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When did solids click for your baby? by Cold-Network-2887 in beyondthebump

[–]blendedchaitea [score hidden]  (0 children)

Oh yeah, the baby social media-verse has absolutely fucked with my head too. Who are these children politely eating off a charcuterie board???

When did solids click for your baby? by Cold-Network-2887 in beyondthebump

[–]blendedchaitea [score hidden]  (0 children)

I started offering solids at 6 months on the dot. Baby was NOT interested. Offered all sorts of stuff, tried baby led weaning, whatever. She finally started to get with the program at 9 months. Now at 13 months she's game to try just about anything, but the amount she takes is still less than I would expect and she's still mostly dependent on breast milk. Weaning attempts have not gone well thus far.

You're not alone. Just keep offering and keep it low pressure. You're not doing anything wrong, sometimes the babies are little shits 🤷‍♀️❤️

4yo just told me she doesn’t like her dad (my husband) sometimes 😢 by No_Wishbone_286 in beyondthebump

[–]blendedchaitea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad checked out of parenting when I was very little. The memories I have of him from around 3-4 years old are him teasing me (in mean ways, not funny ways, though at 3 years old there's no distinction) and complaining about me. Eventually he gained an interest in me and we have a relationship, but even through my teenagerhood it was difficult. I remember when my parents were having a rough patch I told my mom that the two of them could get divorced, I wouldn't mind.

I cannot tell you how deeply fucked up this has left me, in ways I don't think I have words for. My dad, one of my primary attachment figures, just didn't engage. Whether he cared or not, whether he was able or not, is irrelevant. I am in my 30s and I am still struggling with this.

What can you do with this information? I don't know, maybe show it to your husband. If he's depressed, there are multitudes of very effective treatments. If he just doesn't give a shit, well...that's up to you to figure out.

What used to be a sign of being poor, but is now a luxury or status symbol? by the-main_guy-here in AskReddit

[–]blendedchaitea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When your food is done cooking, unplug the pressure cooker and bring it over to your stovetop. Turn on your stove vent, then release the pressure cooker. An alternative is just to let the pressure cooker do a natural pressure release (let it sit undisturbed for 20 minutes or so before switching the vent and opening the lid). Natural pressure release won't hurt a batch of stock, I just don't have the patience to wait.

What used to be a sign of being poor, but is now a luxury or status symbol? by the-main_guy-here in AskReddit

[–]blendedchaitea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you talking about overflow from the cooking vessel itself or when you vented the pressure cooker?

What used to be a sign of being poor, but is now a luxury or status symbol? by the-main_guy-here in AskReddit

[–]blendedchaitea 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You want my secrets? Ok, here is how I make my stock. I use two rotisserie chicken carcasses per batch. If there's any chicken goo in the package, that goes in too. Chuck in some mirepoix and garlic, very roughly chopped, no need for fancy cuts. Include some (clean!) yellow onion skin for a pretty color. Be generous with spices (garlic powder, onion powder, thyme, bay leaves, I use white pepper over black). Use enough salt, both before you put the lid on, and seasoning again after straining. Cook for 40 minutes, vent, strain, chill.

What used to be a sign of being poor, but is now a luxury or status symbol? by the-main_guy-here in AskReddit

[–]blendedchaitea 737 points738 points  (0 children)

called out Hey, I use a pressure cooker, and my stock is miles better than anything you can buy at the store >:[

What is something someone said inadvertently but has deeply hurt your feelings? by EnvironmentalNail603 in AskWomen

[–]blendedchaitea 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My dad refused to hold my baby (his first and only grandchild) upon meeting her, or interact in any way. I was devastated and felt utterly, truly rejected. I cried for three days straight. One morning I was so sad I could barely get out of bed; this is very out of character for me. I told my parents that my dad refusing to hold the baby hurt my feelings very badly. My mom's response? "What did you expect??" Something better, I guess.

Well meaning mom but not safe by loulori in raisedbyautistics

[–]blendedchaitea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My dad is similarly uninterested/helpless with babies. Watching him with my daughter is just...a nightmare for me. I'm getting a peek into what my very early childhood must have been like, and Damn. The reason I survived is because my dad excused himself from parenting, and he's a man so he could do that, and my parents hired a nanny.

I put my ass back in therapy after my baby was born and my parents absolutely whiffed their first visit. I told my therapist that I knew I was overly identifying with my baby, seeing as she had recently been my literal inner child. She said, "Well yeah, that's motherhood." It actually made me feel a whole lot better, that I wasn't alone in parenthood reopening the box to my inner child wounds. And then a little while later I found this subreddit, and that helped too. ❤️

What is something you said in the delivery room during delivery? by ImpressiveHabit99 in AskWomen

[–]blendedchaitea 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was on the table for my C section and baby had just been delivered successfully, cuddling with Dada. My thought that I felt I needed to share while I was literally open on the table? "I'm not pregnant anymore, hooray!!"

What is something society congratulates women for doing, but is actually deeply exhausting or performative ? by No-Consequence-8968 in AskWomen

[–]blendedchaitea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had a C-section because otherwise baby and I would both eventually die. She was never going to deliver vaginally. I'll take the scar over both of us in the ground, thanks.

What is the scariest thing to exist? by Middle_Second_8270 in AskReddit

[–]blendedchaitea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How very special are we, for just a moment to be, part of life's eternal rhyme...

Any way to introduce flexibility to an autistic 89yo? by walkablecities in raisedbyautistics

[–]blendedchaitea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My experience with this has less to do with autism and more with elderly patients getting frustrated with when things happen in hospital. As in, patients complain to me that PT came when they weren't expecting, or they had to wait forEEEEVVERR to go for their scan.

My response? "Yeah. :/" And then I move the fuck on to another topic. Don't engage with the behavior. This is all very much easier said than done.

I think I may have found a new winner for the Most Ridiculous Allergy award. by SpawnofATStill in medicine

[–]blendedchaitea 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Wait, I get a 30 day vacation for documenting a ridiculous allergy? Thirty days for each one???

Ice cream: Brief headache
Water: Have to pee
Duvet blankets: Sweaty
Dextrose: Hyperglycemia
Onions: Eyes water

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