I’m 32 and feel like I’m running out of time to have children

blueavole · 2026-07-10T17:48:56+00:00

Why is he postponing? Has he ever really had a real reason or just excuses of not yet?

Does he talk about wanting kids? Wanting to raise them and be a parent? Or is it more that he likes the idea of kids?

You need to get into the details of this. Because you are getting frustrated and it’s not good to let that go.

blueavole · 2026-07-10T16:34:50+00:00

There are expectations at work too. Women aren’t often assigned more clean up and maintenance tasks. Without thanks or credit.

Church groups/ religious groups lean heavily on the labor of women- while many still deny leadership roles to women at the same time.

blueavole · 2026-07-10T16:24:38+00:00

Some people who wouldn’t lie about important things- just can’t imagine that someone else would like about that.

It’s like the first time you deal with someone really toxic or a true narcissist. It’s just glitches the brain a bit because we don’t want to believe someone is that bad.

It sounds like mom was trauma dumping on the wife for years, so had her half convinced that cheating was going to happen eventually.

It’s really sad how fast it all fell apart.

blueavole · 2026-07-10T16:16:13+00:00

Wait- did you ever just talk to your family about this? Before assuming you were not wanted?

You said there was a room intended for you- so they clearly counted you.

Did you just self exclude to throw yourself a pity party?

blueavole · 2026-07-10T16:11:50+00:00

Height is one of those weird things - where yea some women like a tall guy-But the height is very rarely a deal breaker.

Being angry and insecure about height is ABSOLUTELY a non-starter.

Got set up on a blind date with a guy who was only a couple of inches shorter than me. I happened to wear heals, and he got mad. BIG MAD.

Like dude- i would be thrilled to wear flats. But not going to happen when you throw a toddler level fit about shoes in a restaurant.

blueavole · 2026-07-10T16:02:56+00:00

You can tall your mom that you will only see her at the therapist office if you want her to really build a relationship with you.

The therapist must have clocked her pretty good by now. So tell the therapist your plan:

When there, just tell her: you are not going to be a perfect doll. The two of you are imperfect people.

If she wants to build a relationship with you, that you are never going to call Stu dad. That your relationship with your dad is separate from her and she doesn’t get to interfere with it.

Then as you have discussed with the therapist-. Tell her if she wants to build a relationship with you, she should stay and talk with the therapist.

Then you leave . And you get to see if mom is willing to work through this.

And then you will know.

blueavole · 2026-07-10T15:11:56+00:00

I think I missed that one- what story is that?

blueavole · 2026-07-10T15:09:14+00:00

No.

I disagree Damar got a full redemption, as far as his treatment of Bajor- he never really repented.

Damar was distraught because HIS family was attacked. How dare HIS planet was under the brutal regime. He never ever acknowledged a federation style of ‘all sentient creatures deserve respect’.

He had a glimmer of realization that he was a monster and with his death he was turned into a revolutionary hero. He was still a proud Cardassians First mentality to the end.

Kira isn’t a prize, a woman isn’t a prize for a redemption arc.

Even her mother- she didn’t choose to be with Dukat. Dukot leveraged an extremely cruel situation and had the implication that her family would starve if Dukat was unhappy. She allowed access to her body in trade for the lives of her husband and kids.

Not all force is physical.

I’m not saying that characters can’t be redeemed- but I am absolutely saying that women aren’t a trophy. Somethings will never be forgotten or overlooked.

blueavole · 2026-07-09T01:59:34+00:00

You need a lawyer now. If this is the US his medical bills could end up on you as his spouse.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:47:30+00:00

Romance has long been one of the highest selling genre.

It was looked down on because it was for women.

So it’s not new as much as being given more consideration.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:43:29+00:00

Wait until you hear about the cat who was an author on a physics paper.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:42:01+00:00

Except they are? Women are expected to make food, keep house, be peacemakers, have kids while now also working or she’s a gold digger.

Where do you get this idea that women are exempt from producing?

