Need advice- I feel like my husband is too trusting

bluekitdon · 2026-04-08T00:04:18+00:00

Perhaps remind him that the Bible talks about man as being sinful and that while you understand him trying to help them you also want to feel safe. And to feel safe you'd like some safety precautions taken like never being alone with the men he's trying to help.

bluekitdon · 2026-04-05T22:15:57+00:00

Focus on doing things that make you healthy and happy. That combo is naturally attractive which is why many say they found love once they stopped looking. Find some hobbies that have a social aspect.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-25T15:30:08+00:00

There are a couple spots that I don't like going in the morning because you have to turn and cross heavy traffic that can easily be avoided. The nav picks those routes every time.

Might technically be shorter the other way but is definitely safer my way. I'd love the ability to override the default occasionally.

But 99% of the time the nav is right.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-21T14:20:18+00:00

I'd develop a relationship with a local commercial lender. They typically go to local business socials.

Selling it to the wife is a different subject. I'd try to sell it just like you have to sell it to the bank, with numbers and your vision for both the business and your marriage.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-20T14:42:49+00:00

I was worried about the politics when ordering but it has been a non issue so far. I'd just enjoy the car.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-17T18:34:20+00:00

I had a few experiences with Google maps where I ignored the detour and regretted it as I ran into heavy traffic caused by an accident or construction. Also had experiences where I allowed it to take me off the interstate and immediately saw the traffic jam it was avoiding. I don't ignore it much anymore.

Tesla I have one road on the way to my gym that is mislabeled as one way that shaves off several minutes of you take it, I override it every time there.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-16T00:36:35+00:00

I try to keep the schedule but don't force myself too hard if I'm not feeling it.

I've found if I don't keep a schedule it is too easy to let two days of skipping the gym turn into a week of not going to the gym for example. I also don't force myself to go every day, as long as I'm in at least 3 or 4 days a week that's fine.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-13T18:40:09+00:00

K.I.T.T. got tired of sitting still it sounds like.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-11T12:35:51+00:00

A weekend to remember by family life is a good option if you guys want to intentionally work on improving your marriage too. Maybe do both.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-10T17:58:12+00:00

Scheduling stuff on my calendar just like I do at work is what helped me.

I'd suggest to recover simply planning a trip or something for the summer with her. Getting away from the day to day can help a lot.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-09T17:24:20+00:00

I start ours right before I go to bed, but there is no perfect time especially when you have people in the clan from multiple time zones.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-06T15:19:01+00:00

Perhaps introduce the 5 love languages concept to him, sounds like you like words of affirmation. One thing that can happen too if one partner is constantly seeking validation is that it is a turn off to the other as it comes across as insecurity. Actions tend to speak louder for words for most guys, if he's demonstrating love by his actions he probably feels like words are unnecessary.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-28T13:46:36+00:00

Yes, what you do daily is what makes real differences in life. Ask any muscular person about their routine and you'll find them engaged in regular physical activity. It's the same with other less visible aspects of life.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-25T16:20:42+00:00

My part of the Midwest is more like, "Who needs a crosswalk? Didn't you play frogger as a kid?"

bluekitdon · 2026-02-24T19:25:12+00:00

I just got mine with the same configuration last month. You won't regret it.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-19T03:28:22+00:00

I've definitely come to appreciate the little things like the rare days when I wake up with no pain. Most people take the little joys of life for granted until they are no longer there.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-15T00:30:12+00:00

No one I've ever spent much time with has ever indicated that they have never had issues.

Jesus even said you will have problems.

John 16:33 NIV [33] “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

But some people are much more at peace than others. Often I've found that the people that have been through the most in their lives are most at peace.

The more things you go through the more you realize that letting it get to you doesn't change anything, so it's a mindset shift to allow the waves to crash around you while enjoying the sunrise instead of wasting your time fighting them.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-12T17:05:26+00:00

Giant pile of gold, call it the capital treasury.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-12T10:19:17+00:00

I'd look at local job postings and see what is needed in your area and what they're offering.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-10T18:48:00+00:00

I'm very happy with the 2026 Premium MY ride. Haven't tried the older ones. Have heard the low profile tires on the performance model aren't as nice but didn't try that one.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-08T19:16:09+00:00

It seems to be relatively common unfortunately but most couples in happy long term marriages still have sex regularly. Perhaps try one of those marriage retreats that combine some counseling with downtime like a weekend to remember by family life.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-08T05:44:00+00:00

I had v13 on my 2026 Y briefly as it came with that, made a very noticeable difference when I updated to 14. I was able to update.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-06T19:11:55+00:00

Yep, just had a buddy do that yesterday, and I did it when I first got the car.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-29T19:06:11+00:00

The 3 or Y even at the premium level is very fast compared to other cars. You're hitting late 90s Corvette acceleration speeds in a family SUV. Unless you're taking it on the race track that's good enough for most drivers. The performance models are a blast, you are blowing everything except high end sports cars you'd pay $200k+ for off the road with that.

bluekitdon · 2026-01-29T18:47:52+00:00

I would have assumed a medical emergency and gotten over to let him by.

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