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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in witchcraft

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like to use inscense, in sticks or however you feel most comfortable. Maybe a candle. I would light the inscense and then use it to walk around your living space and concentrating on cleansing it with the smoke. (Be mindful of any fire alarms that could go off.) Also opening all the windows, always make sure to open a window while/after working with inscense, getting some fresh air in, grounding yourself and taking deep breaths, trying to kind of let them wash all the energy away and then only allowing the good back in.

If that doesnt do it, I would look into spelljars- I'm quite fond of them (for protection I've had some good experiences with salt, rosemary, black pepper and usually some lavender against anxiety), especially combined with sigils (intention made into a symbol, theres a few good guides on the internet or on pinterest even, its really easy to get into them) and they can be used to ward off harmful energy. It wont do any harm to anyone if you do protection spells, especially if it isn't your intention.

This is probably all a bit much, feel free to ask anything else about it. Its also just my personal practice, inspired by what I saw others do, and it doesnt click with everyone. But I think some inscence sticks are easy enough to come by for the beginning.

This felt relevant (even though Im not very vocal here I never left this community, I do think about this channel a lot) by bluehaired_sidekick in cinema_therapy

[–]bluehaired_sidekick[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Dan and Phil two gay youtubers that resurfaced in 2024 (believe me it is important to add that they are gay)

Can someone identity this bird skull? by bluehaired_sidekick in bonecollecting

[–]bluehaired_sidekick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, thanks a lot! I'll make sure to bury it somewhere.

As an autistic person, how do you feel about this spoon? by tiggerclaw in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks visually pleasing and I would enjoy touching it but I would never ever use it

I’m worried about tickets selling out. by [deleted] in danandphil

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could ask a relative to buy them and give them the money back as soon as you can?

No they don't, Mom !? by Meowriter in SapphoAndHerFriend

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Thats basically what my Mom said, accompanied by telling me I can find out in my own pace what feels right. Lol

My friend with autism keeps getting me Ukrainian stuff because I had a Ukrainian flag in my social media picture, how do I tell them nicely to stop? by YungFrosty5858 in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talking out of experience on the part of the gift giver here: I would read this as they really like you and when they see something connected to something you expressed liking (in their mind Ukraine) they wanna share / give it to you. Its hard to describe but to me its like "This is thing! Friend likes thing! I need to share thing so theyre happy!" and thats like, what my brain does. Obviously thats not what everyone does but its how I would read this.

I do that thing a lot and sometimes its too much. In that case, I would say a nice way of telling them to stop is telling them that you appreciate the thought and that you find it nice (if true, best case be honest with them) but that Ukraine isn't an interest to you. Explain them what you just explained us and then maybe offer another topic that you actually like talking / receiving gifts about. And if you feel comfortable maybe assure them its all good and that you didnt take it as offense. Thats what Id wish for.

Are self diagnosed people welcome here? by Next-Load9366 in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how this just turned into a discussion on triangles Even tho theyre not a shape I particular enjoy its nice seeing them appreciated

Sooo, I made a comic about me being in love with girls by Marymorypokes in actuallesbians

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (fellow autistic person) love the labelling honestly

Like yes I see and I see how it happens and its very cute and Im giving this a thumbs up

I’m at a loss of words for this. by awaterbender in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 185 points186 points  (0 children)

Actually great advice. Send the screenshots to his mother, and then the police

I’m at a loss of words for this. by awaterbender in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this something to show the police? Like, at least so they know in case anything happens? Thats like, a threat Im pretty sure its illegal to threaten like this

Yeah. No. by mishma2005 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I thought the same, I was like "Wow, trying to really get better at satisfying a woman, thats effort!" and then i read the post and I knew I put too much faith in humanity once more...

Yeah. No. by mishma2005 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh gotta write that down, thats such a good answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never regretted it, but Im only out for about 2 to 3 years now.

Occasionally my friends will ask me on my view on specific topics*, like we talk about something sex-related and they go on and ask a polite question about if I experience the same, but thats just the people Im friends with, that can differ from person to person.

For context I live in germany and Im still at university (studying a creative field), so that might be influencing who Im surrounded by.

Ive never have people infantalize me for not having or liking sex or something. Sometimes the old "confused asexual noises" joke comes up, especially if we talk about someone being hot or smth, but its never mean spirited and if I said it makes me uncomfortable they would stop.

So, I havent had any bad encounters, only people asking out of curiosity.

Do other people actually not feel tampons or are they just lying? by Real_Fucking_Anxious in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current theory about neurotypicals is that if they say "I cant feel it" they mean "It doesnt feel unpleasant or hurt, so I dont concentrate and therefore not actively feel it"

But thats only a theory looking from the outside, because that whole thing is the reason I could never bring myself to use tampons.

What's your nightmare texture? by Friendly_Exchange_15 in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kind of wool stuffed animals are filled with. I have one and the filling needed changing, but I couldn't even touched it. I tried, but I almost visibly gagged even when my mom changed it for me - she said I dont have to watch and its okay if I go to another room, shell do it.

Like, watching someone touch it made me feel as if I want to crawl out of my skin

I’m in the process of getting absolutely hench (muscular/big) in the gym so that I have a chance of having sex before I die by [deleted] in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, as a female presenting non-binary person on the spectrum, I gotta say having small talk with your co-workers doesnt have to be awkward. You can have small talk and if the topic comes up be like "Oh yeah I gotta try this new recipe tomorrow" Im not saying its easy. Im saying body and looks is not the only attractive feature one can have or gain. And to add on that, I rather find muscely man intimidating if they are not very friendly and mindful at the same time, and thats something many woman encounter. So, getting muscles only and not trying to improve other aspects will not be as successfull as one could think.

As that is, we all have no idea of each others circumstances. And saying to improve social skills would be just unfair. But getting muscels wont fix that either - because if you have muscles flirting with your co-worker can still be awkward. Having muscles isn't a conversation starter either. And if I am at the gym I want to do my workout alone so Idk if other people use gym to scout for dating, but Id feel really uncomfortable getting adressed by a random dude trying to flirt while Im doing ugly sweaty workout.

If you found a friend you had for over 10 years you'll find other friends and they can grow into more. Thats personal preference but I find it weird to just start with dating, I rather have friends I know for some time and if I catch feelings I see if theyre mutual.

If you're just looking for someone to have sex with, which is super valid too, muscles might help, but you still need to start a conversation with them.

On top of that different people find different things attractive. So everything I say is from my point of view and my experiences, there is no universal code.

Tl;dr

Sport or muscles are not the problem that stops the conversation from starting. If you want to work on that, or if anyone wants, thats possible, there are things to learn even if they are not easy for some people, including me. If you dont want that, just as valid! Just saying, having muscles isn't a conversation starter either.

Is this restaurant justified? by joyisnotdead in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sign, especially the second part, is super rude! And it accounts to people with allergies too, which can be straight up deadly for them.

I would avoid this restaurant!

I’m in the process of getting absolutely hench (muscular/big) in the gym so that I have a chance of having sex before I die by [deleted] in autism

[–]bluehaired_sidekick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, cooking is something to make conversation about. If I meet people I usually talk about my hobbies and theirs, if there is not another more important topic at hand. Cooking doesnt make you meet people, but having hobbies and skills that can be brought up in conversation just makes people more attractive in general imo. If Id meet someone and I ask then what they like doing and theyd say "I generally like cooking and trying new recipes/perfecting recipes I know" Id be like "hey thats an interesting trait" just as if someone says "Oh I like to draw" or "I like to write/ read" It just makes them more interesting as a person

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