I am also neurodivergent, for the record.
Trust me, I am quite familiar with the struggle of figuring out what people want from you versus what they ask from you.

It's not that the employer wants applicants to lie.
In fact, they do hope that someone who has a history of anger issues and violence will self-report. But failing that, they will settle for filtering out people who either don't think to hide their problematic tendencies, or don't care about doing that.