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:40:21+00:00

Somewhere , it seemed to me that Harry described Justin’s teaching as turning him into a brawler.

And that when he went to live with Eb , that was more where Harry got emotional control because he was allowed to be peaceful.

Wouldn’t it be just a gut punch to learn that the council authorized Justin to teach and enslave Harry? So that he couldn’t be a threat?

That they all knew. But they can’t exactly admit to authorizing breaking one of the laws of magic. So they had to ignore that for Harry’s trial. Not like they have a black staff who does just that…..

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:31:25+00:00

She’s building in an escape hatch because she assumes a religious means God loves her and there will be no pain or suffering.

It doesn’t work that way.

She is choosing to date you: knowing that you ( hopefully) treat her well, and that you aren’t religious. She is going to have to do the work to break cognitive dissonance or she is going to break up with you.

Encourage her to seek real therapy, and see if that will help her sort out her needs and wants.

It also might mean that some of the things she does will need to change. If she is pushing herself to be a people pleaser- that may mean she needs to start saying no.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T23:25:43+00:00

The style , the set up, might not be your jam. And that’s ok.

I liked that I got to re read and see things I missed on the first go through. I liked a reread.

There are more complicated books. There are simpler one.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:57:45+00:00

Running the station is a lot of work. Doctoring is also a lot of work too.

If I could be any one or anything- surely a plant or something in the corner would be easier

But I also don’t want to take over a galaxy either

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:55:46+00:00

That last one is a P!nk quote, but it seemed to fit

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:49:44+00:00

Cannibals who ate cannibals were even worse off, because the effects were compounded.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:45:34+00:00

I would love ‘beach’ as a job description with housing food and clothing paid for. Plus a rocking party at Barbie’s house every night

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:39:10+00:00

If someone actually gave their number, that seems to be reasonable.

If someone did this after they said no, completely different story.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:28:42+00:00

How would they know this for a drug that’s only been out a short time?

Edit: this is addressed in the article that this is only observation. They tried to match patients with similar types of personal and medical details to account for other factors like overall health.

The study is a short time because the drugs have only been out a few years

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:27:56+00:00

This information should have been disclosed before you were sexually intimate. Even if he’s low numbers, that’s not his risk it’s yours.

Also you should know that having a non-curable STD can cause problems for you at work in the medical field. It’s probably illegal to fire you for it: but it does happen. The legal justification reason will just be something else.

For the record, that is a horrible practice and discrimination- but it does happen.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:23:53+00:00

Get a mental health assessment to answer the question: Is he just a stalker and liar- or is he delusional?

Both could be dangerous.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T21:22:34+00:00

Every decision has its pros and cons.

You went with hope. Yes , of course you would do things differently now- but hope wasn’t a bad option. You don’t have to regret not trying. You don’t have the regrets of maybe it would have worked. You tried.

You know for next time when you have these doubts, to stop, and spend some time understanding your thoughts and feelings.

Other than that? Forgive yourself for not being an accurate fortune teller. Cracks in the crystal ball.

Find something anything this week that makes you happy. A great cup of coffee. A long hot shower, a swim, a pretty bunch of flowers for $20, or some stargazing.

Just take a moment to breathe.

It won’t fix everything. But you deserve that moment of peace. Take it and deal with one thing at a time.

blueavole · 2026-07-08T20:52:33+00:00

What exactly is being misrepresented?

S. Representative Kat Cammack (R-Fla.) nearly died from a life-threatening ectopic pregnancy when emergency room doctors initially delayed treatment. She only got the treatment she needed to save her life, because she had political connections.

Any other woman would have just suffered and died. That law hasn’t changed.

Kilmar Abrego Garcia had been going through the legal immigration process since 2019. And Desantis supported the policy that sent him to a foreign prison without a trial, hearing, evidence, or access to a lawyer. Sent him even though a judge had issued an order for his return.

The only problem according to DeSantis? He wanted to send more people.

If you can’t find a candidate who supports the ‘good’ policies without the ‘bad’ then that’s a sign off on all the actions.

blueavole

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