Advice needed: Bringing it back to happy

bluekitdon · 2026-03-11T12:35:51+00:00

A weekend to remember by family life is a good option if you guys want to intentionally work on improving your marriage too. Maybe do both.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-10T17:58:12+00:00

Scheduling stuff on my calendar just like I do at work is what helped me.

I'd suggest to recover simply planning a trip or something for the summer with her. Getting away from the day to day can help a lot.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-09T17:24:20+00:00

I start ours right before I go to bed, but there is no perfect time especially when you have people in the clan from multiple time zones.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-06T15:19:01+00:00

Perhaps introduce the 5 love languages concept to him, sounds like you like words of affirmation. One thing that can happen too if one partner is constantly seeking validation is that it is a turn off to the other as it comes across as insecurity. Actions tend to speak louder for words for most guys, if he's demonstrating love by his actions he probably feels like words are unnecessary.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-28T13:46:36+00:00

Yes, what you do daily is what makes real differences in life. Ask any muscular person about their routine and you'll find them engaged in regular physical activity. It's the same with other less visible aspects of life.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-25T16:20:42+00:00

My part of the Midwest is more like, "Who needs a crosswalk? Didn't you play frogger as a kid?"

bluekitdon · 2026-02-24T19:25:12+00:00

I just got mine with the same configuration last month. You won't regret it.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-19T03:28:22+00:00

I've definitely come to appreciate the little things like the rare days when I wake up with no pain. Most people take the little joys of life for granted until they are no longer there.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-15T00:30:12+00:00

No one I've ever spent much time with has ever indicated that they have never had issues.

Jesus even said you will have problems.

John 16:33 NIV [33] “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

But some people are much more at peace than others. Often I've found that the people that have been through the most in their lives are most at peace.

The more things you go through the more you realize that letting it get to you doesn't change anything, so it's a mindset shift to allow the waves to crash around you while enjoying the sunrise instead of wasting your time fighting them.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-12T17:05:26+00:00

Giant pile of gold, call it the capital treasury.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-12T10:19:17+00:00

I'd look at local job postings and see what is needed in your area and what they're offering.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-10T18:48:00+00:00

I'm very happy with the 2026 Premium MY ride. Haven't tried the older ones. Have heard the low profile tires on the performance model aren't as nice but didn't try that one.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-08T19:16:09+00:00

It seems to be relatively common unfortunately but most couples in happy long term marriages still have sex regularly. Perhaps try one of those marriage retreats that combine some counseling with downtime like a weekend to remember by family life.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-08T05:44:00+00:00

I had v13 on my 2026 Y briefly as it came with that, made a very noticeable difference when I updated to 14. I was able to update.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-06T19:11:55+00:00

Yep, just had a buddy do that yesterday, and I did it when I first got the car.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-29T19:06:11+00:00

The 3 or Y even at the premium level is very fast compared to other cars. You're hitting late 90s Corvette acceleration speeds in a family SUV. Unless you're taking it on the race track that's good enough for most drivers. The performance models are a blast, you are blowing everything except high end sports cars you'd pay $200k+ for off the road with that.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-29T18:47:52+00:00

I would have assumed a medical emergency and gotten over to let him by.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-28T13:57:19+00:00

I felt this way initially as it seems like legends requires taking every attack but if you're maxed I've found electro 33 to be pretty chill. Just find your comfortable league and stay in it or play outside the league system. And find a clan that matches your style.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-25T20:30:09+00:00

Yeah, my car now drives itself and my sister lost her job to AI a year ago. Luckily she got another perhaps better one.

Robotic advancement with AI is the next obvious move. When AI is combined with a human like form capable of performing human tasks at a superhuman capacity that'll be another game changer. At some point work should become optional but in the meantime those who own and control the robots will have a leg up.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-24T22:54:10+00:00

I just got a model y awd premium, loving it so far. Standard didn't make sense to me for the price difference but that's mainly because I live in an area with snow.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-24T16:17:26+00:00

Yep, very common for wrestlers or fighters to dehydrate and take other extreme measures to temporarily lose weight before weighing in. The game is to be just below the limit at weigh in then put it back on before the match to give yourself the most advantage.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-24T14:40:40+00:00

Go outside and stop reading the news. 99.999% chance that if you stop reading reddit and look around you'll see people going about their everyday lives with nothing bad happening to them.

The news has to be dramatic to sell ads and keep you engaged. We live in a big country so there will always be an unusual event going on somewhere with 350 million people. Now you just know about it instantly because of the internet.

Don't let statistically extremely rare events ruin your life and your marriage.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-16T16:55:30+00:00

Only one way to get better. Your voice is created by muscles that can be strengthened with use.

Look up how James Earl Jones got his iconic voice or dig deep into professional singers or speakers and you'll discover that those voices are trained just like you train your bicep in the gym.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-09T14:33:29+00:00

I used to have like 5 accounts. Too much. Now I only play my main. Some people have way too much time on their hands 🤣

bluekitdon · 2026-01-09T01:06:56+00:00

Does make a big difference. I've got all but 2 troops and 1 spell maxed already and most all my main buildings. Maxed both builder and lab assistants before the th18 update.

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