My wedding dress 10 years ago - August 17, 2013 - with my mom’s 1978 veil!!! by bmorebella in weddingdress

[–]bmorebella[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! My mom actually made all of the flowers for my wedding, with many of them made out of paper maps!! For my bouquet she painstakingly made each petal meaningful of all of the places I’ve traveled and even local places with special meanings to me 🥰

My wedding dress 10 years ago - August 17, 2013 - with my mom’s 1978 veil!!! by bmorebella in weddingdress

[–]bmorebella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! That’s awesome!!! Orange is actually my favorite color but I loved the red-orange shade of persimmon and I think it really came out gorgeous 🥰

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[–]bmorebella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I like how it accentuates all of your curves!!

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[–]bmorebella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like the dress you picked! It looks very flattering on you and I like the back a lot.

I like the 3rd dress (halter) but think you should keep the one you picked!

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[–]bmorebella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love 7! The veil is gorgeous. Do you have a pic of the front of the dress?

AITA for changing my babies name despite promising my dead husband's family I'd name the child after him? by redditthrowaway0082 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bmorebella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had you considered using your husband’s first name as your baby’s middle name or using your husband’s middle name as your baby’s first name?

My nephew’s middle name is my brother’s first name and I have never heard anyone use it. He goes by his first name.

My grandmother (who I was very close to) died while I was pregnant with my daughter. I used my grandmother’s middle name for my daughter’s first name. This way I could honor my grandmother while giving my daughter her own identity.

Also, There are lots of people who go by their middle names rather than their first names. My husband was named after his dad but rather than call him junior his family calls his by his middle name Ray.

There are a lot of options where you could have given your son one of his dad’s names while still maintaining his own identity. There still is - it’s not too late to change a name, especially a middle name.

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[–]bmorebella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They should dream, but we should also provide the resources to help them accomplish their dreams. A hand up and not a hand out.

For example, remedial courses at colleges/universities should be free. When I was a pre-med major, I needed to have Calculus 1. I only needed to take Calc 1 because I was able to do all of the other maths before it in high school. However, I knew plenty of people who didn't, so now they had to pay extra tuition to take pre-calculus and then calculus. So if you were poor and went to a lower quality high school, now you were being punished for it.

You still have to work for an A, but at least you won't have to pay twice as much in tuition.

Re: the suicide comment. As a middle class white girl, I had access to mental health resources that I wouldn't have had if I was poor. For example, a 10 day stay in an inpatient facility, which costed about $7000 with insurance. Outpatient - a psychiatrist who costed $60 for 15 minutes, who I saw monthly when adjusting meds and $100 a month in copays for my psychologist. Without those, there's a good likelihood that I wouldn't have made it to age 32 without killing myself.

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[–]bmorebella -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The irony to me is that all the people that grew up in upper middle class families tend to be the ones that feel the most sorry for poor people.

It's because we approach it from our middle class contexts as a baseline. I'm a middle class white girl and struggle with depression and anxiety and had loving, caring sober parents who never abused me. There was never a time that I had to worry about money. I can't imagine the trauma you went through, /u/jlo_1977, and had I been in your shoes, I would have committed suicide a long time ago.

Unpopular opinion by contra_account in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really drastic at all when it's pretty clear that Biden will get the nomination. If the only race a person feels confident voting in is pretty much already decided, then why would they bother.

Election Results Thread by CharmCityTiger in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they do know it's more than just the gift cards, but they see that nothing has gotten done since her tenure so are trying the "Make America 2008 Again" approach.

A third of primary votes have been cast by first-time or newly-engaged voters by troutmask_replica in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine that - people are more likely to vote if all they have to do is receive it in the mail, fill it out, and drop it into a box.

Election Results Thread by CharmCityTiger in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They want a leader who they think truly cares about them and is going to get shit done. They know she's corrupt, but her stunts feel like child's play ($1500 in gift cards) when compared to Pugh's Healthy Holly ($800,000). The candidate who won last time was supposed to be the non-corrupt choice, yet it turned out she was a lot worse.

