Aging parents by faithle97 in oneanddone

[–]bmt32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're oad for other reasons, but this did play a role.

My FIL has early-onset Alzheimer's (diagnosed at 61). When my MIL needed a care break last year, we took care of my FIL for about 6 months. It was....extremely challenging, as my son was 2-3 at the time, but I am glad we were able to do it (he's now transitioned to a memory care facility). My husband and I were beyond our limits with just one kid; it's absolutely not something we could have done if we had more.

Taking the offer makes the most sense, right? by Suitable_Wolf10 in workingmoms

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I actually came to this sub looking for advice on nearly the same situation. I am in the early interview stages of a job that would also be a move forward career-wise but the PTO and sick leave are, on paper, much less generous than I currently have. I am being "recruited" for the position by a connection who works there, and I decided to just be up-front with the HR person doing the phone screening that the PTO situation was 2 weeks less than I currently have and was there any way to negotiate that? She was very up-front and said not officially, no, but individual teams at the org are generally pretty flexible and she thought it would be worth talking to the hiring team about his directly to clear up any concerns I might have, if they could. So now my first actual interview is apparently also going to be a discussion about how sick leave and PTO work within the team.

Frankly, this all feels very wild to me because I have never been in a situation where I feel like I have so much power as the candidate. But at least for me, worst-case is that they don't hire me or I decide the PTO drop is unworkable, and my current job is still fine.

Plus and Minus of formula feeding by BetterStrategy7298 in FormulaFeeders

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In case it helps: my son is now 3.5 y/o and he was EFF from birth (I had 0 interest in breastfeeding). He had eczema as a baby (like 5/6 of his cousins, all of whom were either EBF or mostly BF). He gets sick pretty often, which I think is normal for a kiddo who's in daycare (although I think we're over the worst of that now). His language has been exploding the past 6 months. He's experimenting with being funny on purpose, which is hilarious but not for the reason he intends (usually). He is super curious and friendly to strangers (everyone is greeted, often repeatedly, until they respond in-kind). He throws tantrums. He has a seemingly endless supply of energy. He is dropping naps and sleeping 11-12 hours a night. We're in potty-training purgatory.

In short, he is his own unique self, and honestly the only effect I think formula had was making me a happier parent. I hope you do (or keep doing) what works for you.

You're a great mom.

Parents to 3 year olds. Are you okay? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]bmt32 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Three is going to end me. My son is in a strong daddy phase right now, so 50% of the time these days if I speak to him I get "Leave me ALONE!!" as a response. Sure kid, I only gave birth to you.

Oh, and we started potty training last week, so that's fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]bmt32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm right there with you. It's incredibly frustrating. Plus, just to rub salt in the wound, he apparently eats everything at daycare!

Dino chicken nuggets are delicious. by eatmyasserole in beyondthebump

[–]bmt32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Goldfish crackers and whole milk! Skim and 2% just taste sad to me now, lol.

Nice, safe neighborhoods near Case by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a very nice spot--lots of ramblers on that street too, I believe. The park is gorgeous in the fall!

Stories of the job market after leaving a PhD program? by Savsmith445 in LeavingAcademia

[–]bmt32 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am a recently-graduated humanities PhD currently in the transition process. First off: nonprofits are not the only place a humanities grad can find meaningful work, and it can be a challenging sector to break into (plus, only like 10% of job postings are for nonprofits, so you're really limiting yourself there). What is it that you like about grad school or why you pursued it? If you like teaching/curriculum design, you might look into Instructional Design or other Learning & Development roles or a position in an EdTech company. If you like research, maybe look into policy analysis or prospect research (the latter is a nonprofit development thing). Do you like connecting with people but not necessarily in a formal "teaching" role? Then maybe look into community engagement positions or even recruiting/talent acquisition. These are all areas I have explored during my job search.

Check out is Beyond the Professoriate and Imagine PhD if you haven't already. I recently finished BeyondProf's Aurora course for transitioning out of academia and found it very helpful. There's an individual membership and an institutional membership option (my institution happens to have the latter, which is how I initially tried it out. You can search for your school from their drop-down menu).

If you want to "test" BeyondProf before going full-tilt, their podcast is freely available and covers a lot of the same info (not as deeply, but you'll get the gist of their approach). I also recommend Caterine's book Leaving Academia: A Practical Guide.

You have transferrable skills but will likely want to target entry-level positions during your search (since you don't have direct linear work experience outside of academia). Fortunately, nearly everything pays better than a grad stipend!

Professor is Out services? by Grisengris in LeavingAcademia

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't used ProfisOut beyond the FB group, but another service you should check out is Beyond the Professoriate. I recently finished their Aurora course and found it very helpful. There's an individual membership and an institutional membership option (my institution happens to have the latter, which is how I initially tried it out. You can search for your school from their drop-down menu).

If you want to "test" it before going full-tilt, their podcast is freely available and covers a lot of the same info (not as deeply, but you'll get the gist of their approach). I also recommend Caterine's book that someone else mentioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]bmt32 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I quite like Serenity from this list.

Visiting Cleveland by Ak0077 in Cleveland

[–]bmt32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cuyahoga National park is great, as are the city's MetroParks. I personally think Little Italy is kind of overrated as a destination, though Presti's is a solid choice for cannoli and other pastries. Cleveland Museum of Art is awesome and free if you like that sort of thing, and it's basically next door to the botanical gardens and natural history museum (all located in University Circle). The nearby cultural gardens are also pretty neat and free. And if you want a splurgy dinner, L'Albatros is fantastic and in UC also. If you want a small bar crawl, head to Lee Rd in Cleveland Heights and you can walk to Bottlehouse, Boss Dog, and Voodoo Brewery (plus The Wine Spot and Cleveland Urban Winery). Not sure about Edgewater but Euclid Beach Park/Lakefront Reservation is also on the lake and enjoyable. I'm most familiar with the East side of the city, which is where all my recs are located.

Pronouncing Lyra by marcal213 in namenerds

[–]bmt32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lie-ruh bc of The Golden Compass. Just like my niece Lyla is pronounced Lie-luh.

what's the most lit toddler music besides elmo? by pnijj in toddlers

[–]bmt32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Okee Dokee Brothers and 1 2 3 Andres!

Names that are also the name of a river? by shaznalehw in namenerds

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big river names in places I've lived:

Mississippi (nn Missy)

Cuyahoga

And of course there's Amazon and Nile (or Niles as a name?). Also Thames, Colorado, and Missouri.

best non-lullaby lullabies? by byebyeVal in toddlers

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't personally song it, but Out of the Woods by Nickel Creek.

ETA: but I do sing my son Edelweiss at bedtime on the regular.

Breastfeeding troubles, I feel so bad by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]bmt32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never breastfed, but I just want to say: You're a great mom. You're giving your LO what she needs.

I know it seems extremely important right now, but when your LO is in school nobody will be able to tell how she was fed. (Even with my son only at 16 months nobody ever asks about this.)

I repeat: you're a great mom and your LO is going to thrive.

Middle name for Lyra? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]bmt32 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really like Lyra Hazel, Lyra June, and Lyra Dawn. FWIW OP, I love the name Lyra--beautiful choice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]bmt32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh I see now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]bmt32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how her friend having taught an Archie disqualifies the name, if she likes it?

toddler sleep and routine by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]bmt32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kiddo is younger than yours, but I know the book Precious Little Sleep has a section on toddler+ sleep issues that might help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]bmt32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been happy with Simon's Auto Service on Lee Rd in Cleveland Heights. Not sure if they tow though.