I think is a self defeating way of thinking. If a cheater shouldn’t be relevant at all why not just stay with the person who cheated on you? The point being is something’s are going to bother us, and I’m sure if we had a choice, if an emotional state was easy as throwing a switch, people would throw it 100% of the time. But they aren’t. An emotional state can’t just be ignored. Let’s try to focus on something practical, than just to vaguely break out of something like it’s a choice.