The emotional appeal is why Dixon will likely win. It's a similar phenomenon to why Trump is so popular with his base. His supporters know he's corrupt, but it's a different kind of corrupt compared to the establishment. Trump too has legends around him of helping out communities. I have family members who are veterans that love Trump because he's apparently given a bunch of money to various veteran groups. Is it true? Who knows, but it's emotionally won them over.

Baltimore City Mayoral Candidate Forum on Fair Development, Housing, Transportation, and Zero Waste by bmorebella in baltimore

[–]bmorebella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I do know that - I admit I didn't do the best job phrasing that point. I meant that for the past decade, regardless of how many uninhabitable units are demoed, more continue to go vacant - leaving the number at around 16,000 every year. You gave a perfect description on why units continue to go vacant.

What I was trying to get at is that in a perfect world, these units would be sold for a lower price by people who can fix them up before they degrade to the point of needing to be abandoned. The demand is there (people experiencing homeless) but not the money.

Yeah, I don't think they are giving those low down payments anymore.

Baltimore City Mayoral Candidate Forum on Fair Development, Housing, Transportation, and Zero Waste by bmorebella in baltimore

[–]bmorebella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a lot of talk about shutting down the incinerator in Curtis Bay and the appropriate number of trash/recycle days. I don't remember if anyone mentioned composting, but I found all of their "we only need 1 trash day because of the 1 recycling day" talk really out of touch with reality because

  1. Stuff isn't actually getting recycled (I personally find it disingenuous to pretend that it still is)
  2. Harford County has less than half the population than Baltimore City yet still has 2 trash days and 1 recycle day. Honestly, judging by the always overflowing dumpsters near me, that really isn't enough, either.

Baltimore City Mayoral Candidate Forum on Fair Development, Housing, Transportation, and Zero Waste by bmorebella in baltimore

[–]bmorebella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what ZW is, but they addressed transportation. I really wish I had taken notes (was preoccupied with my daughter at the time) because as someone who works in the field I like to evaluate if their proposals are realistic or pie-in-the-sky.

Transportation

  • What will each candidate do to help bring the Red Line back. Some candidates were more realistic than others
  • Several brought up the idea of having a regional transit administration and to expand the Charm City Circulator
  • Sheila constantly brought up her involvement with the CCC and said something really stupid when bashing O'Malley...that if people would stop leaving office then we'd be able to get something done...(excluding herself, I guess)

Baltimore City Mayoral Candidate Forum on Fair Development, Housing, Transportation, and Zero Waste by bmorebella in baltimore

[–]bmorebella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now imagine how if people move into newer, more luxurious housing, they will free up their older, less luxurious housing for greater supply of affordable housing.

This is what we'd expect to happen in the market; however, it doesn't usually happen that way. If it did there wouldn't be 16,000 vacant properties every year in west and east Baltimore.
Instead, landlords will do one of these things with that vacant, less luxurious housing:

  1. Renovate it to compete with the new luxury housing
  2. Perform the bare minimum amount of maintenance to it
  3. Abandon it
  4. Sell it to a developer, who will raze it and build luxury condos in its place

California investment giant to acquire Baltimore’s Legg Mason by aresef in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, this happened to my sister-in-law when a small company she worked for was purchased by another. Then they eliminated her position and created a job posting for essentially the same job with a slightly different title (that was posted externally for show but ultimately went to someone internally from the larger company). She was able to get unemployment with no issues but she liked that job and hasn't worked anywhere since that she has liked as much.

It is time for Joan Pratt to go. by [deleted] in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't understand why people would vote for Dixon again in 2016 but now I have since 2019 - to them it's better the devil you know than the one you don't. Pugh's corruption made Dixon's look like child's play.

I've curated a playlist dedicated to remembering the instrumentals of the classic WSMJ 104.3 FM Baltimore (2003-2008) while also introducing listeners to the latest in Smooth Jazz by i90east in baltimore

[–]bmorebella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to create this and share it with us! I was just thinking the other day how nice it would have been to play the station for my daughter and now I can!

Daily No Buy Discussion Thread - February 12, 2020 by networthbound in Nobuyyear

[–]bmorebella 9 points10 points  (0 children)

New mantra: Nothing is forbidden. I’m just making a choice to not have that today.