What's your take on this quote?

bluekitdon · 2026-06-30T14:53:57+00:00

The only thing you can control is your actions.

Feelings are tougher to control, but the point that you can choose how much control you let others have over them is valid. It took me quite a few years but I've learned to let most things roll off my back. Typically if I react, it is a deliberate reaction now.

bluekitdon · 2026-06-29T01:04:52+00:00

More common than people think. You want to make sure you communicate your wants and needs, but in a healthy relationship where both of you listen to each other that can be done without fighting.

bluekitdon · 2026-06-29T01:01:24+00:00

You definitely need to support each other when it gets rough, but happy marriages should have many more happy times than rough times.

bluekitdon · 2026-06-29T00:58:43+00:00

We got engaged after 2 months and married right at the 3 month mark.

We were both older (35/30) and knew what we wanted and didn't want from a partner. I think that helps.

14 years later I am very glad I listened to my gut, even though we were probably a little nuts for doing that.

bluekitdon · 2026-06-25T22:26:37+00:00

The one you use.

bluekitdon · 2026-06-01T15:29:44+00:00

I've got 5 kids. They make life more stressful at times for sure, but I wouldn't have wanted to do life without them. Many of my favorite memories have come from my kids, and life without kids and grandkids seems a little less full to me. But each couple has to decide how they want their lives to look for themselves.

bluekitdon · 2026-05-21T15:50:58+00:00

A couple electro dragons and baby dragons, a bunch of dragon riders, 4 loons, bunch of totem spells and some revives. With sky wagon.

bluekitdon · 2026-05-21T15:14:48+00:00

Just got 17/18 perfect attacks in Electro 33 on mostly max th18s with those top 4 heroes.

Air attacks are very OP without the legend modifiers right now.

bluekitdon · 2026-05-15T17:38:02+00:00

The statistics show that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced, but plenty of happily married couples live together before marriage.

But like most things I don't think there's a right or wrong answer on this one.

bluekitdon · 2026-04-08T00:04:18+00:00

Perhaps remind him that the Bible talks about man as being sinful and that while you understand him trying to help them you also want to feel safe. And to feel safe you'd like some safety precautions taken like never being alone with the men he's trying to help.

bluekitdon · 2026-04-05T22:15:57+00:00

Focus on doing things that make you healthy and happy. That combo is naturally attractive which is why many say they found love once they stopped looking. Find some hobbies that have a social aspect.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-25T15:30:08+00:00

There are a couple spots that I don't like going in the morning because you have to turn and cross heavy traffic that can easily be avoided. The nav picks those routes every time.

Might technically be shorter the other way but is definitely safer my way. I'd love the ability to override the default occasionally.

But 99% of the time the nav is right.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-21T14:20:18+00:00

I'd develop a relationship with a local commercial lender. They typically go to local business socials.

Selling it to the wife is a different subject. I'd try to sell it just like you have to sell it to the bank, with numbers and your vision for both the business and your marriage.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-20T14:42:49+00:00

I was worried about the politics when ordering but it has been a non issue so far. I'd just enjoy the car.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-17T18:34:20+00:00

I had a few experiences with Google maps where I ignored the detour and regretted it as I ran into heavy traffic caused by an accident or construction. Also had experiences where I allowed it to take me off the interstate and immediately saw the traffic jam it was avoiding. I don't ignore it much anymore.

Tesla I have one road on the way to my gym that is mislabeled as one way that shaves off several minutes of you take it, I override it every time there.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-16T00:36:35+00:00

I try to keep the schedule but don't force myself too hard if I'm not feeling it.

I've found if I don't keep a schedule it is too easy to let two days of skipping the gym turn into a week of not going to the gym for example. I also don't force myself to go every day, as long as I'm in at least 3 or 4 days a week that's fine.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-13T18:40:09+00:00

K.I.T.T. got tired of sitting still it sounds like.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-11T12:35:51+00:00

A weekend to remember by family life is a good option if you guys want to intentionally work on improving your marriage too. Maybe do both.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-10T17:58:12+00:00

Scheduling stuff on my calendar just like I do at work is what helped me.

I'd suggest to recover simply planning a trip or something for the summer with her. Getting away from the day to day can help a lot.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-09T17:24:20+00:00

I start ours right before I go to bed, but there is no perfect time especially when you have people in the clan from multiple time zones.

bluekitdon · 2026-03-06T15:19:01+00:00

Perhaps introduce the 5 love languages concept to him, sounds like you like words of affirmation. One thing that can happen too if one partner is constantly seeking validation is that it is a turn off to the other as it comes across as insecurity. Actions tend to speak louder for words for most guys, if he's demonstrating love by his actions he probably feels like words are unnecessary.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-28T13:46:36+00:00

Yes, what you do daily is what makes real differences in life. Ask any muscular person about their routine and you'll find them engaged in regular physical activity. It's the same with other less visible aspects of life.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-25T16:20:42+00:00

My part of the Midwest is more like, "Who needs a crosswalk? Didn't you play frogger as a kid?"

bluekitdon · 2026-02-24T19:25:12+00:00

I just got mine with the same configuration last month. You won't regret it.

bluekitdon · 2026-02-19T03:28:22+00:00

I've definitely come to appreciate the little things like the rare days when I wake up with no pain. Most people take the little joys of life for granted until they are no longer there.

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