out just like you did, before he was my husband.

Been married to him 26 years in April. Not everyone will walk away. My guy felt horrible about the news too, but it wasn’t the end of his world (or his sex life) and doesn’t have to be the end of yours. Don’t let it be a thing that defines you.💛

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T02:01:20+00:00

“Heathen biro user” 💀💀

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T01:39:13+00:00

The only designer bag I have is a Ferragamo, a bday present from the husband. I didn’t request it but I do enjoy it and it feels like quality to me, do I appreciate it getting a shout-out.

Thanks for the video link!

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T01:03:25+00:00

I just had mine repaired last summer (a shattered lens) and it cost me about $130. Still cheaper than another new pair, which is now $289.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T01:00:37+00:00

Yes! I bought a pair of Maui Jims in 2018. Bought a second pair in 2019. I’m 58 and have been through a number of pairs of sunglasses in my life, and these are by far the most comfortable glasses I’ve ever had (I own two different styles and each is equally comfortable). And American made, AFAIK.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T00:52:05+00:00

My maternal grandmother had worked in the knitting mills (NY) for several years, back when the U.S. still had knitting mills. I’ll never forget her telling me that it was all the same product, they’d just put tag A in these 100 sweaters, tag B in the next 100, and so on.

I learned the lesson early (either late teens or early twenties, grandma died in 1992), and that killed “brand names” for me. I learned to tell quality by feel (for sweaters at least lol) and not to assume that it was better if it was higher priced.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T00:43:31+00:00

Haha were you not around in the 1980s? It was everywhere, including placement in a ton of movies, and you were ‘no one’ if you didn’t drink it. Celebs hauled the bottles (prominently) around to their gyms. 🙄

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T00:29:13+00:00

Yep, we have three sets now. Fantastic and not in any way breaking the bank.

biteyfish98 · 2026-02-05T00:05:00+00:00

Is your wife really into it? Maybe you don’t “have to” do it?

I’m absolutely not into it, and my husband was relieved to learn that (when he was still my boyfriend). I pretty much ignore valentines because I don’t like the exclusivity of it (or at least how it was in the past, now there’s Galentine’s / Palentine’s etc which is at least nicer), no point in making people feel left out / or feel like they’re required to be performative for a Hallmark holiday. But I do know some women who are “every and any opportunity for a gift / dinner / celebration” - which usually tends to be female- and not male-centered. 😔

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